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Introducing myself and my journal: Men on the Front-Line

About Me:
I am a Cameroonian male, born in June 1983, residing in Johannesburg South Africa. I am the founder and General Coordinator of ORFEDAV Cameroon, an NGO working to promote education, development and awareness against violence. I work as operations manager and corporate facilitator for Future Competence (Pty) Ltd in South Africa and I am a member of Amnesty International Southern Africa.

Over the years, my passion has been to add my voice as a remarkable contribution to the change the world hopes to see as part of global initiatives to make the world a better place. I encourage men working closely with men to combat Domestic and Gender Based Violence in our societies. I'm interested in offering whatever form of intellectual support that is required to make this change evident for all. I like my country, Cameroon and would want to see change happen there for the common good of all.

This is a true life story I am bringing to your attention, not because I just wish to share it, but because I am concerned about the world's response to and views of Gender based violence. I believe this story would have impact on most men who read it and decide to act likewise. I use this to challenge males into understanding that we are equally responsible for the peace and respect we expect from our female folks, not be inflicting pain and suffering them, but by accepting them as the weaker gender and working closely with them with much care and intimacy. My story goes thus;

I was once a perpetrator of gender based violence when I was younger, but with orientation from a senior male back home whom I considered my mentor, I came to understand the important role women have to play to add value to the world. I took my decision from then on, to impact the world positively by acting as an agent for change. Trying severally to work closely with women did not solve the problems we had in society. I embarked on a series of studies to understand what niche I could work on to add my values. In 2003, while I was attending high school, I came across a series of boys perpetrating violence against girls. I approached the girls to find out that what was going on was from the boys' side. Then I approached the boys to find out why they had to take such a violent action on the girls. They reported that the teachers and school administrators would respond so violently each time a lady reported them. To me, they were ignorant of the joy and peace I enjoyed not laying hands on, or saying something stupid against the girls.

One day, I rallied a couple of friends with similar notions and we discussed how important it was for us to focus our attention on changing the perceptions of boys on violence against girls. We held a series of workshops in school to educate and sensitize the boys, which really created much impact. With this, the boys changed their views towards girls and the rate of prevalence recorded during the following years dropped drastically with a student orientation network running across the school environment. Today, I highly believe that If gender and domestic violence must be subdued, men must be involved actively in the process as it becomes easier for men to talk men out of violence perpetration unlike women talking men out. With my experience working with a few organizations locally in Cameroon, as well as professional experience in counseling and orientation, I have been and continue to make impact in my world, and look forward to do even more, while welcoming the support that would enable me to do even better.

Today, I am a happy person knowing that what I started back them is yielding fruits and much can still be done to see it spread widely across the country, continent and the entire globe.

My Passions:
Capacities building, adventure, writing, designing and surfing the internet

My Challenges:
Funding, effective communication, training and networking

My Vision for the Future:
To empower men to take positive action in impacting the world.

My Areas of Expertise:
Graphics/Web Design, Capacity Building & Orientation, Facilitation, Writing, Leadership

Comments

Emily Garcia's picture

Welcome!

Welcome to World Pulse, Divine621!

We are so happy to have you join our thriving global community of change leaders. Thank you for sharing your story, your unique voice, and perspective.

I agree with you 100% when you say, "I highly believe that If gender and domestic violence must be subdued, men must be involved actively in the process." Gender-based violence is topic that comes up often in our community. Women write on the topic to raise awareness about it and to educate other women on their rights. If men are not included in this discussion, however, their is a vital piece of the problem (and solution!) missing.

I admire the work you do and thrilled that you've seen a drop in violence due to your re-education efforts in your community. I'm looking forward to hearing more about you and your work here soon.

For help navigating our site and to start networking with others here, please take a look at the Getting Started guide: http://worldpulse.com/pulsewire/about/guide

Warm wishes,
Emily

Emily Garcia
World Pulse Online Community Lead

divine621's picture

Thanks Emily

Thanks for welcoming me into the community Emily, and thanks for the guide you posted. I am making good use of it. Results to come up when I am done going through every of the 14 pages.

I hope to work even more closely with this community to drive change to my own community.

Amabo Divine N.
Founder and GC
ORFEDAV Cameroon
email: divine@orfedav.org
url: www.orfedav.org

Nusrat Ara's picture

Dear friend, Welcome to

Dear friend,

Welcome to WorldPulse! You are now part of a thriving community of women from all parts of the world. See the Online Community Getting Started Guide to learn more about networking in our community: http://www.worldpulse.com/pulsewire/about/guide

Please explore the site to meet the women and also find the groups of your interest.

I look forward to hearing your voice in the community!

In friendship,

Nusrat

divine621's picture

Thanks Ara

Thanks Ara,

I look forward to a more in-sighting collaboration with the community.

Amabo Divine N.
Founder and GC
ORFEDAV Cameroon
email: divine@orfedav.org
url: www.orfedav.org

Tiffany Purn's picture

Welcome!

I am SO excited to have a powerful male ally in our community. Welcome! Your story about working with boys to change their perceptions of violence against women is inspiring. If you have any gems to share about what worked really well in that process that you're willing to share with the community, it's definitely information we want to share widely and with others!

Warm regards,

Tiffany

divine621's picture

Thanks Tiffany

Thanks for the motivation and encouragement Tiffany,

I took myself off the male side of nagging and abuse, and I would say it is really helping me out, because I have learned to live with all types of people without finding a course to complain against or inflict any form of suffering on them. Many perpetrators of violence do not know how good life is on this side, where you consider everyone Friend, Family, Precious and the like.

I'm currently working on a portfolio of information regarding this initiative and I hope to take it to the next level with the support of the World Pulse community.

Hope to hookup some more.

Amabo Divine N.
Founder and GC
ORFEDAV Cameroon
email: divine@orfedav.org
url: www.orfedav.org

divine621's picture

Thanks All

Thanks all

Amabo Divine N.
Founder and GC
ORFEDAV Cameroon
email: divine@orfedav.org
url: www.orfedav.org

Fatima Waziri's picture

Hey there! Welcome to

Hey there! Welcome to Worldpulse community!

It’s so exciting having you with us, I am sure you will have a fabulous time with your new online friends as well as find this to be a very positive experience. I encourage you to take advantage of the numerous resources and features available through our vibrant online community.

Welcome again to our global community and I look forward to hearing more from you.

Peace!
Fatima

kujamac12's picture

Hat off for you

Hello there.
This is quite impressive.I take my hat off in respect for you.You are the change the world truly needs.Keep doing the good work.
Stay very blessed,
Yours truly,
Kuja.

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