Emotional Violence Kills
Emotional Violence is Violence mostly ignored and many people often identify and recognize physical and sexual violence against women faster. This is because it is more visible and easier to conceptualize but they don’t care about non-physical violence against women because it is more abstract. Consequently, people tend to downplay psychological aspects of violence against women and are less likely to identify and recognize acts of psychological or emotional abuse or see it as serious as physical and sexual violence. Violence against women in intimate relationships, otherwise referred to as domestic violence or intimate partner violence and abuse, is the most pandemic and most socially tolerated form of violence against women. The violence has harmful direct and indirect, long-term physical and psychological health outcomes on women and children and subsequently high socio-economic costs on families and wider societies. It is everybody's business to end violence against women.
Marta is a young African woman of 30years of age and is married but has been denied of her emotional rights by her partner. Emotional violence is a characterized by name calling, insulting repeatedly and constantly belittling, criticizing, berating, humiliating and blaming, isolating from friends and family, excessive monitoring, restricting or denying access to and control over money and other resources, receptions of entitlement, jealous actions and possessiveness, emotional manipulation to get your way and other controlling behaviors amount to psychological abuse. Worst still her partner doesn't satisfy her sexually. She is tried to talk it out with him but he says sex is not the bases of marriage. She is being in this dilemma for over 12years and the sad part of her story is that the moments they try having sex she become pregnant and he abandons her and may only have sex when he feels like and her feelings don't matter. She is emotionally frustrated and can’t help herself. This emotional drive has pushed many women out of their relationships and some have being infected by AIDS and died.
As a leader of a women group I realized that many women were facing a similar problem as Marta but can't speak out for the fear of being stigmatized or even losing their partners and frustrating their children. So they die in silence and soon develop health complications. We need your advice and some materials on sex education for women in rural communities and we can help these women.