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Letter to my daughter – You are beautiful and loved

All babies are beautiful and so are you my lovely daughter.
When I held you in my arms for the first time, I said to myself, ‘she is beautiful and loved’.
So I prayed that God will keep you safe from harm and express divine grace in your life.
I fear when I think of all the bad things happening to good people in our world
I fear because I know that I cannot always be there for you – to protect you, to keep you away from harms’ way;
I therefore write these few words for you and hope and pray that your journey through life would build you not break you; would inspire you not discourage you;

All babies are beautiful, both boys and girls.
Baby girls grow up to be women and thrive on love of family and friends.
Society however expects girls to be calm, peaceful, beautiful and pretty much domesticated.
You have an independent streak, a fighting spirit and resilience far above your years.
I fear that the world would try to keep you down, ‘grounded’ they would say.
I fear that in order to fit into the mould, you may concede a bit…you may lose yourself.
Stay true to yourself, and don’t give up on your dreams.

When the time comes, you would find that others are attracted to you.
You can also be attracted to others and seek companionship, love and comfort;
Remember always that all relationships are built on mutual respect.
And no one is held in higher esteem more than the other
Don’t be a ‘pleaser’ failing to recognise your own needs and your own worth
In all circumstances, stay true to yourself and have faith

Don’t accept abuse as an answer to resolving disputes
Don’t acknowledge physical violence as a sign of love
Don’t succumb to emotional violence as a means of keeping the peace
Don’t tolerate sexual violence, it is indignity perpetuated by myths and silence
Don’t manage economic violence as a means of survival;
Don’t endure psychological violence; it weakens your will;
Rape must be condemned vigorously: Against your will is against the law;
A cut invades your privacy and is against your rights if it serves only to preserve a cultural practice;
Violence creeping into relationship, eventually harms it and the people in it;

Speak up for what you believe in;
Stand up for what is right;
Speak out against injustice everywhere;
Encourage and support other sisters whenever you can – sisterhood is global.
Life is sometimes not easy but it can be enjoyed and cherished.
Study hard, play hard and live smart
You are beautiful just the way you are and let no one tell you otherwise.

Lots of Love,
Your mother

Comments

Cali gal Michelle's picture

Good lessons. Great words.

Good lessons. Great words. Enduring love.

Thank you for sharing this!

Peace and Hope-
Michelle
aka: Cali gal

Listener
Sister-Mentor
@CaliGalMichelle
facebook.com/caligalmichelle

Osai's picture

Re: Good lessons

Thanks Michelle for kind words.
Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

Sangita Thapa's picture

Beautifully expressed!

My dear Osai, your letter is beautifully poetic and your words resonate motherly affection. Im so inspired by your powerful lyrics and im sure many of us will find ways to express our feelings for daughters and sons as brilliantly as you have here. Thank you for sharing.

With love,
Sangita

Osai's picture

Re: Beautifully expressed

Dear Sangita,

As parents we try our best, but love really is all we can do and give. Thanks for reading. Your words of encouragement are uplifting.

Warmest wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

RosemaryC's picture

Thanks for these wise words

Dear Osai:
Thank you for these beautifully crafted words. They are words that we can want for all our daughters - the daughters of our flesh and also the daughters of our spirit - and for our granddaughters and great-granddaughters as well.
Blessings,
Rosemary

Osai's picture

Thanks a lot

Dear Rosemary,
Thank you too for spending time to read and share. I appreciate this.
Best regards,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

sherises's picture

Thank you for sharing

Thank you, Osai, for sharing this beautifully written letter.

You daughter is fortunate to have you by her side, guiding her through life's trials and tribulations. It is often difficult to instill a sense of strength and self-respect when the messages we receive intend to undermine us. Your strong words will provide a solid foundation for your daughter to rely on and believe in.

My best to you,

Julie Thompson
"She Rises"

every day go out of your way to do something kind

Osai's picture

Thanks a lot

Dear Julie,

I am both humbled and proud. Thanks for your kind words and the encouragement. I know the journey would be laced with both the good and the bad. I only pray that I can guide her along the way and she listens and grows.

Thanks again,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

awinkie's picture

Incredible! So incredible!

