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STRATEGIES ET GRANDES ORIENTATIONS POUR LES ARTICLES QUI CONSERNENT LES DEPENSES DE FËTES DE MARIAGE ET LEURS IMPACTS SOCIO-ECON

- INTRODUCTION
Nous venons de voir dans les articles précédents que les dépenses des fêtes étaient considérées comme symbole d’amour et d’alliance des jeunes mariés à la famille élargie ont changé de signification à travers le temps.
Nous avons aussi remarqué que les jeunes mariés s’engagent dans ces coûts élevés par imitation.
Nous avons aussi remarqué qu’en plus de la loi congolaise la religion ainsi que les codes de la famille dans ses articles (336, 330, 349,…) confirment l’institution du mariage mais pas l’imposition des dépenses de fête comme condition de validité du mariage.

1) STRATEGIES D’ORDRE JURIDIQUE, RELIGIEUX, CULTUREL ET ECONOMIQUE
Dans notre société les cérémonies du mariage conduisent de plus en plus à des abus (considération de la fête de mariage comme un achat. Ce qu’il faudrait combattre pour pouvoir concilier le mariage avec las principes des fêtes).
- SUR LE PLAN JURIDIQUE
Le code de la famille de la RDC, en insistant sur les mariages civil comme condition d’union, légitime entre en contradiction avec le principe « dépenses des fêtes de mariage ».
- SUR LE PLAN CULTUREL
Les défenseurs de la tradition (Les Bashamuka) devraient réorienter les conversations, les conseils, les décisions quotidiennes dans le sens d’un mariage vu comme lien d’amitié et non comme la valeur de la fille à marier. Ils doivent voir le mariage comme un agrandissement de la famille et non comme la perte d’un membre de la famille. Il faut voir le nouveau mariage comme une possibilité de collaboration, entraide mutuel dans le futur et non comme la séparation économique de la famille avec la fille mariée.
- SUR LE PLAN RELIGIEUX
L’église devrait évangéliser dans le sens de droit de la femme et de l’enfant, qu’il faut absolument respecter pour témoigner l’amour de Dieu.
- SUR LE PLAN ECONOMIQUE

Les différents acteurs économiques tels que : l’Etat, les ONG, les entreprises privées et publiques devraient se fixer l’idéal d’augmenter la capacité économique et ethnique des jeunes.
2) STATEGIE D’ORDRE SOCIAL ( le vécu quotidien)
Les hommes et les femmes doivent s’engager avec la même énergie en vue de construire une société équitable entre eux, dans la relation homme-femme, parce que le problème de l’un affecte impérativement l’autre.
- DU COTE DE LA FAMILLE ËLARGIE
Elles doivent d’abord comprendre ses droits et ses devoirs en tant que responsable d’aider et de conseiller leurs enfants à ce qui concerne les dépenses énormes avant de contracter leur mariage.
- DU CÖTE DES JEUNES
Ils doivent suffisamment réfléchir sur la question des dépenses avant les engagements pour éviter les conflits entre les membres de la famille occasionnées par ces dépenses des fêtes de mariage.
- LES ECOLES
Les écoles en tant que lieu d’éducation devraient attirer l’attention de la jeunesse sur ces phénomènes en essayant d’échanger sur les pratiques négatives constatées dans la commune d’Ibanda en ce qui concerne les dépenses de fête de mariage et son impact socio-économique sur les ménages en les dénonçant ouvertement par des conférences, de travaux des recherches, des médias…
Avec ces différentes stratégies menées conjointement par divers intervenants, nous sommes convaincus que l’idéal des dépenses des fêtes de mariage sera réalisé et que le mariage sera appréhendé dans la meilleure vision.

English translation by community member bikesu

Strategies and Broad Guidelines for articles that relate to expenditure on weddings and their socioeconomic impact

- INTRODUCTION
We saw in previous articles that party expenditure are considered a symbol of love and alliance of the young married couple to the extended family. These signs have changed significantly throughout time.

We also noticed that in addition to the congolese law and religion, the family code in the articles 336, 330, and 349 confirm that marriage is an institution which does not require the economic burden of a celebration as a condition to validate the marriage.

