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LE DIVORCE EN REPUBLIQUE DEMOCRATIQUE DU CONGO

Le cas de la province du Sud –Kivu/ Ville de Bukavu
En République Démocratique du Congo, on enregistre beaucoup de cas de divorce ces derniers temps ; ce qui conduit entre autre les anciens époux et ou leurs membres des familles respectives par rapport à la garde des enfants.
Avant tout, le DIVORCE est la rupture officielle d’un mariage civil ou religieux liant précédemment deux personnes. En droit il se distingue de la séparation de faits sans conséquence juridique et de la séparation de corps qui est reconnu juridiquement mais qui laisse subsister le mariage.
Dans la Province du sud – Kivu en général et particulièrement dans la Ville de Bukavu, on voit tant de jeunes contracter des mariages dans chaque semaine et cela dans toutes les paroisses (chapelles ; secteurs, etc.) catholiques, Protestantes et autres.
Le pire est de voir qu’en dépit de ces mariages contractés (célébrés) en plus d’autres non connus légalement ; nombreux d’entre eux finissent sans tarder par être rompu par les contractants. Ainsi, nous parlons de cas de DIVORCE.
En effet, nous ne pouvons pas dire que le Divorce au Sud – Kivu et/ ou dans le monde entier est un phénomène social mais vu son caractère permanent dans les sociétés, nous pouvons dire que ce dernier est un fait social.
Paradoxalement à jadis, le divorce est devenu une monnaie courante dans assez de famille et cela accroit son taux de fréquentation au jour le jour.
Auparavant, pour qu’il y ait divorce dans telle ou telle autre famille, la cause devrait être nécessairement approuvée et justifiée par l’auteur et cela avec indemnité en faveur de la partie adverse. Mais actuellement plusieurs causes font naitre le divorce dans plusieurs familles telles que :
 La pauvreté,
 Le manque d’encadrement dans des familles entre les conjoints et surtout entre parents vis-à-vis de leurs enfants.
A titre illustratif, suit à la pauvreté des parents dans des familles, certains enfants cherchent à se débrouillaient. Ainsi, en plus d’être putes, elles se marient précocement et sans aucune préparation tant morale que matérielle pour la vie conjugale. A cet effet, ces conjoints qui contractent précocement le mariage, soit par voie légale et mainte fois par rapt « KURENDEZA », ne supportent pas les caprices de l’autre conjoint suite au manque de maturité pour fonder une famille.
Outre malgré les études et/ ou formations suivies, décrocher un travail quelconque en RDC en général, spécialement au Sud – Kivu apparait actuellement comme une chance extraordinaire pour le bas peuple que nous sommes. Ainsi dans tant des familles, quand la possibilité économique de l’époux devient de plus en plus bas et de plus si la femme trouve une énorme fortune que son mari, les femmes ont toujours eu tendance à réclamer le divorce.

Eu égard à tout ce qui précède, il nous semble très nécessaire d’interpeler à toute personne morale comme physique qui peut avoir une solution quelconque sur un plan ou un autre pour baisser le taux du fléau en question, d’apporter son aide (morale comme matérielle) dans cette partie de la République Démocratique du Congo surtout en faveur des femmes et filles qui sont de plus en plus victimes de divorce et autre antivaleurs.
Merci beaucoup et à la prochaine.

English translation by community member Zhuyun Maggie Xiao

Divorce in Democratic Republic of Congo

The case of the province of South Kivu / Bukavu City
In the Democratic Republic of Congo, the record of the number of recent divorce cases is high. Divorces leads to the conflict between other former spouses and other members of respective families regarding child care.
Above all, divorce is an official break-upvof civil or religious marriage which previously linked two persons. In law it is different from the fact of separation, without legal consequence, and it is also different from living apart without a legal divorce.
In southern Province – Kivu in general and particularly in the city of Bukavu, on can see so many young people contract their marriages each week in all the Catholic, Protestant or other religious parishes (chapels, sectors, etc.)
The worst is to see that in spite of these contracted marriages (celebrated) in addition to other marriages not known legally; many of them end up immediately when contractors break them up. Thus we talk about the DIVORCE cases.
Indeed, we cannot say that the divorce in South-Kivu and/ or around the world is a social phenomenon but given the permanent impression it leaves to society, we can say that it is a social fact.
Paradoxically in the past, divorce has become commonplace in many families and the frequencies of divorce increase from day to day.
In the past, in order to have a divorce in such families, the cause must necessarily be approved or justified by the creator and those with compensation in favor of the adverse party. Yet currently several causes for divorces in many families to emerge are:
-->Poverty
-->The lack of supervision in families between spouses and especially between parents towards their children.
As an illustration, following the poverty of parents in these families, some children seek to manage themselves on their own. Thus, in addition to being prostitutes, they marry early and withour and moral as well as marital preparations for married life. To this end, these spouses who contract their mariage early, by legal means and many times by abducting “KURENDEZA”, do not support the vagaries of the other spouse due to lack of maturity to start a family.
In addition, despite the educations and/ or training received, obtain any job in the DRC in general, especially in South-Kivu nowadays, seems as an extraordinary opportunity for common people like us.
Therefore in so many families, when the husband's economic opportunity diminishes, if the wives find a large fortune ahead of her, these women tend to call for divorce.

