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Man kills wife for want of sex # VAW

Vellore, T.N - A milk vendor strangles his wife to death following a tiff over sex and surrenders himself in the nearby police station. The couple have been going through a unhappy relationship, following this the wife had moved to her parents house. After she started working a private firm, the man develops suspicion that she could be having illicit affair. So he often goes to her house and fights. Later the parents mediate and leave the girl with the husband.

The indifference mounts again and hence the husband decides to leave the wife with her parents. He takes her through a mountainous pathway. On the way he feels seduced and demands wife to have sex with him. She refuses. The man gets wild and strangles her to death, surrenders himself in the nearest police station.

We may identify two chauvinistic ideological influence here one is the male power demanding sex from wife irrespective of her interest, 2nd thing is that the man relates the disinterest with extra-marital affair. This is a typical example of influence of 'manliness' and what it does to Man, woman and the society. Now both have lost their life.

http://www.dailythanthi.com/article.asp?NewsID=762315&disdate=10/3/2012

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Mukut's picture

Sad

This is the sad,but true picture of India. Thank you for bringing this incident to light and sharing with us.

Much love,

Mukut Ray

Portlandia's picture

Continue to spread the word!

Hello Kotravai!
I have only recently began reading stories like yours here at World Pulse and have found it shocking to hear the way women are treated in India.. Obviously you are a very strong and brave woman...it's women like you that will bring this information to the forefront and hopefully pave the way for positive change. I applaud you for sharing your stories and I wish for speedy healing for your country so that women may feel equal to their partners and treated with the proper respect they- and we all- deserve. Power to you! Cheers from Lynn in Portland, Oregon, USA

kotravai's picture

Thanks

Thanks Lynn, not only in India, women in all parts of the world are oppressed isn't it...but yes the violence an Indian woman faces is something more.

Kotravai
M.A.S.E.S - Movement Against Sexual Exploitation and Sexism

cassie_levy's picture

Thank you for sharing the

Thank you for sharing the realities of relationships in India. I'm sure many women in the world can relate. Your story is very thoughtful, but I would like to see more on what you (or Indian women in general) can do to change these sexually exploitative conditions. Keep up the good work!

amymorros's picture

Thank You

A very difficult story to read. Thank you for sharing. These kinds of true stories don't get the publicity they deserve and I am glad that you have brought it up here on World Pulse. Once we have raised awareness of this, we should all look for solutions so that this never happens again. Women are viewed as disposable in some societies. Changing mindsets is a hard task but one we can all work toward achieving.

Amy
@amyinstl

kotravai's picture

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Hi Cassie_levy,

Thanks for the feedback. Indian women are getting down on the roads holding protests and climbing legal institutions fighting for their rights.

Kotravai
M.A.S.E.S - Movement Against Sexual Exploitation and Sexism

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