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“VOF Week 2 :( Are women really another asset?)”

The untold and unheard live experiences of women remain physically latent to society but, psychologically dominant within children and girls who often leave them with their mothers and neighbours. The story below pricked my heart and passion for women while guiding my path to Web 2.0.

Born and reared in a rural community in Cameroon, I understood that, it was just normal for men to beat their wives. Nobody EVER objects Papa. This was my life style till early as eight years, when I witnessed a man use his hands to off root a bunch of hair from his wave’s head leaving a big bleeding wound. This serious beating resulted from a quarrel when the man asked her for money to take to his concubine and she objected. He said

“If it pains you enough, bring your own concubine. Is the land on which you cultivated the crops for which, I now ask the money yours? Aren’t you even privilege that I let you farm on my land? Your friends go out, rent land, farm and still give a share of their harvest to their husbands”. Speechless and voiceless she stood with a crowd of us jarring at her.

My heart bled in pain while the wound scared me the more but, how could I help the situation apart from joining her to cry? Her old mother said “my daughter, that’s our plight, what can you do? Even if you report to the village council, they will favour him because women NEVER own asset. We are their assets”.

This brutality and others like pregnant women losing their lives after such beatings so much traumatised me that I vowed to become a medical doctor and help treat all such women. Simultenously, I enrolled for judo training such as to torture my husband when he dares that nonsense. This highly restricted freedom of speech and unfriendly environment made me to start thinking for ways to help many more women. This broader dream made me deviate from medicine to rural sociology in the university.

Latter, I founded the Rural Women Centre for Education to combat this but, limited by structure and negligence about issues of violence against women in my country Cameroon, I started searching for social networks where collectively, we could speak out these issues. I subscribe to the UNIFEM say NO to violence against women campaign. While searching further, for where, to further speak up against this inhuman cruelty against women and girls, I found Web 2.0 that I today consider my ideal channel of speaking up.

The story/journey I just related above fits into my personal vision in that, through this interactive media communication, I can further relate my experiences with women which together with other participants experiences could form more substantial evidence for campaigns and petitions of violence against women while empowering others too to speak up the abnormal that like I, they think it’s normal.

Comments

Maria de Chirikof's picture

why we are here

It is why I really love coming here, that we can talk and share and make a difference.

It is why I can feel a story coming inside me where I write to the men and bring them back to themselves. I have many important stories but they are all vague yet as my heart writes them and then I can hear them and share them with others. I often wish I could be a doctor or lawyer and do something important like that. Never doubt you inspire us just by being yourself! It is like I told my daughters once "I may not be able to do great things (like being a doctor) but I can do good things (share the stories of my heart) and it is understood and accepted as such by the other woman!

Maria

LUMA's picture

Thanks for the comment

Dear Maria,
My warmest greetings.Thank you f very much for the educative comments.I hope to improve and share more stories that have paved my life paths till now next time.
With warm regards from Glory

mrudberg99's picture

Perspective

As many U.S. women know, in the U.S. we tend to focus on things like gender in organizations and the daily life of a woman: how do we become CEO of a great company, increase the percentage of women on boards, encourage girls to take more math and science classes, fair and equal pay, how can we run faster, climb higher than our male counterparts, etc. - and yet, reading your post reminded me of earlier battles for women - protection of our body, the right to speak, freedom of choice, gaining access to land, money, jobs, appropriate health care - the list goes on and on.

Thank you - thank you for providing another perspective and reminding me of these things - you have changed my conversation and approach to teaching women's leadership here in the U.S. by simply telling your story. For this, I am so grateful.

I will encourage you to continue telling these personal stories as it's through stories we learn best.

I look forward to more posts and learning of your journey. You are an inspiring, reflective woman creating great change!

Molly

Molly Rudberg-Leshnock
Curator of Leadership
Brand Storyteller
mrudberg@mrlpro.com

LUMA's picture

Thanks for the mail

Dear Molly,
Accept my warm greetings.Thank you very much for the remarks and comments. I hope to continue speaking up various experiences and trauma's that have coated my life the women's world. I wish our constant stories on World Pulse really hits hard for women and girls to have their exclusive rights in society irrespective of whether they are rural or the working class.
I was happy to hear yesterday that, in some developing countries, beating a woman leads to at least six months imprisonment for the brutaliser. I am dreaming the day this sorts of just laws will be applied for cameroonian women and others the world atlarge.
I wish you a happy and calm week end.
With regards from Glory.

amelia's picture

the power of story

Luma,

What an incredible story and journey that has brought you to your present work! The strength and resilience you described will be an inspiration to many who seek similar changes and power shifts.

Thank you for sharing your story, and I wish you the best of luck in your future work!

Amelia

LUMA's picture

Thanks

Dear Amelia,
My warm greetings. Thank you very much for the mail and encouragement. I am indeed glad to have found World pulse where we can tell our different stories and experiences as women and girls.
I wish you a calm and happy week end
With warm reggards from Glory

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