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My mother is a product of teen pregnancy, I am a product of teen pregnancy, my daughter is a product of teen pregnancy. By age 19, I was mother to two children. By age 22 I returned to education and began exploring the world and found that it was a very dark place that needed help. I began to develop a passion to become involved and lend my life to bringing down the patriarchy present in our world. I found that I could not be a present mother and be as involved as I desired to be. I went through a process of anger, resentment, and bitterness for my place in the world and the realization of my own oppression as a child born to a teen mother who lacked the skill to guide me in any other direction than teen pregnancy. I began questioning the systems of oppression in my family lineage that leads to teen pregnancy. I wanted to understand why every female in my family had been a product of teen pregnancy and then gave their power away by becoming teen mothers themselves. I wanted to understand it so I could prevent it from happening to my own daughter. I wanted to make sure that I wasn't passing on the virus to her. I believe that women have the ability to see the world through a humanistic view and are not motivated by profit. Our actions are motivated by the desire to create a better world. If we are going to be able to bring down the patriarchy of our world, we need to be free and unburdened by children so we can give our lives, our voice, or energy to our work. We cannot be on the front lines if we are changing diapers and cooking dinner. We must free ourselves from domestic imprisonment if the world is to get the help from the warriors it needs.
Young girls need to be exposed to the concept that being born a female does imply motherhood. They need to be told of the injustices in the world and of the power they hold to take a stand against it and deconstruct the systems of oppression.
I am not implying that the raising of the next generation is not a vital role in changing the world. As a mother I am presented every day with the the opportunity to raise a man who will bring compassion and kindness to the women who love him. Every day I have the opportunity to help my own daughter build the skills to confront and dismantle oppression. This IS changing the world. I am however arguing that there is a time and a place in a woman's life for motherhood, and that time and place should be an informed decision that every woman makes for herself.