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VOF Week 4: (WITH YOU BY MY SIDE, I AM ENROUTE)

I crave to be a legendary on sexual violence prevention, response and support, to be the voice for the voiceless in a society where raped girls must be silent or slander. A vision of a community, where children from my village can proudly come up to say these are the parts of my body, I am so proud of myself, A for anus, for B for breast, … P for penis V for vagina and they are not ashamed, where private parts are not given funny names, shroud in secrecy and perpetrators continually thrive with a child’s innocence and trust.

I envisage a world where women and men are just words that denote sexuality and not opportunity, sexual union is a show of love and not lost, reserved for willing adults not for molesting children, between agreed partners not aggrieved ones, a world where war will not turn a uniformed man to an animal who view women as prey for pleasure.

A dream of breeding a generation of new Nigerian men, whereby a woman will comfortably stand in a bus without fear of a man standing behind her, sitting in a car with no reason to cover her sides with her arms, riding a motorcycle with peace of mind where the rider will not intentionally bump into a pothole to feel the breast of a woman.

A country where response to sexual violence is budgeted for and the achievement a national celebration, sexually molested ones can access justice in a court chaired by well trained Judge, my Nigeria where a reported case of sexual violence is handled by an expert female police officer who will not trade the future of a child for paltry in the name of bribery and corruption, where a sex offender can be made to face the consequences of an action irrespective of the financial background of the victim, where there is true criminal justice system and victim advocates recognized.

I envisage a Northern Nigeria where a ten year old girl will not be forced to wash plates and cook for her husband closer to the grave than altar, a five year old girl numbering her days, a father busy eating the dowry of a toddler, where a woman can come out to challenge barbaric, outdated and dejected believes that are impediments to achieving her dreams.

Envisioning a Nigeria, where a world standard rape crisis centre with 24 hour service is available (revealed this week by Commissioner of Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation that at least twenty girls who hawk their mother’s ware were raped in March alone in Lagos, statistics from her department only), a nation with survivor centers where violated willing women and children victim are treated like human beings they really are, where healing stream flows, with offender’s rehabilitation centre not the Juvenile homes entrenched in the Prison services where children offenders go into become crooked irredeemable adults.

Let all imagine editions of World pulse featuring fathers who are exchanging daughters for herds of cow, actual numbers of uneducated girls even with the vision 2015 and the 7 point agenda Nigeria is not working towards yet expecting result, widow’s rite, gender inequality, child labor encouraged by Nigerian government perpetrated by Asian Industrialists, Nigeria’s children witches and wizards in Akwa Ibom State where children are tortured for misfortunes of guardians, supported by fake Pastors, denied by Minister of foreign affairs while we know these are facts, telling the stories as it is and forcing the government to take decisive steps about the toothless.

If availed the opportunity, the training will empower Nigerian women to speak out through me, to liberate my community from the clutches of insensitive policies, in all fairness: fair, fearless female correspondents are great asset to the emancipation of the vulnerable. My vision can become a reality when I unveil the mind of raped women, repair lives through words of encouragement, heal wounded women through articles written from a new angle: of a well trained correspondent, opportune by World Pulse, read across the globe.

Comments

ENIE NDOH CECILE's picture

Salient!

Hey Sister!
You actually raised salient points - great.

Judging from the population of Nigeria and cultural conception i dare say you have a lot before you to accomplish couple with challenges.

I am talking from experience since i have covered some aspects about Nigeria. For my school thesis i wrote on - THE ROLE OF PUBLIC RELATIONS IN CONTROLLING POPULATION GROWTH IN NIGERIA.
I got information from MAMSER, Health etc and i came across some of those situation you have higlighted.

Keep up the good work and i pray and wish you all the best in your endeavours

Love,
Cecile

olutosin's picture

AMEN

Let it be Lord, thanks for the prayer it is needed, actually I have not really said much about my official position in the organisation I work for, I am actually working on sexual violence response with the only organisation that is close to a rape crisis centre though a small NGO that seeks support always from foreign donors, so I am opportune to work with the police, medical, market woman and men, and legal with respect to provision of legal aid through the Lagos state government. But as you know when you are working for someone there is little you can do but bend to orders, I know it is high time I movved from there because I have actually tried, I am sure of that.

