Beyond her clinically alive state!

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Domestic violence victims; the tryst with their destiny!!!

I would like to talk about the solutions to domestic violence post marriage. Although life is important and the most important part is 'one is alive'. And yes, luckily in this age, we have many rules and regulations at governmental level and grassroots level to deal with these situations and we have many solutions. But what I would like to point out is: in certain sections of the society the ordeal never gets over.

It is because after the woman is saved and her life is spared she is divorced. And in certain sections of our society, (a majority of them are muslims) and at certain parts of the world, 'divorce' is still taboo. There is a certain degree of stigma associated with it. So what I feel is may be we save the life of the woman but in fact we just save the 'clinically alive state' of the woman, The trauma that starts afterwards is due to the associated stigma, which never allows her to be healed. Her 'divorcee' status becomes a curse for her. I know many women, who tolerate all the brutality of their husbands and in laws for the sake of remaining married. Because 'divorce' brings shame to the family, its disgraceful for them, for their parents, for their family. First she suffers the brutality of a man, of a family and then she suffers the killing words of the society and then she suffers the agony of loneliness and isolation... I do not know, but I feel for sensitive people, it is still painful to bear those piercing eyes and their killing words...I feel, in those parts of the worlds, and societies, her ordeal never gets over!

I know for western societies this is no longer a problem. People have less prejudice about a divorced women. A woman can find a partner again without being judged due to her marital status. But as I described above, it is different for another section of this society.

So my call is: beyond saving her clinically, we would really save her if the mindset of these people change, if people stop stigmatizing her and her family. Hope it is possible one day when men and women in this section of the society, get the light of real education, enlightenment, and intellect, get to be more empathizing for all those victims, and the prejudice is erased...

I do not know, whether I make much sense or not but this is my personal feeling and perspective.