Consider all the things discussed above, it seems very necessarily to call for any moral person who can have some solution to come up a plan that can lower the rate of divorcing plague, who can provide support in this part of DRC, especially in favor of the increasing number of women and girls who are victimes of divorces and other anti-values.

Thank you very much, and see you next time!

Comments

Ariane Moza Assumani's picture

merci

grand merci mon amie nous voulons savoir plus la difference qui réside entre un phénomène et un fait social? mais de toute le façon votre journal est nécessaire dans notre communauté mais aussi dans notre pays. félicitation

arianemoza

Merci beaucoup ma chère, je penses qu'Un phénomène social c'est ce qui arrive, se produit, se manifeste et qui sort de l'ordinaire alors qu'un fait social c'est une vérité, un accompli. Auparavant le divorce n'avait de monopole comme aujourd'hui, car ce dernier est devenu un jeu d'enfant. Pourquoi dit -on un jeu d'enfant? par exemple celui qui a fait le mariage seulement parce qu'il a eu un quelconque soutien mais après le mariage, celui qui le supporter soit matériellement, soit moralement l'abandonne, alors qu'il n'a plus où aller, ni quoi faire, pendant qu'il s'est déjà engager dans le monde de marié (responsable de.....), directement il procède au divorce car il se sent incapable de supporter son partenaire (conjoint). comprenez ma chère qu'il y a encore tant de choses à faire dans nos communauté. Je penses qu'ensemble nous trouverons la solution à ce dernier.
Anuarite

anolitékrz

Zhuyun Maggie Xiao's picture

Translation

Title: Divorce in Democratic Republic of Congo
Text:
The case of the province of South Kivu / Bukavu City
In the Democratic Republic of Congo, the record of the number of recent divorce cases is high. Divorces leads to the conflict between other former spouses and other members of respective families regarding child care.
Above all, divorce is an official break-upvof civil or religious marriage which previously linked two persons. In law it is different from the fact of separation, without legal consequence, and it is also different from living apart without a legal divorce.
In southern Province – Kivu in general and particularly in the city of Bukavu, on can see so many young people contract their marriages each week in all the Catholic, Protestant or other religious parishes (chapels, sectors, etc.)
The worst is to see that in spite of these contracted marriages (celebrated) in addition to other marriages not known legally; many of them end up immediately when contractors break them up. Thus we talk about the DIVORCE cases.
Indeed, we cannot say that the divorce in South-Kivu and/ or around the world is a social phenomenon but given the permanent impression it leaves to society, we can say that it is a social fact.
Paradoxically in the past, divorce has become commonplace in many families and the frequencies of divorce increase from day to day.
In the past, in order to have a divorce in such families, the cause must necessarily be approved or justified by the creator and those with compensation in favor of the adverse party. Yet currently several causes for divorces in many families to emerge are:
-->Poverty
-->The lack of supervision in families between spouses and especially between parents towards their children.
As an illustration, following the poverty of parents in these families, some children seek to manage themselves on their own. Thus, in addition to being prostitutes, they marry early and withour and moral as well as marital preparations for married life. To this end, these spouses who contract their mariage early, by legal means and many times by abducting “KURENDEZA”, do not support the vagaries of the other spouse due to lack of maturity to start a family.
In addition, despite the educations and/ or training received, obtain any job in the DRC in general, especially in South-Kivu nowadays, seems as an extraordinary opportunity for common people like us.
Therefore in so many families, when the husband's economic opportunity diminishes, if the wives find a large fortune ahead of her, these women tend to call for divorce.

Consider all the things discussed above, it seems very necessarily to call for any moral person who can have some solution to come up a plan that can lower the rate of divorcing plague, who can provide support in this part of DRC, especially in favor of the increasing number of women and girls who are victimes of divorces and other anti-values.

Thank you very much, and see you next time!

Maggie Xiao
Student at Bryn Mawr College, PA, USA

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