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DIVORCE

LE DIVORCE des parents, c’est comme un fin du monde, un drame qui peut laisser des séquelles indélébiles. Il fait souvent jaillir un flot de sentiments ; honte , colère, anxiété , peur d’être abandonné ,culpabilité , découragement , profonde sensation de vidé et même désir de vengeance.
Si nos parents ont récemment divorcé, nous éprouvons sans doute de tels sentiments. Après tout, le créateur avait prévu que nous soyons élevé à la fois par notre père et par notre mère. Quoi qu’il en soit, nous sommes maintenant privé de la présence quotidienne d’un de nos parents qui nous est cher.
De nombreux divorces sont prononcés parce qu’un conjoint se rend coupable d’adultère. Dans d’autres cas, le courroux, les cris et les propos outrageants dégénèrent en actes violents, ce qui amène un de conjoints à craindre pour sa sécurité et elle de ses enfants.
Il faut le connaître, certains divorcent pour des raisons futiles.au lieu de chercher à résoudre leurs problèmes, ils divorcent en égoïstes, prétendant être malheureux, frustrés ou ne plus être amoureux ; ( cela déplaît à Dieu qui hait le divorce) et gênant de reconnaître les manquement d e l’un et de l’autre.
Essayons de choisir le meilleur moment pour discuter calmement ave nos parents de nos inquiétudes, dites- leur que leur divorce nous attriste et nous trouble. Peut- être nous fourniront une explication satisfaisante, si non, ne désespèrent pas nos parents n’ont- ils pas le droit d’avoir leur vie privée !.
En fin, comprenons que le divorce quelle qu’en soit la cause, est un conflit dans le quel nos parents s’opposent l’un à l’autre , mais non à nous ! ont remarque que les conjoints rejettent la responsabilité du divorce l’un sur l’autre, sur leurs employeurs, membres de la famille ou sur des amis. Mais aucun ne rend les enfants responsable, les sentiments de nos parents à notre égard n’ont pas changé.

English translation by community member amys

Divorce

When parents get divorced, it’s like the end of the world, a tragedy that can leave lasting consequences. It often causes a flood of emotions to come pouring out, shame, anger, anxiety, fear of being abandoned, guilt, sadness, a deep feeling of emptiness and even the desire for revenge.

If our parents have recently divorced, we will no doubt experience feelings such as these. After all, the creator intended for us to be raised by both our father and our mother. Whatever happens, we our now deprived of the daily presence of one of our beloved parents. Many divorces are caused because one person has committed adultery. In other cases, the anger, the shouting, the abusive words descend into violence, which leaves one of the spouses fearing for their safety and that of their children.

We must admit that some people get divorced for trivial reasons. Instead of trying to resolve their problems, they selfishly seek a divorce, claiming they are unhappy, frustrated, or no longer in love; at pains to look for faults in the other person (this displeases God, who hates divorce). We should try to choose the best moment to talk about our worries calmly with our parents, tell them that their divorce is upsetting us and making us sad. They may give us a reasonable explanation, and if not, don’t despair – our parents have a right to a private life, don’t they!

Finally, we must understand that, whatever the cause of a divorce, our parents are in conflict with each other, but not with us! We see couples blaming their divorce on each other, on their employers, on members of the family or on their friends. But no one holds the children responsible. Our parents’ feelings towards us have not changed.

Comments

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Merci pour vos mots, vous

Merci pour vos mots, vous avez expliqué très sensiblement des différentes situations qui peuvent mener au divorce, et les conséquences – les sentiments et les désaccords que vous décrivez sont des choses universelles, qui sont le même dans tous les pays du monde. Les conseils que vous donnez aux enfants sont très pertinents – le divorce n’est jamais la faute des enfants, et il faut qu’ils le sachent. Il faut aider les enfants à accepter le divorce des parents, sans qu’ils souffrent trop.

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Translation

Divorce

When parents get divorced, it’s like the end of the world, a tragedy that can leave lasting consequences. It often causes a flood of emotions to come pouring out, shame, anger, anxiety, fear of being abandoned, guilt, sadness, a deep feeling of emptiness and even the desire for revenge.

If our parents have recently divorced, we will no doubt experience feelings such as these. After all, the creator intended for us to be raised by both our father and our mother. Whatever happens, we our now deprived of the daily presence of one of our beloved parents. Many divorces are caused because one person has committed adultery. In other cases, the anger, the shouting, the abusive words descend into violence, which leaves one of the spouses fearing for their safety and that of their children.

We must admit that some people get divorced for trivial reasons. Instead of trying to resolve their problems, they selfishly seek a divorce, claiming they are unhappy, frustrated, or no longer in love; at pains to look for faults in the other person (this displeases God, who hates divorce). We should try to choose the best moment to talk about our worries calmly with our parents, tell them that their divorce is upsetting us and making us sad. They may give us a reasonable explanation, and if not, don’t despair – our parents have a right to a private life, don’t they!

Finally, we must understand that, whatever the cause of a divorce, our parents are in conflict with each other, but not with us! We see couples blaming their divorce on each other, on their employers, on members of the family or on their friends. But no one holds the children responsible. Our parents’ feelings towards us have not changed.

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