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LES MARIAGES FORCE

Consiste à marier une personne contre sa volonté. Il est organisé par les familles qui ne respectent pas voire ne se soucie pas du non consentement de leur enfant. Les jeunes qui tentent d'y échapper sont très souvent confronté-e-s à une rupture familiale avec tous les dangers et les difficultés que cela peut engendrer.
Le mariage forcé se distingue du mariage blanc qui veut dire que 2 personnes décident de se marier pour des raisons diverses mais sans aucun projet de vie conjugale. Il est puni par la loi.
Le mariage arrangé suppose que 2 personnes qui se connaissent ou pas sont d'accord pour se marier. Les époux ne se choisissent pas mais sont d'accord pour se marier.
Avant un mariage forcé , il y a souvent des violences pour faire pression:
-des insultes fréquentes : tu es nulle, tu es moche, tu es incapable de quoi que ce soit. Ces attaques abîment l'estime de soi de la personne qui les subit;
-des coups, des privations de toutes sortes (sorties, télé, nourriture);
-l'interdiction de continuer sa scolarité;
-L'enfermement et la séquestration à la maison.
Un mariage forcé pour une fille ou un garçon peut avoir de lourdes conséquences:
-Des rapports sexuels non consentis, c'est à dire des viols;
-des dépressions nerveuses;
-des violences conjugales;
-une perte d'autonomie et de liberté : arrêt des études par exemple;
-des grossesses non désirées...
Dans notre entite d’origine j ai connait une fille qui se marie avants 16ans jus qu’a maintenant elle a25ans avec 4 enfants imagine vous quelles responsabilite qu ‘ assîmes une fillette de 15ans dans le foyen.
Depuis la loi du 9 juillet 2011 relative aux violences faites spécifiquement aux femmes et aux violences au sein des couples, le mariage forcé est pris en compte par le Code pénal en tant que circonstance aggravante en cas de violences, meurtre, tentative de meurtre, tortures ou actes de barbarie.
Ces infractions sont donc plus lourdement punies « lorsqu'elles sont commises contre une personne en raison de son refus de contracter un mariage ou de conclure une union ou en raison de son refus de contracter ce mariage ou cette union ».
A savoir ! Lorsque les infractions de viol, violences, meurtre ou tentative, tortures ou actes de barbarie ont été commises à l'étranger sur une personne vivant habituellement en France (française ou non), la loi pénale française s'applique. Cela signifie que tu peux porter plainte en France pour des faits commis à l'étranger.
Si tu es concerné, tu ne dois pas rester seule, parles-en à une personne de ton entourage, une personne de confiance.
Tu peux également contacter des associations de ton département. Consulte la carte de France.
Ici au Congo c’est ne pas comme en France les mariage force est fréquents ,nous aimerions que nos voix soit rependu aux monde pour que les mariage force arrête dans le Congo.

English translation by community member LightMyWay

A forced marriage is marrying someone against his or her will. It is organized by families that neither respect nor care about their child’s lack of consent. The young people who try to get out of it are often confronted by family ruptures and all the dangers and difficulties they entail.

Forced marriage is different from a marriage in name only, which means that two people decide to wed for any number of reasons without planning to actually live together. It is punishable by law.

Arranged marriage assumes that two people who may or may not know each other are in agreement to marry. The spouses don’t choose each other but agree to marry.

Before a forced marriage, there is often violence to create pressure:
--Frequent insults: “You’re worthless,” “You’re ugly,” “You can’t do anything.” These attacks destroy the self-esteem of the person who endures them;
--Blows/slaps, deprivation of all kinds (outings, TV, food);
--Ban on continuing education;
--Confinement or being shut in in one’s own home

Forced marriage can have serious consequences for both girls and boys:
--Nonconsensual sex, that is, rape;
--Nervous breakdowns;
--Spousal violence;
--Loss of autonomy and freedom, stopping one’s studies, for instance;
--Unwanted pregnancies…

Here in our circle, I knew a girl who was married before she was 16. Now she is 25 and has 4 children; imagine the responsibilities a young girl aged 15 must assume in the household.

