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MARIAGE PRECOCE

Le mariage précoce est défini comme toute union qu’elle soit civile, religieuse, coutumière entre
• illes
• Comportement indigne des parents qui poussent les enfants à fuir le toit parental
• Manque de travail surtout chez les jeunes filles
• La délinquance et vagabondage
• La mauvaise compagnie,……
Et cela a plusieurs conséquences entre autres:
Avortements répétés corps de la jeune fille n’est pas encore prêt à la maternité ce qui mène un homme et une femme n’ayant pas encore atteint l’âge majeur qui est de 18ans dans notre pays la Rép Dém du Congo, et cela peut être soit c’est la femme qui est mineure soit c’est l’homme ou tous les deux.

Ce mariage a plusieurs causes mais nous pouvons citer entre autres:
• Problèmes de coutumes
• Non connaissances des droits de l’homme et surtout de la femme
• Non assistance des parents
• Non scolarisation surtout des fà la stérilité ou la mort
• Infidélité d’où l’adultère dans le foyer
• Divorce car personne de deux conjoints ne supporte l’autre (comportement, caprices)
• Manque de confiance mutuelle
• Enfants sont abandonnés à eux seuls
• La polygamie,……
Prenons le témoignage d’une maman du nom de sifa mariée à l’âge de 17ans et ayant 6 enfants actuellement.
Agée de 13ans, ses parents lui dirent qu’elle ne pouvait plus continuer les études car ils n’ont plus assez d’argent pour elle et ses petits frères, elle abandonna les études. Elle se lança dans un petit commerce de braise pour survivre car ses parents l’abandonnèrent totalement. Elle mangeait, s’habillait à partir de ce commerce mais ne pouvait pas poursuivre les études car son revenu était trop insuffisant.
Après 4ans elle se maria sous pressions de ses parents à un homme plus âgé qu’elle qui avait 32ans ils disaient qu’elle était une charge pour eux et que les études d’une fille c’est à la cuisine. Après 3ans de mariage son mari pris une deuxième femme et cela le début de son calvair.elle avait déjà 2 enfants et une troisième grossesse. Son mari la battait le plus souvent, elle mangeait difficilement,……
Sifa vit toujours dans son foyer malgré différentes difficulté et elle veut toujours rentrer à l’école pour qu’un jour elle puisse se prendre en charge elle et ses enfants mais elle n’en a pas le moyen elle demande aide à toutes personnes de bonnes volontés et elle est à la recherche d’un travail pour subvenir à ses besoins elle et ses enfants et appelle toutes personnes à la prise de conscience ,aux parents la prise de conscience de leurs devoirs envers les enfants et que les filles aussi ont droit à une éducation de base et de qualité, aux jeunes filles d’étudier avec courage pour celles qui en ont la chance et d’être consciente de leurs droits et de les révendiquer, aux jeunes hommes d’être patient et d’aider leur sœur d’aller de l’avant, aux autorités de faire valoir les droits de la femme en général et la sensibilisation sur tout le point de vue mais aussi punir ceux qui passent outre ces droits.
• Que le gouvernement sanctionne d’une manière exemplaire les auteurs et les encourageurs de ces mariages
• Que toutes les filles et femmes prennent conscience de leurs droits
• Que les parents n’acceptent plus ces sortes de mariage, qu’ils prennent conscience des droits des enfants surtout de la jeune fille.
• Que les parents accompagnent leurs enfants pour un avenir meilleur

FEMME, IL EST TEMPS POUR TOI DE TE RELEVER ET PRENDRE CONSCIENCE DE TES DROITS

English translation by community member Anna L.

Early Marriage

Early marriage is any union − civil, religious, or traditional – involving:
• minors
• shameful conduct on the part of parents who push their children to leave home
• lack of work, especially for young women
• delinquency and homelessness
• the bad influence of others
Early marriage has many consequences, including repeated abortions due to the fact that the young girl's body isn't ready for pregnancy. In our country, the Democratic Republic of the Congo, the age of majority is eighteen. Early marriage may involve the young woman, the young man, or both being underage.

Many factors lead to early marriage and different consequences may result from it, including:
• problems related to traditions
• ignorance of basic rights, especially women's rights
• lack of support from parents
• non-enrolment in school especially due to infertility or death
• infidelity − an adulterer in the home
• divorce because neither person in the marriage can put up with the other (behavior, whims)
• the couple's lack of trust in each other
• children left to fend for themselves
• polygamy

Consider the story of a woman named Sifa; she was married at age seventeen and is now the mother of six.
When she was thirteen, her parents said she had to give up her studies; they could no longer afford her and her younger brothers and sisters' education. So she quit school and because her parents totally abandoned her, started a small business selling wood coal. She was able to eat and clothe herself from this business but didn't have enough money to pursue her studies.

Four years later, pressured by her parents, she married a man older than her (aged thirty-two). Her parents said she was a burden to them and that studies for a girl were pointless. After three years of marriage, her husband took a second wife. This was the beginning of her real ordeal because she already had two children and was pregnant with a third. Her husband often beat her and she had little to eat.