1) LEGAL, RELIGIOUS, CULTURAL, AND ECONOMIC STRATEGIES

In our society, wedding ceremonies lead to more and more abuses (considering the wedding ceremony like a purchase. Something that needs to be fought to be able to conciliate marriage and wedding party).
-LEGAL ASPECT
The family code of DRC insists on civil marriages as a legitimate union and is in contradiction with the principle of spending money in "marriage celebration".

- CULTURAL ASPECT
The advocates of the tradition (Bashamuka) need to reorient their conversations, advice, and daily decisions in a way that portrays marriage as a friendship, and not for the worth of the bride. People need to see marriage as a way to expand their families, not as losing a family member, we need to start considering the new union as a possibility of collaboration, mutual assistance in the future, and not like an economic separation between the bride and her family.

-RELIGIOUS ASPECT
The Church should evangelize in the sense that women's and children's rights need to be completely respected for the love of God.

-ECONOMIC ASPECT

There are different economic actors such as: the state, NGOs, private and public enterprises, ideally they need to focus on expanding the economic and ethnic capability of the youth.

2) DAILY SOCIAL STRATEGIES

Men and women need to engage with each other with the same energy and enthusiasm in view of building an equal society, equal relationships between men and women, because any problem in one group will affect the other.

-EXTENDED FAMILIES
Women need to understand their rights and their responsibilities as they are the ones responsible FOR educating and helping out their kids, they need to advise their children about the wedding costs before they decide to get married.

-YOUNG INDIVIDUALS
They need to ponder the topic in terms of expenses before getting engaged to avoid conflicts between family members that might occur due to wedding party costs.

-SCHOOLS

Schools need to get the attention of young individuals and teach them this phenomena and aim to change this negative practice of the expenditure on wedding celebrations and their socioeconomic impacts on the married couple. There needs to be more research on the issue as well as more education via conferences, and media.

With the help of these different strategies conjointly leading the way, we are convinced that marriage expenses will be understood better, and marriages will celebrated with ideal amounts of expenses.

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Strategies and Broad Guidelines for articles that relate to expenditure on weddings and their socioeconomic impact

- INTRODUCTION
We saw in previous articles that party expenditure are considered a symbol of love and alliance of the young married couple to the extended family. These signs have changed significantly throughout time.

We also noticed that in addition to the congolese law and religion, the family code in the articles 336, 330, and 349 confirm that marriage is an institution which does not require the economic burden of a celebration as a condition to validate the marriage.

1) LEGAL, RELIGIOUS, CULTURAL, AND ECONOMIC STRATEGIES

In our society, wedding ceremonies lead to more and more abuses (considering the wedding ceremony like a purchase. Something that needs to be fought to be able to conciliate marriage and wedding party).
-LEGAL ASPECT
The family code of DRC insists on civil marriages as a legitimate union and is in contradiction with the principle of spending money in "marriage celebration".

- CULTURAL ASPECT
The advocates of the tradition (Bashamuka) need to reorient their conversations, advice, and daily decisions in a way that portrays marriage as a friendship, and not for the worth of the bride. People need to see marriage as a way to expand their families, not as losing a family member, we need to start considering the new union as a possibility of collaboration, mutual assistance in the future, and not like an economic separation between the bride and her family.

-RELIGIOUS ASPECT
The Church should evangelize in the sense that women's and children's rights need to be completely respected for the love of God.

-ECONOMIC ASPECT

There are different economic actors such as: the state, NGOs, private and public enterprises, ideally they need to focus on expanding the economic and ethnic capability of the youth.

2) DAILY SOCIAL STRATEGIES

Men and women need to engage with each other with the same energy and enthusiasm in view of building an equal society, equal relationships between men and women, because any problem in one group will affect the other.

-EXTENDED FAMILIES
Women need to understand their rights and their responsibilities as they are the ones responsible FOR educating and helping out their kids, they need to advise their children about the wedding costs before they decide to get married.

-YOUNG INDIVIDUALS
They need to ponder the topic in terms of expenses before getting engaged to avoid conflicts between family members that might occur due to wedding party costs.

-SCHOOLS

Schools need to get the attention of young individuals and teach them this phenomena and aim to change this negative practice of the expenditure on wedding celebrations and their socioeconomic impacts on the married couple. There needs to be more research on the issue as well as more education via conferences, and media.

With the help of these different strategies conjointly leading the way, we are convinced that marriage expenses will be understood better, and marriages will celebrated with ideal amounts of expenses.

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