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Finding my voice, collecting my thoughts

The whole idea of MotherKind began quite some time ago. When, exactly, I am not sure. I am sure I can trace some of the roots back to when I was a child. Now, I feel as though it is a child, an idea, a life-changing way not yet born. Maybe it is because I have worked with numerous families with infants, because I have been trained as a childbirth educator or the simple fact that I am twice a mother but the creation of MotherKind is a strength, a movement not yet visible and brought into the world in a way that I am expecting.
I hesitate to speak at times, for fear that not having it all together may discredit what it is we are trying to achieve. I have a fierce passion to inspire other women, to educate them about the truth that is happening to so many sisters in the world and to empower women on both sides of the issues- those living it and those learning of it. Like a newborn baby, MotherKind has been full of ideas of how things will happen, how things will be, and yet like that same babe it is taking on its own life, and all we can do is nurture its growth and direct it gently.
The idea is to create a network. A network that will reach out to groups of women and create an awareness about issues facing women such as poverty, war, marginalizaiton, hate and so much more. But then we go beyond that. We make a commitment for change, and not just for ourselves, but for our own children. Our children need to know what is happening to other children and that something can be done.
One of the unexpected things that has happened is that along the way, we have started carrying products made by women that then empower them to change their lives. When my partner in this adventure went to Uganda last year, she met a young woman named Patricia. She purchased a necklace from Patricia made of seed beads and hand-rolled beads. The two kept in touch. Val discovered Patricia was no longer in school as she had been due to mismanaged funds on behalf of the organization. One thing led to another and the pastor of a church group north of Toronto agreed to meet with Patricia in Kampala before their mission group returned to Canada and bring with him as many necklaces as she could make in the time they were there. We still have several of the 80 necklaces left, but needless to say, Patricia begins school within the week. Then there is Melanie, a mother of four from the Congo living in a Canadian city with one of her children, shy but finding her voice as she is receiving a small loan to purchase supplies to continue making the beautiful necklaces that she can create that we will then sell as well. Girls in Ethiopia will continue to make money for themselves through the Children of Ethiopia Education Fund Canada as we sell their cards and tell their story....and we pray for a woman from Pakistan that we know only as "N" living in another city who creates beautiful jewelry as well, but is being abused regularly. but she knows she can create....we continue to seek out our resources to import products made by women in Kenya that are finding hope through Mama Africa and the Project for Africa....
We are organizing an event on World Refugee Day in a small port town in Ontario to showcase artwork done by the women in a group that are refugees and immigrants, and provide an opportunity for their truth to be known. We hope to show a film, raise consciousness and sell product as we see the flicker of hope and light burn brighter for the women who deserve to have a voice and be believed in.
Somedays I have no idea which way is up or what to do next, and I just keep faith in the passion that burns within to see change come, and to walk in solidarity and community with women here and across the world.
We humbly accept any suggestions, any insights from anyone in this community that I have so often been inspired by. I am learning that not only do I ache to see all women find their voice, but to embrace the power that can come when I can find my own.

Comments

JaniceW's picture

Connections

Darcey, your words and heartfelt sentiments are inspiring. I was thinking that you might like to connect with member, Erica, who is the CEO of NDOPCRAFT, a fair trade organisation based in Cameroon. They produce handcraft products using ecofriendly raw materials. Erica can be found at:
http://www.worldpulsemagazine.com/user/1617

Also, Nalubega Teddy is the Project coordinator for Uganda SPACE Organisation and has connections to women in Uganda that produce handcrafted products. She can be found at:
http://www.worldpulsemagazine.com/user/1656

Best wishes in your efforts to creating your network and let me know if there is anything else I can help you with.

Darcey's picture

all about relationship

Hi Janice

I must say, you are so helpful and connected!!! Thanks for the suggestions. I will be in touch with these women when I get more than a few spare moments at the computer! I am finding that something really coming through for us is carrying product based on relationship, and that is so important. We want to be able to tell people not only where these products are coming from, but who they are and how the purchasing of these products is changing someone else's life. We then want to be able to show people, see- you invested in someone else's life, you have not only just bought something, but a woman feels better about who she is and what she can do because you are interested in what she can create. That is the wonderful moment for us.

thank you again!!!
Darcey

"A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality."
— John Lennon

consolata's picture

The Real Hope!!