Sifa continues to lives with her husband despite various difficulties, and she still wants to go back to school so that one day she can take care of herself and her children, but she doesn't have the means. She asks for help from all those willing to give it, and she's looking for work so she can provide for herself and her children. She calls on everyone to become aware − for parents to realize their responsibilities towards their children and to understand that girls also have a right to quality basic education; for those young girls who have the opportunity to study to do so with courage, to be aware of their rights, and to demand them; for young men to be patient and to help their sisters move ahead; for the authorities to enforce women's rights in general, to promote awareness, and to punish those who disregard these rights.
• People who arrange and encourage these marriages should be punished. The government should make an example of them.
• All girls and women should become aware of their rights.
• Parents should stop condoning these marriages and instead, recognize children's rights, especially those of young girls.
• Parents should guide and support their children for a better future.

WOMAN, IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO WAKE UP AND BECOME AWARE OF YOUR RIGHTS.

Comments

Neema's picture

Merci

Votre journal est fantastique, c'est vraiment bon de savoir que nous avons des femmes et de filles tres forte pour donner les bon solutions pour l'avenir de nos filles et de nos enfants en general.
See you online
Neema

Maman nous femmes nous avons longtemps dormi nous devons nous réveiller pour faire valoir nos droits et assurer un avenir meilleur à nos enfants.Merci de nous avoir montrer le bon chemin et merci aussi pour votre commentaire. See you on online
Bénédicte

Bénédicte Bulangalire;
fille ambassadrice

Dr. Jacqueline's picture

Awareness

Hi Benedicte,
Your journal is very well written and explained the the issues bringing awareness to the topic.
Take care,
Jacqueline

Dr. Jacqueline Lang MBA

merci beacoup il est temps à nous femmes de nous réveiller et de nous battre pour nos droits et assurer notre avenir et celui de nos enfants
See you online
Bénédicte

Bénédicte Bulangalire;
fille ambassadrice

Kika Sylvie Katchunga's picture

merci

merci d'avoir levé ta voix pour parle. de ces mariage precoce qui rent la survivante plus vulnerable.c'est pour quoi,elle necessite d'être barre partout les moyen à travers les pistes de solution ci haut évoquées

sylvie

Ariane Moza Assumani's picture

NOS FELICITATIONS

Nous te félicitons infiniment pour votre contribution dans le processus de la lutte contre les violences faites aux femmes ; pour ce faire, continuons avec notre lutte pour voir si nos mamans, nos sœurs, nos filles et femmes quitterons un jours dans cette situation.

arianemoza

Anna L.'s picture

Merci d'avoir aborder ce problème

Chère Benedicte,

Merci d'avoir aborder le problème du mariage precoce au Congo. Votre analyse est détaillée et j'apprécie beaucoup le fait que vous racontez le témoignage de Sifa. J'admire Sifa pour sa courage face à des circonstances bien difficiles. Votre appel et cela de Sifa à la prise de conscience est téméraire et
inspirant.

Bien à vous,
Anna

Anna L.'s picture

Translation

Early Marriage

Early marriage is any union − civil, religious, or traditional – involving:
• minors
• shameful conduct on the part of parents who push their children to leave home
• lack of work, especially for young women
• delinquency and homelessness
• the bad influence of others
Early marriage has many consequences, including repeated abortions due to the fact that the young girl's body isn't ready for pregnancy. In our country, the Democratic Republic of the Congo, the age of majority is eighteen. Early marriage may involve the young woman, the young man, or both being underage.

Many factors lead to early marriage and different consequences may result from it, including:
• problems related to traditions
• ignorance of basic rights, especially women's rights
• lack of support from parents
• non-enrolment in school especially due to infertility or death
• infidelity − an adulterer in the home
• divorce because neither person in the marriage can put up with the other (behavior, whims)
• the couple's lack of trust in each other
• children left to fend for themselves
• polygamy

Consider the story of a woman named Sifa; she was married at age seventeen and is now the mother of six.
When she was thirteen, her parents said she had to give up her studies; they could no longer afford her and her younger brothers and sisters' education. So she quit school and because her parents totally abandoned her, started a small business selling wood coal. She was able to eat and clothe herself from this business but didn't have enough money to pursue her studies.

Four years later, pressured by her parents, she married a man older than her (aged thirty-two). Her parents said she was a burden to them and that studies for a girl were pointless. After three years of marriage, her husband took a second wife. This was the beginning of her real ordeal because she already had two children and was pregnant with a third. Her husband often beat her and she had little to eat.

Sifa continues to lives with her husband despite various difficulties, and she still wants to go back to school so that one day she can take care of herself and her children, but she doesn't have the means. She asks for help from all those willing to give it, and she's looking for work so she can provide for herself and her children. She calls on everyone to become aware − for parents to realize their responsibilities towards their children and to understand that girls also have a right to quality basic education; for those young girls who have the opportunity to study to do so with courage, to be aware of their rights, and to demand them; for young men to be patient and to help their sisters move ahead; for the authorities to enforce women's rights in general, to promote awareness, and to punish those who disregard these rights.
• People who arrange and encourage these marriages should be punished. The government should make an example of them.
• All girls and women should become aware of their rights.
• Parents should stop condoning these marriages and instead, recognize children's rights, especially those of young girls.
• Parents should guide and support their children for a better future.

WOMAN, IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO WAKE UP AND BECOME AWARE OF YOUR RIGHTS.

BENEDICTE BULANGALIRE's picture

merci bcp pour le commentaire

merci bcp pour le commentaire c'est à la femme de se lever et combattre pour ses propoes droits
bne jrnée

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