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When is it the right time?

I made a passing comment today, while dressing my soon to be three son.
"We need to move in to a house where everyone has thier own room."
My daughter who will be seven this September asked me, "Will you also have your own room?"
I shook my head and said no.
She added "So you and Dad will still sleep togther in one room!"
I said yes, and as she walked away , I felt like calling her back to explain to her why this is so.I held back telling myself that the right time and opportunity will present it self for the proverbial "Birds and Bees" talk.

She's growing up so fast...it seems like only yesterday when I held her in my arm, coming home from the hospital, now she is going to be 7! Time flies and things have changed so much. Kid mature earlier and faster that we did. With newspaper stories of children as young as 9 getting pregnant and having babies. I think the sooner I have the talk the better. Then again can anyone have it too soon?

I think, I will answer whatever questions she has when she asks. she knows that Mummy carries a baby in her tummy and is clued in on where the baby comes through. She hasn't asked , how the baby got into the tummy yet.

Being Daddy's girl , she is more open to telling her father things , than me. I fear I may be the last one to know when she does have her period. I think I will have to support my Husband and prepare him eventually how to deal with that when the time comes. I always try to talk to her and tell her things but , I always feel it such a struggle with her, because of the way she looks at me and is quick to end the conversation!

Well, next few years will be a challenge , I know..but am ready for it.. will have to take is one day at a time, take it in stride!

Comments

Maria de Chirikof's picture

They do grow up fast!

I know what you mean by wondering "Is it time for that talk?" When the girls were in regular elementary school they had a sex education course that I never had the girls go to. I can remember arguing with their teachers about this even. It isn't that I felt they should be denied knowledge of the human bodies or that certain things need to be understood but I felt it was part of my duty as the mom and not for the school, though I did support it in general. It was not what my daughters and I needed. I was able to discuss such things with them and even talked with my daughters about this decision since most of the kids did go to it. They felt like it made them 'different' then the other kids but I explained that in some cases it is good to be different. I do support the program as an idea though since I know many, many woman have a hard time discussing such things with their children, especially a daughter.

I wish we had had that program when I was younger since I was terrified when I got my period and had no idea why I was bleeding like this and scared to death of what it meant. My mom could not talk of such things to me so it would have been good for me to have that kind of information but because I had such a strong reaction and fear I kept that in mind when my daughters were growing up.

I can remember showing the girls the box of tampons and pads we kept under the sink and explaining what they were for and showed them the little instruction booklet and opened one up so they could see what it looked like. It is an important step in a girls life so I am glad you are aware of it and ready to talk about it with her when needed!

Maria

aliĝngix's picture

It's nice you have the

It's nice you have the judgment not to rush her, even though you might be jumping up and down ready and willing to explain things to her.
I don't have kids myself, so I can tell you from a kid's point of view that I think you are going the right way on this.
See you and hope you family fairs well!

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