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paedophile neighbour

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i returned yesterday from my village...i am still depressed.Been hearing that a neighbour has been sexually defiling his daughter-on friday the rumour mill said she is pregnant,she is sixteen.Everybody knows only too well what will happen,her parents will get an abortion for her,her mom is a primary school teacher.she will still be married to this man.i do not know if i can shake this off..this is a girl i carried around when i was her current age..her dad is a corrupt court clerk who seems to always get his way..he is even said to have sodomized someone.This is a true story,i should probably call someone who will not say who i am.God i am so badly shaken,no one needs a father like that.I want to SCREAMMMMMMMM.Later my sisters,i will try compose myself and do something

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ShukThi's picture

sending you strength

Pascaline,

My heart goes out to you, as well as to the young girl - your neighbour. I was once in a similar situation, except that it was my brother-in-law. Although there are many communities in India that would behave similarly, I was lucky enough to be born to a family with different values. My mother knew exactly what to do. From the moment I finally told her, she watched him like a hawk, kept me safe, eventually told my sister (her eldest daughter) and they kicked him out of the house. I wish such a happy ending could take place in all the communities of the world, where women have the power to band together and have the support of other men to protect the innocent and punish the guilty.

I cannot hope or presume to give you suggestions, for I do not know your situation. But I hope that at some point, you get to talk to this young women and let her know that it is not her fault, and that she can survive this. Yes, survive and find a way out even if she ends up married to him.

sending you strength and comfort from across the world...

Soumya

Pascaline's picture

thankyou

clearly,we feel the same...something will happen,i believe and this girl will be free from this evil...thanks so so much let us keep the faith

I believe in every woman's heart and soul.

Maria de Chirikof's picture

sending mine too

It is always so stressful finding out something like this and wondering how best to help. It is true she really needs to be told that this is not her fault and she will survive it. I can imagine your pain but like Soumya said, talking with her and comforting and informing her will go a long way to how she handles it. I think we can change it around where the girls no longer feel like nothing matters and ruin their life by thinking horrible thoughts about themselves.

It doesn't seem like a lot to do for her but it is the one thing she will remember and then pass on to other young girls caught in this situation. I hope there is something that can be done for her right now but I believe together we can work to change the attitudes and the moods of woman to prevent this sort of thing down the road. Until then let her know she has a friend she can talk to when needed in you!

Maria

Carole's picture

Who do you trust?

I have a daughter and whenever I read such eery tales, my body freezes. Whom can we trust if your own father who is meant to give direction decides to abuse you instead? Whatever this girl is going through now is very difficult. She needs lots of love and counselling.

The next challenge is where does she take the baby incase she does not accept an abortion? I know there are several organisations that deal with child abuse but is she willing to take that route? May God be her guide and give her courage to face the next day. Please continue giving her whatever support you can.

Carole

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