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Les causes du divorce à BUKAVU

Le mariage d'après quelques personnes que nous côtoyons est définit comme étant le paradis terrestre. Dieu lui même l'a béni en disant aux conjoints: "soyez bénis et remplissez la terre", le législateur affirme aussi que le mariage est un contrat consensuel, publique et officiel mené devant un officié de l’État civil et établissant un union entre l'homme et la femme.
A BUKAVU, le mariage reste l’événement le plus respecté dans la vie des jeunes mariés, du petit enfant au viel homme, du travailleur au chômeur, de la femme à l'homme, de l'intellectuel à l'homme de la rue, tout le monde prend le mariage pour un événement le plus spécial de la vie.
Cependant les dégradations du climat de mariage auxquelles nous assistons ces derniers temps font que les jeunes célibataires hésitent à contracter le mariage et désirent rester dans leur état au lieu que d'imiter la situation des mariés actuellement à la une dans nos rues. tire.
Cela étant, pourquoi et comment les conjoints qui se sont proclamés unis pour la vie et pour la mort peuvent-ils vouloir se séparer définitivement pour toute la vie?
Cette question demeure être une casse-tête pour nous tous, les célibataires demandent les causes aux mariés, les mariés ne sachant quelle est la véritable cause de divorce ne font qu’accuser le conjoint ou la conjointe, les enfants ou les membres de la famille, les avoirs, les objets, les événements, la coutume,.....
A mon avis, le premier ennemis du mariage est le diable car il n'est pas satisfait de l'état de gaieté qui a lieu dans une vraie famille, c-à-d une famille qui désire vivre en harmonie, voilà pourquoi il a introduit quelques déviations dans l'exercice du mariage les voici:
- la manque du vrai amour pour les conjoints: les conjoints ont perdu l'amour qui est sans intérêt, qui croit tout, qui pardonne tout, qui accepte tout, qui supporte tout et qui comprend tout. En effet tout conjoint qui a son propre amour pour l'autre ne pourra jamais accepter d'encaisser les erreur jusqu'à détruire tout le mariage définitivement.
- l'hypocrisie de la jeune femme: les femmes qui se marient aujourd'hui dans nos quartiers de Bukavu se marient non parce qu’elles sont contentes du lien qui va les unir mais parce qu’elles veulent éviter les moqueries. L’état de célibat perpétuel surtout chez la femme reste un drame à éviter dans les sociétés de Bukavu, chacune veut s'y tirer de son mieux même sans son consentement personnel, cela pourra aboutir à des situations néfastes après quelque durée de mariage.
- la présence d'une coutume chez l'homme à laquelle la femme n'est pas habituée et vice versa: BUKAVU étant une ville qui comprend une multitude des tribus, les ressortissants des différents endroits se marient entre eux mais les conséquences ne sont pas toujours bonnes.

English translation by community member bikesu

Causes of Divorce in Bukavu

Some people say that marriage is heaven on earth. God himself has blessed the married couple by saying: "be blessed and fill the earth". the legislator also affirms that marriage is a civil union that is establlished by a public official.

At Bukavu, marriage is the most respected event in the life of a young married couple, whomever you ask on the street, from a young boy to an old man, they will all tell you that marriage is the most important event of one's life.

Therefore young bachelors hesitate to get married when they see the deterioration done to the marriage concept. They want to stay single instead of experiencing the issues that they see in married couples. That said, one might wonder why a couple united until death do them part would want to separate for life?

This question is a big puzzle for us all. Bachelors ask married couples why, and usually married couples don't know how to respond to this question and can only blame their partners, their children, or other members of the family, or objects, customs, certain events...

In my opinion the biggest enemy of marriages is the devil because he is not satisfied by the happy state of a real family living in peace and happiness, therefore he deviates the marriage from its happy path. Here are some examples:
-Lack of love between the couple: When the married couple has lost their love for each other, love love that believes all, pardons all, accepts and understands everything. In fact any spouse who loves his/ her partner will never accept to let the errors ruin the marriage definitively.
-hypocrisy of the young girl: Women who get married today in Bukavu don't want to get married to unite their lives with the person they love, they want to get married so they don't become a laughing stock. A perpetual state of being single for a women is a tragedy to be avoided in all communities in Bukavu, therefore everybody wants to get married to their best option without actually wanting to, and this can create bad situations after being married for a while.
-if the man has a habbit that the woman is not used to and vice versa: Bukavu is a city where people from a multitude of tribes live together. Therefore sometimes people from different tribes get married, but sometimes the consequences are not always good.

Comments

mayele's picture

Bonjour

Merci pour ton article qui est vraiment edifiant

Mayele , Maman shujaa and World Pulse volunteer

FAIDA NGALYA ESTHER's picture

BONJOUR

Je suis vraiment contente que cela vous ait édifié
MERCI

FAIDA NGALYA ESTHER

mayele's picture

je t en prie

chere amie

Mayele , Maman shujaa and World Pulse volunteer

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Translation

Causes of Divorce in Bukavu

Some people say that marriage is heaven on earth. God himself has blessed the married couple by saying: "be blessed and fill the earth". the legislator also affirms that marriage is a civil union that is establlished by a public official.

At Bukavu, marriage is the most respected event in the life of a young married couple, whomever you ask on the street, from a young boy to an old man, they will all tell you that marriage is the most important event of one's life.

Therefore young bachelors hesitate to get married when they see the deterioration done to the marriage concept. They want to stay single instead of experiencing the issues that they see in married couples. That said, one might wonder why a couple united until death do them part would want to separate for life?

This question is a big puzzle for us all. Bachelors ask married couples why, and usually married couples don't know how to respond to this question and can only blame their partners, their children, or other members of the family, or objects, customs, certain events...

In my opinion the biggest enemy of marriages is the devil because he is not satisfied by the happy state of a real family living in peace and happiness, therefore he deviates the marriage from its happy path. Here are some examples:
-Lack of love between the couple: When the married couple has lost their love for each other, love love that believes all, pardons all, accepts and understands everything. In fact any spouse who loves his/ her partner will never accept to let the errors ruin the marriage definitively.
-hypocrisy of the young girl: Women who get married today in Bukavu don't want to get married to unite their lives with the person they love, they want to get married so they don't become a laughing stock. A perpetual state of being single for a women is a tragedy to be avoided in all communities in Bukavu, therefore everybody wants to get married to their best option without actually wanting to, and this can create bad situations after being married for a while.
-if the man has a habbit that the woman is not used to and vice versa: Bukavu is a city where people from a multitude of tribes live together. Therefore sometimes people from different tribes get married, but sometimes the consequences are not always good.

FAIDA NGALYA ESTHER's picture

votre traduction

Merci vraiment pour la traduction que vous avez faite. Je vois que vous connaissez d'avantage l'anglais, je compte echanger avec vous sur la langue anglaise, que vous m'aidiez à la connaitre aussi car je suis congolaise et je ne connais que l'anglais.

FAIDA NGALYA ESTHER

FAIDA NGALYA ESTHER's picture

votre traduction

Merci vraiment pour la traduction que vous avez faite. Je vois que vous connaissez d'avantage l'anglais, je compte echanger avec vous sur la langue anglaise, que vous m'aidiez à la connaitre aussi car je suis congolaise et je ne connais que le francais.

FAIDA NGALYA ESTHER

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