Daicy,
your words are sinking in my heart one by one as i read your post. I had to read it again and again. The Hope women serch is all here. I know one day you will conguer your desires. I love to hear voices raising all talking about empowering women. Lets make our world a better place by minding the less privalledged women/girls.
commrand Consolata

Darcey's picture

in my heart

Oh, Consolata,
thank you for your words, and your passion as well to reach out to women in your own country. We are so unaware in my own country at times (but I do know that many women here are personally and painfully aware) of the injustice done to so many women, just because they are women. it is just so disgusting really....
anyway, I appreciate your comments. I am so excited to begin really living out what has been in my heart for so long. I feel as though God just floods my mind and my heart with ideas and ways that make it possible to reach out. I am very excited this week to meet with Melanie, the mother from the Congo who is interested in making products for us to sell, and also to see the art work of 104 women immigrants/refugees at a mission in downtown Toronto that we will be working with to do an artshow for in June....I just pray that these women are lifted up knowing that yes! someone does want to know their story and that what happens to them matters....
I hope that all goes well in your work and many women are touched by your efforts.
blessings,
Darcey

"A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality."
— John Lennon

consolata's picture

Thanks Darcey

Hallo Darcey,
I am really humbled by your kind words. Yes i read your post, my heart was all full of so many questions... What if each an every woman would go out of their way to help a less fortunate woman in our society? How life would be if we are sharing our resources to the needy? What you are doing is incredible. What a kind way to empower the women?
I pray that Almighty bless and abundantly.
I am saddened by my cousin wife who decided enough is enough and took her two children life and also committed suicide. Reason, the husband has neglected them and she has no source of income to feed for her children. It is really sad me my dear.
When will women be incharge of their lives? I cry for this moment when a woman will be proud of her womanhood and stand firm for the sake of her children.
Lets hold hands wherever we are and do our best to uplifts someone life.
I belief God will pay ten folds.
Kindly join us in Sole Sista.
Warm Hugs,
Consolata

Please know that I am crying with you, I am sad with you and I pray for you and for all these women who have to go through life not knowing joy. Thank you, for bringing me even closer to the reality of our sisters, because the way that your news has affected my heart shows me how much we are all connected if we let ourselves be.
Yes, we do need to hold hands wherever we are. Your words as well just overwhelm me because I know I don't have it all together and all I can do is try. I can doubt myself and these efforts at times, but I know in my heart that if my intentions are for others, then I am blessed just by acting on these things. I just have to pray that God will bring it together, because I know with Him anything is possible so we may as well go for it!!
I look forward to keeping in touch with you...
blessings,
Darcey

"A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality."
— John Lennon

consolata's picture

Thanks Darcey

Words means so much that you read someones consoling words and you say thank God i poured my heart out. There is nothing important like having a friend to share with. Daicey you are my sister and i feel so relieved when we share. I thank God for World pulse for giving us this flat- form where we are able to meet and share our ups and downs. I hope we keep in touch.
For sure we have so much in common.
As i won the Bold Ideas Contest for this year, I am left with a heavy heart on how to make those great ideas a reality. I am undergoing my training and I know God is with me to the end.
When i heard about my councins wife, I was like how? Many questions lingered into my mind. When I was told it because she was not able to feed for her children and the husband neglected them, I felt challenged.
What hope will I give to the rural women who can only wait for their husbands? I believe it is to empower them with something which can make them earn a living like you are doing my dear.
Keep me in prayer to ensure i make my Bold idea a reality.
Thanks dear and stay intouch.
Warms and lovily hugs,
Consolata

JaniceW's picture

Wonderful Connection

I am so happy to see that you two have become friends. You are sisters in your efforts to change women's lives for the better and I know that you will both touch so many lives in a positive way. It is an honour to know you both.

I have been friends with Darcey for over 15 years now:) She has such an amazing gift for writing and I am so pleased that I will have the opportunity to read some of her work again. I would like to take this opportunity to congratulate you Darcey and the AMAZING work you have done with MotherKind. Your baby steps are becoming more confident all the time. Wonderful things are happening in our community friends and Darcey is helping to make that possible. She had a full page of the local newspaper and she continues to educate and network all the time. I think that you feel discouraged sometimes because you are not of the 'norm' and you need to leave the 'comfort zone' to truly educate people. I would say the majority of people would like to continue day to day wearing blinders so that they don't have to feel the pain of others. You challenge them to think 'outside the box' AND what's even more beautiful is that you have put a positive spin on things. Women LOVE to shop and look at beautiful things and MANY women are VERY talented at creating beautiful things - you marry them together and everyone benefits and can feel happiness. I am so proud of what you are doing and glad to be a part of it. Keep up the terrific work my friend - I look forward to all of your future successes.

Love your sistah,
Shauna

Darcey's picture

oh dear

Oh my goodness! you are so kind. I feel so weird sometimes when accepting compliments, because that so does not come first for me, but thank you!!!! Honestly, I really do appreciate it, and as we have grown together over the years, I appreciate so much your opinion and the things that we can share together as we see each other grow. I LOVE that you are on here!!! I hope that you have many wonderful opportunities to share with others, and you are so passionate for so much and with so much knowledge and experience to share as well.
You know, I have been writing for years, even if it just letters to people, and this community just blows me away how I see women gaining strength in their writing and the confidence to share their thoughts...I am just so thankful for Pulse Wire and even the confidence that I have gained in me and as we go forward with MotherKind/In Her Hands.

see you on the Pulse sista!!!!
love to you!!

"A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality."
— John Lennon

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