March 31, 2014
A warm hi and a big hug to all my women crusaders out there :)I am shilpi and I wish to connect with women around the world and discuss our common issues and find resolutions collectively . I want to build a platform where we can all empower each other with our day to day sucess stories and fell joyous .My small attempt to make a difference --------
In today's world there is enough and more being written about women empowerment ,girl child education ,Women rights etc ,every company wants to jump in this new band wagon of women empowerment ,we are 49% of vote bank ,we are the Mother ,a daughter , free breakfast at McDonald for Moms so are women really empowered today ??
The answer is a big NO- the media keeps shouting from roof tops ,politicians say women are safe ,there is reservation for women in parliament .In the day to day life women are more suppressed now .Every women is trying to prove to herself that she is better than a man ,by taking up high profile jobs ,applying to MNC`s doing fancy degrees from Management institutes .We are so driven by this ambition to prove we are better ,We are competent ,We are a good Mother ,daughter ,sister ,wife !!!!!In this rat race with ourselves we are loosing our femininity ,we are loosing our loving touch ,the soft spoken lover ,the gentle mother .
What is women empowerment ,liberation ,being ourselves ?are we really being ourselves are we being women or are we just warrior who have wagged a war against our own selves .
I am in no way saying that women empowerment is wrong or women liberation a wrong concept but in the real world these are still fancy concepts -A daily wager who goes to work at a construction site to ensure her children don't go hungry is she even bothered about women empowerment ? ,a working professional who wants to prove to the world she is equal or better than her male colleague she is aware about her rights but does she feel empowered or does she still feel left out on the race for appraisals and promotions -If she gets promoted -people perceive she had it easy because shes a lady if she gets married and comes back people perceive now she will be busy in house hold chores and not be able to devote time to work !!this will never happen to a male colleague no one will ever ever tell him that dude you are now married so you will nt be able to perform Instead you might hear people say "dude now you have a wife your life is sorted u don't hv to bother about food ,clothes ,house anything " Why because he has a wife !!!!! The same wife who in the professional set up will be seen as a home makers and not a professional !!!Why is there such a stark difference in attitude of people toward women !!!
Everyday we a faced with innumerable challenges where our emotions and feelings are being suppressed ,we don't show that we are hurt ,we don't shed a tear thinking that it will make me week ,We don't take a break ,we don't express our concern ,We are not empathetic these were the traits of a women ,these emotions are not expressed now why ??? because we want to prove to the world that we are not weaker sex !!!!
Who is loosing out in this battle -US - we women we are loosing ourselves our femininity ,our emotions ,Love ,sympathy ,warmth .
We should not try to be a man -We should be ourselves and yet prove that we are not weak ,put our foot down when required .Its no more about burning bras it s about breaking away from stereotypes ,it is about not taking everything on our shoulders just to show the world that we are empowered !
It time to take a break and deep breath ,to start taking it easy in every day situations and not feel guilty because you were not able to prepare breakfast and had to rush for a meeting Or you did prepare breakfast and reached a lil late for the meeting .It time to stop this conflict with ourselves .It is time to share responsibilities ,To ask for help ,to sip coffee in a coffee shop without feeling a sense of guilt that something at home is getting ignore .When we stop judging ourselves on the scale of a perfect Mother ,Wife ,Lover ,Sister ,employee people will stop judging us .
So lets breath n take it easyyyyy :)