Offer: PROJECT MANUAL SEX EDUCATION-TO REACH OUT TO THE SEX RELATED PROBLEMS OF YOUNG GIRLS
PROJECT YEAR & DURATION
2011 from January to December
PROJECT TARGET POPULATION
• Secondary school girls: Age 9-13 years
• Future beneficiaries of the project are
1. To reach out to sex related problems of young girls under the following subtopics.
• Shedding light on what sex is
• Discovering their bodies as girls
• Attaining puberty and signs of puberty which are:
o Pubic hair
o Change in voice and body shape
o Breast Growth
• The negative effects of premature exposure to sexual activity
2. Understanding inordinate sexual advances from the opposite sex e.g. fathers, uncles, brothers, neighbours, teachers and other school mates. Also same sex advances due to the increasing incidence of homosexuality and lesbianism in the society.
3. The negative effects of sexual abuse.
4. How to tackle such advances
PROJECT OBJECTIVES (GOALS)
1. To pass down extensive knowledge insex education to young school girls.
2. To reduce the incidence of rape cases, sexual abuse, incest, unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases in young girls.
3. To broaden their knowledge on the dangers of premature exposure to sex to their future.
4. To increase the overall self esteem and dignity of the female gender.
Secondary Schools in different Local Governments of Lagos State.
PROJECT FINANCING (cash and kind)
1. Club Members’ contributions
a. From companies and corporate bodies
b. From other NGO’s
c. From individuals.
PROJECT DISCUSSION POINTS
Sex education is the process of getting information and forming attitudes, thinking, and morals about our relationships. It covers sexual development, reproductive health, personal relationships, friendliness, intimacy, body image, and gender roles. The focus of this training would be on child’s sexual abuse.
Children are exposed to sexual abuse because of their age, size and innocence. When a child or youth is abused, she/he learns that adults cannot be trusted for care and protection: and there is a lack of support and protection. These lead to unhappiness, hopelessness, inability to trust in others, anger and aggression.
There is no general meaning of child sexual abuse. However, generally speaking, when an adult forces or persuade a child into sexual activity. It is said to be a sexual abuse. Sexual abuse includes sexual contact or its relations. All offences that involve sexually touching a child, as well as non-touching offenses and sexual misuse, are just as dangerous and disturbing to a child’s well-being. Sexual abuse in not limited to the girl child as there are also cases of young boys being sexually abused. It also includes abuse of a child by a person of the same sex.
Touching sexual offenses include:
• Making a child touch an adult’s sexual organs; and
• Penetrating a child’s vagina or anus no matter how slight with a penis or any object that doesn’t have a valid medical purpose.
Non-touching sexual offenses include:
• indecent exposure
• Exposing children to pornographic material;
• Deliberately exposing a child to the act of sexual intercourse; and
• Masturbating in front of a child.
Sexual misuse can include:
• Using a child for the purposes of prostitution; and
• Using a child to film, photograph or model pornography.
Child sexual abuse most times take place in the family by either a parent (especially the father) or a step-father, sibling or other relative. It's almost always by someone the child knows and trusts, a family friend, neighbor, school teacher ... yet at times can be a stranger.
Signs to watch out for a sexually abused child
• Fear of a person or certain places;
• Pain in sexual organs which child protest to when being washed during bath times
• Strange response from the child when asked if he or she was touched;
• Unreasonable fear of a physical exam;
• Drawings that show sexual acts;
• Sudden changes in behavior, such as bed-wetting or losing control of his or her bowels;
• Sudden awareness of genitals and sexual acts and words;
• Attempting to get other children to perform sexual acts.
• Difficulties in moving bowels
• Great changes in behavior (loss of appetite, eating disorder, regular nightmares, disturbed sleep patterns, or a sudden fear of the darkor fearfulness in general and timidity)
What Are the Effects of Child Sexual Abuse?
• The effects of sexual abuse go far beyond childhood. Sexual abuse take children away from their childhood.
• creates a loss of trust,
• feelings of guilt and self-abusive behavior.
• It can lead to antisocial behavior, depression, identity confusion,
• loss of confidence and other serious emotional problems.
• It can also lead to difficulty with intimate relationships later in life.
• Lack of self esteem
What parents/ teachers must do
• Try to get information from the child. You may require bringing in someone the child trusts or a medical doctor to help in extracting this information from the child.
• Seek medical attention for the child immediately.
• Report the suspected sexual abuse to the police.
• Get immediate help for the child, including a physical exam and counseling if the child is old enough to discuss the abuse. ,,
How to prevent Abuse by parent/teachers
• Does your child's school, church or mosque have an abuse prevention program for teachers and children? If it doesn't, get one started.
• To prevent child sexual abuse, talk openly with your child. Keep the lines of communication open so that your child is not afraid to confide in you if sexual abuse occurs.
• To prevent child sexual abuse, teach your children about their bodies. Teach them that is bad, or "against the rules" for adults to touch their bodies and act in sexual ways towards them. Explain to the child what parts of their body should never be touched unless the touching is by a doctor when Mom or Dad is with them.
• Know with whom your child is spending time. Be careful about letting your child spend time with other adults or older children a very long time. Plan to visit your child nanny without notice.
How to prevent Abuse by Children
• Do not allow anybody to touch any part of your body
• Make sure you tell your parent before you leave your home.
• Speak to your Mum about everything that happens to you.
• The abuser may tell you any of the following;
"This is our little secret,"
"You are special, and I only do this with very special children,"
"If you ever tell anyone, I will track them down and kill them,"
"If you tell anyone, I will kill myself,"
"If you tell anyone, I will kill you,"
"You like this too, and you're as responsible for this as I am,"
"You'll only worry your parents needlessly if you tell them,"
"It will break your mother's heart if she knows you agreed to do this,"
"You didn't complain about this the first time we did it."
• REMEMBER!! These are all lies and your mummy will never blame you or beat you if you let her know.
PREPARED BY: BUSINESS AND PROFESSIONAL WOMEN- LAGOS ,NIGERIA