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VOF Week 3: (Perfectionist Fear in the Blogasphere)

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Challenges and Barriers to Blogging

My foremost challenge and barrier to blogging is my tendency toward perfectionism. As a nationally competitive gymnast for most of my life, the notion of perfection was driven in to my head. As aptly demonstrated by Van Jensen in the article Perfectionism Fuels Burde to Drive Gymnasts, perfectionism is the name of the game in this popular home town sport. I recall being devastated by the slightest of errors in my routines. Even if I was awarded first place, if I had made a mistake, which was inevitable unless you were someone like Svetlana Boginskaya or Dominique Dawes, it felt as if I was a complete failure.
Unfortunately, I did not shed my plague for perfectionism when I hung up my bar grips and retired from the sport. It promptly filtered in to my personal and professional lives. Now, as I tip toe into the blogasphere, I feel that creeping sense of insecurity that often accompanies perfectionism. I find myself fearful of blogging because: a) I may post something less than perfect that could be widely scrutinized by those exploring the vast blogasphere; and/or b) Drafting the blog posting my take endless hours of my time due to my perfectionist tendencies.

Solutions to these Challenges and Barriers

So how do I overcome my perfectionist fear in the blogasphere? First, I need to relax. I do not need to be perfect in every aspect of my life. In fact, some endeavors can be simply for the purpose of enjoyment or entertainment, not necessarily for professional gain. Once I embrace this reality, a lot of pressure is taken off my shoulders to craft the perfect blog posting. Second, I need to get in a routine of blogging where there is a limit to the amount of time I can spend on the posting. Through self-imposed time limits, I can keep it simple and attempt to keep my perfectionist tendencies at bay.

What else do you need to overcome these challenges in the Future?

In terms of other means to overcome my interpersonal challenges to blogging, I presume that positive feedback, an active readership, and favorable results such as networking and relationship development through my blog, would inspire me to keep doing what I am doing. I say this with the caveat that should I receive any praise for my blogging skills, well, I could start to feel that long familiar burning desire to take my blogging to the next level. To improve it, modernize it, distribute it to a wider audience, etc. Yikes—it as if I just fell off the balance beam. I might need to dust myself off and take a water break.

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LauraB's picture

Great post

Jaygher,

Posting photos and telling your gymnast story drew me. I like reading both personal and contextualized blogs- not perfect ones. Actually when I feel like I'm reading a resume or a NY Times article, I stop. And when I hear that someone is making chocolate cake or walking their dog, I roll my eyes. See, I think you hit the right balance. Seems blogging is about connection and interactive learning.

Maybe this process will be a vehicle for expression, fun, being in the moment, throwing perfectionism to the wind.

Pulse Wire is a very cool place to let your hair down a bit- seems people here are very authentic.

Great to listen to your story!

Warm wishes,

Laura

jaygher's picture

Gracias!

Muchas gracias, Laura.

I appreciate your kind words. Its nice to get encouraging feedback.

And how about you? How is your business going? What lessons learned do you have to share with others about being an independent self-driven woman? I am very interested.

Gracias, otra vez.
Jaime

Jay4Rights

mrbeckbeck's picture

Balance is hard sometimes!

Jaime,

I too thought this was a great post. Your personal voice comes through very clearly, which is something I liked.

I'm a bit of a perfectionist sometimes too. It can make me not even start doing projects because I can't see it through all the way to the end. I'm learning to dive in and learn as I go...and it works a lot of the time. Overcoming the initial inertia is a challenge. It seems that you're keenly aware of the challenges you face, as well as what you need to face them.

I wish you all the best as you continue on the balance beam of blogging. We're all here to listen! Just keep sharing.

Best,
Scott

Scott Beck
World Pulse Online Community Volunteer

Darcey's picture

Darcey

Hi Jaime

I really enjoyed reading your posts....so many things hit home to me. I was thinking of this entry as I had already gone into my journal to speak about how balance can be hard to achieve at times being a mother, wife, household manager, employee, advocate, entrepreneur, etc. and your post about being a gymnast came to mind. I kept thinking about being on a balance beam and how it is an intentional focus to retain balance.
I look forward to reading more of your posts. I think that as you just come at your writing from a place of honesty, it just moves your writing forward and helps to remove fear about what may be 'right' or 'wrong'.

Darcey

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