Community Update

Digital Empowerment Toolkit Now Available!

At World Pulse, we recognize the need for ongoing learning—for you and for your community! Our toolkits aim to provide the resources you need to advance your social change work.

We are excited to introduce our Digital Empowerment Trainers’ Toolkit, a dynamic resource to help you bring the benefits of connecting online to women in your community. Check it out today! »

Just what to do?

I find myself in a puzzle. Since becoming a mother 1 1/2 years ago, I find that my eyes have been opened to the world at large and the world outside myself. This is not to say that prior to this I was ignorant to other countries and cultures or even that I was apathetic to the issues that strike people all over the world, including my country. Quite the opposite. I revel in traveling to other countries and really interacting with the local people to fully immerse myself in their daily experiences. I have investigated studying cross-cultural communications in the hopes of opening the awareness of others I meet. I have donated when I could in the past to organizations I thought would really make a differene in the lives of folks that needed it and registered for fair trade items when I got married. I don't feel I've been completely blind to the world outside myself but what have I really done?

The phenomenon that has happened to me since the birth of my son is that a fog has lifted and I feel I must do something to bring people together to lend a hand and an ear as well as spotlight problems and solutions. This brings me to my puzzle. I don't quite know how to take action on these newfound feelings. I can sit here in my comfortable chair and think about all of this but I don't know how to put my thoughts into action. Writing it down can help to clarify but how is it going to help me to meet the challenges I come across? I want to travel to another country and hold the hand of someone who needs support. I want to make blankets or clothes or toys for homeless children and let them know there are people who care. As a certified massage therapist, I want to rub the back of a woman who takes care of her children, her house and her husband in much less convenient environments than I have and tell her I'm there to take care of her.

The problem is that I don't do these things. I get paralyzed with thought and can't melt through it to take action. I suppose one could say that awareness is the first step towards change but one could also say I'm hypocrytical to sit and lament about my biggest problem being that lack of motivation to help others. How does it all resolve itself? Where does the light shine in?

Comments

Maria de Chirikof's picture

Light bringing

I think a lot of us feel that same sort of thing. I really do think though that just by sharing our stories and sharing news stories of different areas that we can help make a difference. That is what I really like about this place where we can meet other woman from around the world and it feels like we are right there with them for a short time.

I think part of it is there is so much that needs changing that we all feel a bit like 'where do I begin' and then realize when we meet all the other woman here that by helping change the 'mood' we can begin to create the real change we want.

Congratulations on the birth of your son. I think having a child really does a whole sort of 'life-changing' effect on you where we suddenly want to 'fix' the world our child will grow up in.

Is that picture of your own hands? is that a tattoo or a henna? It looks very interesting and I wondered if it was one you did for the birth of your child?

Maria

enDhruva's picture

You are right.....this forum

You are right.....this forum is a great place to start. I love the idea of connecting with women all over the world.....And there is that overall feeling of "where do I start?". But some action is better than none, right? :-)

The picture is of my hands with henna on them for one of my wedding ceremonies. My husband is Indian so we had a small indian ceremony before our "white dress" ceremony. That picture is when the paste was flaking off so it is part of the actual stain and part of the paste.

Lo Button's picture

Encouragement

Wow, I love your journal entry. I is really making me think about the reason things make us freeze up. Is it the unexpected? If so, what do we have to fear? What stops us from reaching out to another that we don't know or from starting a project we feel inspired by or from even starting over?

It is the "what ifs" that get in my way. I would love to start over, to reinvent myself, to be a person who makes a difference in this world. Fear is the culprit again... What if we don't have my income to depend on? What if I can't afford the classes I need to take, what if I am bad at my new profession ... on and on. Where does the fear come from? Are we the only thing that stands in our own way from progressing in our lives?

Just some thoughts to throw out there! ;o)

Lo

Kagwii's picture

Your journal entry brings to

Your journal entry brings to light some critical issues we all struggle with. I think the light starts to shine when we start questioning and seeking our role in something, which you have already started. I like to say that time will tell when I am in a fix, but I write down, and share when I feel necessary and somehow, things, events, people etc collaborate to make it work out. So keep the vision, it is only a matter of time before what to do, how, where and when is clear. All the best.

enDhruva's picture

Thanks so much Kagwii. I'm

Thanks so much Kagwii. I'm keeping the vision!

-Erin

Go girl! Go for it!

Although your life has been exactly the opposite to mine, there is one spot where we converge: when I was suffering the worst part of the battle, I did not know I could make it, change my life or give meaning to someone else's life. So I didn't do very much. The turning point in my life, which made me start to work was, ironically, brought about by a woman therapist I met and who dazzled me with her charm. I started to tell her about my problems and how 'poor thing' I was. She got rid of me real easy by saying: "I don't want you to talk to me until you decide what the heck you want to do with your life". Period. I had been talking to her for about ten minutes and she read me. I was really mad at her for her answer at that time. But it changed my life. I decided I would not be 'a poor thing' or 'stranded' again in my life. The 'paralyzed' stage was over. And I've had a hectic life ever since.

Thanks for sharing.

Best wishes,

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

enDhruva's picture

Thanks for sharing that

Thanks for sharing that Jackie. I feel like I'm close to that paralyzed stage being over. I hate being thought of as a poor thing or someone who can't get her act together so I'm madly digging deep to get rid of the fear and go for it. Whatever "it" might be!

Best wishes to you too!

-Erin

jap21's picture

Hi Erin

I know the feeling. I think you are loving, caring and ready to make it.

I'd love to read more entries from you.

Warm regards,

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

Magazine »

Read global coverage through women's eyes

Inside Congo's Growing Sisterhood

Inside Congo's Growing Sisterhood

Community »

Connect with women on the ground worldwide

PAKISTAN: They Went to School and Never Came Back

PAKISTAN: They Went to School and Never Came Back

Campaigns »

Be heard at influential forums

WWW: Women Weave the Web

WWW: Women Weave the Web

Programs »

Help us train women citizen journalists

World Pulse Voices of Our Future

World Pulse Voices of Our Future

Blog »

Read the latest from World Pulse headquarters

Announcing Our Prize Winners!

Announcing Our Prize Winners!

Partners »

Join forces with our wide network of partners

Nobel Women's Initiative

Nobel Women's Initiative