Thanks Sister,

Olutosin

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

TYSA's picture

Raped Twice

Dear Sister Olutosin!!
From yuor Brother Gichuki Francis,
I read with inteest your journal. Last year duirng the Post ElectionVilenceinKenya, many women were raped. You know at the grassroot level, we have few organizations or advocacy groups too support siuch cases. I remember vividly when i had to drive at night to pick a women in the forest who had been raped and left for death.I had to take her to hospital and she stayed in my home with her three children for one month.

Not long ago , a mother was raped twice in a span of one month. Castle rustlers strucked twice and she once again felt a victim. The ordeal is traumatizing. A case in hand were a monther and her daughter were raped and both are pregant

Lots of work is yet to be done to strengthen strategies to curb rape.

Your Brother, Gichuki Francis

olutosin's picture

Same story everywhere

Dear Brother,

The same story everywhere, I once thought it was because we are in developing countries, but my advise is tah twe should continue to work in our own little ways unrelentlessly, a little drop of water makes a mighty ocean, I used to weep before when there were cases of raping especially of toddlers or littele children, my husband told me that with the rate the cases are coming in, I might become blind before solution comes in sight.

Let us work togethter, do not keep silent, thank God you are a man and I have a friend in Kenya too, responding on sexual violence, she is the lamplighter facilitaor for Kenya, her name is Joan, I will talk to her about you if you are interested in protecting women and children.

We love men like you, because I am sorry to say, rape is most of the time perpetrated by men, especially violent rape of women witnessed in Africa. Generally, men are good at protecting women and it will be a good development if you will generate ideas on how to strengthen strategies to curb rape. If you do not mind I have some ideas I will really love to share too.

Warmest regards,

Olutosin

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

Adebowale's picture

God see you through

Good day,
You really have heart to venture out for those things you wrote. Nigerian hate the truth and hate more those that dare them or contend with them on facts and evidence.

At least I have seen where six months old baby was raped! Insanity of the highest order, yet our police covered it up. You know what the baby raped belong to a junior police officer, but the rapist an influential civilian with connections.

I am praying for your cause. God will see you through.

dawn_dancer's picture

Coming into the light

Thank you for sharing this difficult story with us. Only by telling others what is happening will there ever be the possibility of an end to these horrors. I'm moved by the comment from Gichuki Francis, and hope that more men like him can find a way to influence their peers to view rape and sexual abuse differently, and as the degradation to both parties that it really is. Sometimes it seems that men speaking to other men has a more powerful effect that men hearing the same thing from women.

Thank you for your courage and dedication. You inspire me greatly.

Warmly,
Patricia

JCalbery's picture

Comments for Assignment

Thank you for your post! I find it inspiring that that your visions for yourself, community, and the world are focused on this very, very important women's rights issue - that of sexual violence again women and children.

I also like that throughout your post you mentioned, in one way or another, the individual, family, community, state, justice system, police, social services, and civil society, making the point that all, as members and structures of a society, have a role and must take responsbilitiy in ending all violence against women and children

With your voice you are already a voice for Nigerian women and for all women all over the world!

J

olutosin's picture

THANK YOU

So grateful you find it insipiring. Thanks so much for the comments.
Olutosin

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

Mckenzie's picture

Unveil The Mind

Dear Olutosin,

Thank you, for this piece full of vision. Your passion shines through this assignment with great detail and explanation. It's clear that you have intensely focused and committed in depth research to your topic of expertise (Women & Sexual Violence).

With the knowledge and leadership you already hold, I'm sure you are well on your way to becoming a legendary to many. I think you are a fantastic journalist.

Mckenzie

olutosin's picture

The Mind

Thanks my dear for the comment! I will not forget that the mind must be unveiled.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

JaniceW's picture

Congratulations

It is with joy that I see you have advanced to the next phase of VOF as you are doing such important work. Your contributions to combat sexual violence are vital and I am pleased that we have provided another platform for you where you can increase awareness of the tragedies that face women in Nigeria, and around the world. Thank you for all that you do on behalf of those who have suffered from sexual violence and I wish you all the best in the next phase of VOF.

olutosin's picture

Thanks my sister

Dear Jnice,

Thanks for the greetings! I am so proud to be a member of this great organisation. I promise to do my best for womena and children in Africa. I love you well.

Olutosin

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

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