Since the July 9, 2011 law on violence against women and conjugal abuse, forced marriage has been considered by the Penal Code as an aggravating circumstance in cases of violence, murder, attempted murder, torture, or acts of brutality.

These offenses are thus more harshly punished “when they are committed against a person for reasons of his refusing to enter into marriage or conclude a union.”

NOTE: When the offenses of rape, violence, murder or attempted murder, torture or acts of brutality have been committed abroad against a person who lives in France (whether French or not), the French penal law is applicable. This means if you live in France you can press charges in France for acts committed abroad.

If you’re concerned, don’t stay alone. Talk about it to someone close to you, someone you trust. You can also contact organizations in your department. Reference a map of France.

Here in the Congo, it’s not like in France; forced marriage is common. We would like our voices to be heard throughout the world so that forced marriage will stop in the Congo.

Comments

PRINCESSE MULUZINYERE's picture

MERCI

Ma sœur votre journal est intéressant dans ce monde florissant world pulse! Ma chère pouvait-tu nous faire des pistes de solution pouvant nous aider à combattre ce type de mariage? courage ma sœur efforce-nous pour combattre ce type de mariage

Princesse

muhorakeye's picture

reponse

ilyana beaucoup des solutions si notre peys songe a se problem e

-Scolarisation des filles
-Formation des filles contre le mariage précoce
-D’autre formation nécessaire qui va les aide dans
leur vie quotidienne
-Faire contrôle avant le mariage civil pour évite ce mariage

Muhorakeye Esperance

LightMyWay's picture

Merci

Chère Muhorakeye,

Merci pour cette entrée de journal qui explique très bien les dangers du mariage précoce. C’est une situation dont je n’étais pas très consciente avant, mais maintenant, grâce à vous et vos amies, j’en ai beaucoup appris et je prie pour son arrêt immédiat dans le RDC.

Courage, mon amie—on vous soutient.

Sincèrement,
LightMyWay
(Lydia)

muhorakeye's picture

merci de votre soutien nous

merci de votre soutien nous Somme très contante et nous esperons la fin des nos problemes avec les femmes du monde merci encor

Muhorakeye Esperance

A forced marriage is marrying someone against his or her will. It is organized by families that neither respect nor care about their child’s lack of consent. The young people who try to get out of it are often confronted by family ruptures and all the dangers and difficulties they entail.

Forced marriage is different from a marriage in name only, which means that two people decide to wed for any number of reasons without planning to actually live together. It is punishable by law.

Arranged marriage assumes that two people who may or may not know each other are in agreement to marry. The spouses don’t choose each other but agree to marry.

Before a forced marriage, there is often violence to create pressure:
--Frequent insults: “You’re worthless,” “You’re ugly,” “You can’t do anything.” These attacks destroy the self-esteem of the person who endures them;
--Blows/slaps, deprivation of all kinds (outings, TV, food);
--Ban on continuing education;
--Confinement or being shut in in one’s own home

Forced marriage can have serious consequences for both girls and boys:
--Nonconsensual sex, that is, rape;
--Nervous breakdowns;
--Spousal violence;
--Loss of autonomy and freedom, stopping one’s studies, for instance;
--Unwanted pregnancies…

Here in our circle, I knew a girl who was married before she was 16. Now she is 25 and has 4 children; imagine the responsibilities a young girl aged 15 must assume in the household.

Since the July 9, 2011 law on violence against women and conjugal abuse, forced marriage has been considered by the Penal Code as an aggravating circumstance in cases of violence, murder, attempted murder, torture, or acts of brutality.

These offenses are thus more harshly punished “when they are committed against a person for reasons of his refusing to enter into marriage or conclude a union.”

NOTE: When the offenses of rape, violence, murder or attempted murder, torture or acts of brutality have been committed abroad against a person who lives in France (whether French or not), the French penal law is applicable. This means if you live in France you can press charges in France for acts committed abroad.

If you’re concerned, don’t stay alone. Talk about it to someone close to you, someone you trust. You can also contact organizations in your department. Reference a map of France.

Here in the Congo, it’s not like in France; forced marriage is common. We would like our voices to be heard throughout the world so that forced marriage will stop in the Congo.

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