How Can I Help?
I have a friend I want to help but I don't know how to. She is an undergraduate student studying economics and she lives with her fiance. I do not even know if fiance is the right word. She lives with a man who neither pays her school fees nor buys her clothes, but who beats her when he feels like and wants food on the table when he gets back from work. Her school work is suffering because of the trauma she has to put up with. She has family in the area, her mother lives within a 20mile radius. Her family is not hostile to her but very supportive.
I do not know why she puts up with him. I have spoken to her a number of times. I tell her
"this man has not married you yet and he treats you like this already. Why do you think it will be better in future?" She looks at me and says nothing. She listens but does not act. Some say love is blind and that she loves this man and that is why she can take anything that he dishes out to her.
Love. Is that the right word? I don't think so. Maybe she loves him but I certainly do not think it is reciprocated. Talking to her obviously has not helped. What else can I do? How else can I let her know that there is more than that which she has seems to be settling for? I know she is just one of many struggling like this, but to me, she is my face in the women's empowerment drive. When I think of empowering women, I think of her.
What else can I do to make her see reason?