By Michael Oborn
“Woman’s degradation is in man’s idea of his sexual rights.
Our religion, laws, customs are all founded
on the belief that woman was made for man.”
Elizabeth Cady Stanton, a leading figure in the early women’s rights movement in the United States, penned those words.
This is my story, my pain. It dogs and consumes me daily and has done so for many years. At this moment, more than a million daughters of “The Church” are being conditioned to lives of slavery. What’s more, no one cares. Where no visible blood is shed, they go unnoticed.
The State of Utah is not a democracy. According to Dr. Jan Shipps, a non-Mormon sociologist who studied the Mormons for over thirty years, Utah is a theocracy. Under the shadow of this stern patriarchy, young female minds are conditioned to devout obedience and chain-binding loyalty. The result is a life of abject servitude. I am talking about mental rape. The church fathers call them honored daughters of God. It is still mental rape.
At birth, a child represents the promise of a bright future. Under the cultural umbrella of Mormonism, she becomes a baby-making machine. Her mind and body exist to be impregnated by the male agenda. Assume the position. God’s work to be done.
The belief that women are inferior is conditioned into the psyches of slave daughters with the repetitive avalanche of a TV commercial. Denied the right to think their own thoughts and dream their own dreams, they learn to be loyal and obedient to a priesthood of men. They are taught that they cannot go to heaven without a husband of the church. What effect does this have on the child mind?
As seen in the Mormon wedding ritual, these young women marry an authoritarian chain of command, pledging obedience to God (male deity), Church (patriarchal rule), and husband. Thus they become part of a lifelong support group to male importance.
The human brain demands expression. Grace Peterson, educator, caught the essence of what it means to have a human brain:
“I think the need to tell
is a part of who we are as humans,
and it starts when we are young.”
One of the most painful things you can do to a person is to censor attentive energy. In more poetic terms, the needs of the human heart are irrepressible. Women have something to say. Self-expression confined to bedroom and kitchen is not self-expression. It’s slavery, subtly packaged in the bright ribbon of righteousness.
Don’t think for a moment that this conditioning to a life of servitude is not violence. An act of violence directed at women is ultimately aimed at the whole of womankind, not some part of her.
Many men lead empty, unfulfilled lives. Rape is an act of rage kindled by an unfulfilled life. Uncontrolled male aggression seeks to own and control what it does not understand.
Women not only live longer, but in the biology of things, they are the primary or default sex. While subconsciously men sense their own inferior nature, they are physically stronger. This has created a legacy of might over right. Rape, domestic violence, involuntary servitude, and genital mutilation all are violence. Violence in one part of the world is the same in all parts of the world. The damage, the lasting pain and hurt, is ultimately to the mind.
The question arises: How do we provoke the young mind to think for itself? To liberate someone who doesn’t know she is not free seems cruel. It is a daunting task to navigate open waters when one has no idea what that means or how it is done.
This issue is personal to me. I am a grandfather. I speak for four beautiful young ladies, ages six to eighteen, who are starving. They are being raised in abject poverty—poverty of the mind, which is anemia of the soul. They are being raised with a mindset that dumbs down human cognition through fear, blackmail, and intimidation. They are being raised to be less than themselves, and they do not know it.
Children should go to bed loved, with full tummies and a thousand questions. Instead, my granddaughters are being taught which questions are appropriate and which are not. They are taught that intellectual inquiry into doctrine and church history can only undermine spirituality and obedience. Under the shrewd scrutiny of the church fathers, they learn it is “wrong-minded” to think otherwise.
This perfect conditioning occurs right under the nose of the law that forbids It. The Thirteenth Amendment to the Constitution of the United States of America reads:
“Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude . . .
shall exist within the United States,
or any place subject to their jurisdiction.”
Where are the angry, liberated women? While being ignored by her empowered American sisters, the Mormon woman is conditioned from the cradle to live in ignorance all her adult life. From the moment of birth, the seeds of guilt are planted deep in the bedrock of behavior. If she looks to the right or to the left, programmed guilt kicks in. Why? Because the cultural frame of reference is the primary lens through which the mind constructs reality, and her conditioning began at the cradle.
We need leaders who will challenge our youth to think independent of patriarchal authority. But if men continue to govern, can we expect different results? The nature of man demands the counterbalance of woman. Young girls can more readily identify with women who fight for her rights. Women in Congress are visible and easy to connect with, but these non-Mormon female leaders are not reaching out and demanding adherence to the Thirteenth Amendment.
The US Constitution and the Bill of Rights were ratified 1797. Today’s Senate has 100 seats; the House of Representatives 440. Yet it wasn’t until 1917 that a woman filled one of those seats. Can you believe it? For over a hundred years, men alone formed and legislated the rules we live by. On the other hand, maybe that’s not too hard to believe.
Today, when I vote, I envision a Congress made up of equal parts men and women. Grandiose and far-reaching? Let me remind you that in 1916, a woman in Congress was unthinkable. In 2011, the Senate was made up of 17 women to 83 men, and the House of Representatives 76 women to 364 men.
Women comprise over 51 percent of the US population that is qualified to vote; men 49 percent. It could happen within twelve years. Imagine: a union of differences governed equally by men and women.
Think also of the influence of the United States around the world. Our values are exported with our trade and the billions of US dollars we pour into other countries.
Must I die without being able to see my beautiful granddaughters free to wonder? Is it not woman who will liberate woman? I beg you on my knees. Help me set our daughters free. Help me end this violent waste.
In a speech to a convention of women in 2006, Madeleine Albright, former US Secretary of State, said, “There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.”