All I can say is wow! Your poem is so powerful! You are an incredible writer and poet!
This needs to be shown to every girl around the world!!!
Your daughter is so lucky to have you.
Keep on writing and changing the world!

Osai's picture

Thanks a lot

Dear Awinkie,
Thanks for your encouragement and excitement. Please share. I am grateful
Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

turtledove100's picture

Powerful and moving

What inspiring and courageous words to your daughter Osai! She's incredibly lucky to have a mother like you, guiding and supporting her and advising her on how to move through life and be as respected and loved as she deserves to be. Keep on writing and expressing yourself!

"Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach" (Clarissa Pinkola Estes, author and poet)

Osai's picture

Re: Powerful and Moving

Dear Debbie,

Thanks for your kind words. I am both humbled and proud. With support from sisters like you, I know i will always feel motivated to explore and write some more.

Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

ikirimat's picture

I love your love letter so

I love your love letter so inspirational. I would have loved to read such a letter from my mum. I actually never remember her writing me a letter. The words 'Don’t be a ‘pleaser’ failing to recognise your own needs and your own worth
In all circumstances, stay true to yourself and have faith' are so touching.
We just have to continue re-echoing these sweet words into their ears and they will practice them.

Lovely piece.

Grace Ikirimat

"It takes the hammer of persistence to drive the nail of success."


Osai's picture

Thank you

Dear Ikirimat,

Thanks for reading and sharing your own personal needs which you missed as a child. As parents, we sometimes fail to reach out and talk about these things and miss an opportunity to share a lesson and uplift a child. Please stay true to yourself and know that all in life, you are making an impact.

Thanks again.

Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

busayo's picture

WAO!!

Wonderful letter Osai and very powerful. Thanks for sharing

Love
Busayo

Busayo Obisakin
Women inspiration Development center
Ile-Ife, Nigeria
busobisaki@yahoo.com
womeninspirationcenter@gmail.com

Osai's picture

Re: WAO!!

Thanks Busayo for the kudos and encouragement.

Warm wishes,
Osia

Twitter: @livingtruely

binapatel33's picture

Beautiful

Thank you for posting such a wonderful piece!! Your words are courageous, wonderful, and very sincere! What you wrote is very true and the world should also realize it. Your words should reach those parents and families that sell their children.

Kind Regards,
Bina Patel
hc Mediate, LLC
www.hcmediate.com

Osai's picture

Re: Beautiful

Dear Bina,

Thanks for reading and the encouragement. We should all try to spread the word about love and sharing. Please share in your work.

Best regards,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

binapatel33's picture

Thank you

Yes, I will and I agree with you!! you should try and make a tshirt out of it and raise money...you can raise money on http://www.indiegogo.com/

and donate the funds to your community or charity....i think it is a great slogan!

Kind Regards,
Bina Patel
hc Mediate, LLC
www.hcmediate.com

erinluhmann's picture

Assertive

Dear Osai,

I appreciate how assertive you are with your words. I find that it's often easier to be an advocate for someone else, but more challenging to be an advocate for yourself. This is exactly the sort of reminder we all need, from time to time, to not accept anything less that justice, equality and respect for ourselves. Thanks for sharing!

Best,
Erin

Osai's picture

Re: Assertive

Dear Erin,

I know too and I have experienced it. But ultimately, the will to get out of a situation lies with the person in it. Very often, we forget that and being assertive pushes us out of self-pity into empowerment.

Thanks for reading and sharing.

Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

Sarah Whitten-Grigsby's picture

Exquisite, Osai

Dear Osai,

The beauty of your letter and the divinity of your radiant smile (in your profile photo) made tears spring to my eyes.

Your advice to your beloved daughter about not being a people-pleaser, not losing sight of herself, is one of the most crucial points in empowerment for girls, I feel. As you know, all too often girls sacrifice themselves to fit in, and this is a slippery slope downward toward loss of self, low self-esteem and then terrible vulnerability. So thank you for articulating that so strongly.

Your final paragraph is particularly moving and hugely important.

May young girls the world over read you letter . . . or may their mothers read it to them!

With Admiration and Gratitude,

Sarah

Osai's picture

Re: Exquisite

Dear Sarah,

Wow. Thanks for seeing all things beautiful and divine! I suffered a lot before I realised that you cannot please all the people and this is a message I share to uplift others.

warmest wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

Sarah Whitten-Grigsby's picture

May Love Surround You!

Keep sharing that message, Osai, You are already making the world a more loving place.

Surrounding you with love from across the miles,

Sarah

courtmiller03's picture

Beautiful

Thank you for your beautiful letter Osai. It was lovely.

Courtney Michelle Miller
Digital Communications Strategist and Multimedia Producer
http://courtneymichellemiller.org

Osai's picture

Thanks a lot

Thanks a lot Courtney for reading and sharing.

Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

Diane Ezeji's picture

fortunate

Fortunate: what your daughter is to have a loving, supportive, strong mother like you! When someone has that great beginning, they can pretty much accomplish anything they wish and recover from all of the bumps in the road they will face.

Diane Ezeji

Osai's picture

RE: Fortunate

Thanks Diane. I am fortunate too to have the chance to share that with her. And yes, when the beginning starts off great, we have a greater chance to achieve so much more.

Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

William's picture

wonderful love letter

Hi Osai, thank you for sharing your letter of love to your baby daughter. I believe we all feel the same way you do, especially with a new girl in the family. I urge you to get this published in a newspaper, on the radio or some place where others can read it, especially men and learn from the letter. The power of the Internet allows you to contact a large number of people, so you can find someone interested in publishing it. Congratulations again, for your well-written letter.
May God continue to bless you and your family,
William

Osai's picture

Re: Wonderful Love Letter

Dear William,

Many thanks for commenting. Just like you have suggested, I am considering publishing this widely. I agree with you, that we need to share this message of love and non-violence more and reach out to men especially to learn from this. Sometimes, 'macho' messages creates a distortion of what real men should be and violent streaks should never be one of them.

Thanks again and wishing you too God's blessings.

Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

CamilaFMScialla's picture

Inspiring Letter

What beautiful advice to your daughter. I love the strength, the resilience, the beauty that you express that she should have. Thank you Osai for sharing this lovely letter.

Camila

Osai's picture

Re: Inspiring Letter

Thank you Camila. I am glad that the message inspired such good qualities. Thanks for your kind words.

Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

One of Many's picture

Profound message in a form I love

Dear Osai:

Thank you for using my favorite form of poetry to express your love and hopes for your daughter.

I hope she can follow your guidance, and I wish she didn't have to face the challenges you and I believe are likely going to be part of her world. You know the cost of standing up to the challenges, and the dearer cost of submitting to them.

I hope your poem is published across the world, for people to understand the love and wisdom you are sharing with your dear child.

Bless you and her,

Anna

Speaking my Peace

Osai's picture

Thank you so much

Dear Anna,

Wow, wow! I am glad you could connect with it. I debated for a while whether to do a dear jane letter or compose a poem. I did not focus much on the stanzas but just wrote as I felt. I had reflected a lot on it and I wanted a piece that did not encourage fear but rather shows that one can overcome all these challenges if we are steadfast and don't lose sight of who we are.

With many suggestions like yours to publish, I need to do this so that I can spread this message worldwide.

Thank you so much for sharing and for your blessings.

God bless.

Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

One of Many's picture

Yes, Living Truely

Hello, Osai:

Yes, affirmation is best! Sometimes it is a stretch to look on the positive side and affirm what is right.

In hatha yoga, some people refer to "working the edge of your mat," and that feels right to me...expanding my abilities, working always, or extending always, in the direction of Universal Love, Heart - Mind connection.

Bless you. Lucky you to have a little girl.

Namaste.

Anna

Speaking my Peace

Mila's picture

Wow and thank you!

Hi Osai,

Wow! I'm blown away!! I could not have written it better myself. Thank you so much for sharing your smart, genuine and well-worded letter. I think I'm going to have to save this and share it with my future daughter. Please keep writing and sharing your voice with the world.

All the best,
Mila

Osai's picture

Thank you so much

Dear Mila,

Thank you so much for reading and appreciating. Please do share this as much as you can. Encouraged by you and everyone, I will work hard to keep writing and speaking out.

Best wishes,
Osai

Twitter: @livingtruely

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