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FILLE COEPOUSE DE SA MERE

FILLE COEPOUSE DE SA MERE
Ces derniers temps, il se vit des relations d’amour qui semblent être incompréhensibles a la vie de quelques personnes, mais vraies a la vie d’autres, c’est le cas d’une fille qui devient la coépouse de sa mère. Cette histoire est vécue par une copine a moi née de sa mère avant son mariage. Lors de son mariage, elle avait 12ans et l’amena chez elle comme convenue avec son mari.
Six ans plus tard, le mari de sa mère ,soit disant son père a changer petit a petit son comportement vis-à-vis de sa fille.il vivat une certaine affection très profonde et très gentil Enver elle.la maman voyant tous cela ,se félicitant comme quoi son mari aime bien sa fille.peu a peu, le père propos l’amour a sa fille en l’avouant qu’il aimait.la fille se tue tout en étant discrète car on lui en avait demande.au fil de temps, son amour se perfectionne davantage ,il aimait follement sa fille ,qui tombant fin de fin amoureuse a lui. Cette réciprocité amenant a céder le cœur l’un a l’autre. Plus tard, les voisins suspectèrent cette situation et interpellèrent sa mère comme elle doit surveiller la relation de sa fille envers son père car c’est incroyable que tu sois sur place et la fille est vue dans des cérémonies, des manifestations, et même un peu partout dans la ville avec son père.
La mère n’ayant pas cru, tonnant fortement a ses voisins car la confiance qu’elle avait envers son mari étais tellement extravagante et solide. Elle croyais directement, après analyse de la situation, que les voisins veulent qu’elle ait un problème dans son foyer. Un collègue et ami a son mari lui avouant la même chose, elle étais étonné des ont dit et s’en va auprès de sa fille avec toute discrétion possible et lui demanda si réellement la situation est relle.la fille, quant a elle, nia en disant qu’elle mène seulement la relation de vie familiale avec lui sans s’imaginer a d’autre chose.la maman tellement dérangée ,se décida de s’enquérir d’informations a son mari ,qui lui répondit: non ,mais cela peut être possible et vrai, je ne suis pas parfait. Pareille réponse du père déséquilibra la maman, ce qui poussant la maman a l’amener chez ses grands parents de sa fille pour l’éloigner du problème et sauver l’honneur de son mari.
En vin, elle qui croyait avoir résolu, la situation, la relation entre eux continua et s’approfondissant sans que la maman ne soit informée, ils rendent solide leur amour. A la grande surprise de la mère un de ses voisine avait un hôtel et cela ou il partait se repose souvent, alors la voisine avais peur de le dire a la mère car quand elle en avait avant dit la mère avais fortement tonne.pui quand la propriétaire de l’hôtel avais vue que vraiment la situation est devenue habituelle, elle avais très mal, elle se décida d’aller voir cette mère rencontra tous et dira a la maman comme preuve vient a mon hôtel demain a 16h.demain arriva et la maman se rendue a son hôtel et le couple étais déjà dans la chambre.et lui dira de se mettre tous juste au coin de l’entre de la pote, elle se mis et reste en attente ,vers 18h le couple est sorti de la chambre la mère n’a pas pu supporté ,elle est tombe invanuit.et on l’amena a l’hôpital. Dans tous les deux familles il ya eu une incompréhension totale, ils se sont mis ensemble et convoquant les concernés de ce problème. Les deux familles voulais que l’homme leur dissent ce qui lui a pousse de faire cette genre de situation, le père avait été claire tous le monde et répondis ;je suis désole que cela est arrive mais je l’aime déjà de tous mon cœur et personne n’a aucun pouvoir d’arrêter cet amour si ce ne pas la mort.les parents se sont etonne.et en voulant connaitre la position de la fille, la fille s’adressa uniquement a sa mère et lui ;maman, je suis aussi désolé pour tous ce qui m’est arrivée et déjà ce trop tard pour moi d’abandonne car je suis grosse de lui de 4mois, si tel n’étais pas le cas je pouvais quitte dans la ville et aller ailleurs pour éviter de risque, les familiers se sont étonnes ,ils ont manque comment décidé et la réunion a pris fin sans aucun compromis.et la le foyer se vraiment bien fonde.la fille a 3enfants, alaise dans son foyer et son mari l’aime très fort .
QUESTION1 : Les filles que pensez vous de cette situation ,que pouvez vous donner comme conseil a cette fille qui se approprier le mari de sa mère ?
QUESTION : vous atant que fille célibataire ,mais mère d’un enfant fille que pense vous tirer de cette situation comme leçons morale ?
QUESTION3 :a tous les parents ,que pensez vous de foyer ?

English translation by community member ClairePoyser

THE CO-WIFE OF HER MOTHER

Lately, there has been loving relationships that seemed incomprehensible to some people, but like real life to others. This was the case of a girl who became a co-wife to her mother. This is the story of a friend of mine, born to her mother before marriage. When the mother was married she was 12 years old and took her to live at her house as agreed upon by her and her husband. Six years later, the husband of her mother, in other words, her father changed his behavior towards his daughter little by little. He showed her profound affection. The mother saw this, and welcomed the way in which her husband loved his daughter. Like by little, the father proposed to make love with his daughter while confessing he loved her. The girl kept quiet and behaved with discretion.
Over time, his love became even stronger, he loved his daughter like crazy, and in the end she fell in love with him. This reciprocity joined their hearts.
Later, the neighbours became suspect of this situation and accosted her mother, saying that she should pay closer attention to the relationship between her husband and daughter. It was unbelievable that people could see the daughter attending ceremonies and events with her father, and going to town with him. The mother could not believe it and assured her neighbours of the extravagant and solid confidence she had in her husband. After analyzing the situation, she believed that the neighbours wanted to make trouble in her home. A colleague and friend of her husband admitted he felt the same way as the neighbours, she was shocked and went to ask her daughter discreetly if all this was true. According to her, the daughter denied it saying she only had a normal familial relationship with him, without thinking it was anything else. The mother was very put off, and decided to ask her husband for more information. He responded: no, but it could be possible, and really, I am not perfect. This same response from the father disconcerted the mother, and pushed the mother to take her daughter to her grandparent’s house to take the problem away and save the honour of her husband. Finally, she believed she had resolved the situation, however the relationship between father and daughter continued and deepened without the mother’s knowledge. Their love became solid. To the total surprise of the mother, one of her neighbours had a hotel where the father often went. The neighbor was scared to tell the mother what she had seen because when she had approached the mother before, the mother reproached her. When the proprietor of the hotel had seen that the situation had become habitual, she felt ill, and she decided to go and see the mother and tell her everything. She said that for proof of what was happening, the mother should go to the hotel the next day at 4pm. The next day came and the mother arrived at the hotel. The father and daughter were already in their room. The owner told her to wait at the corner of the entrance and wait there. Around 6pm, the couple left the room. The mother could not take it anymore, she fell ill and had to be taken to the hospital. In both families, there was a total lack of understanding, they came together and cited the concerns of the problem.

The two families wanted the man to tell them what he planned to do about this situation. The father was very clear and answered, I am sorry that this has happened but I love her with all my heart and no one has any power to stop this love, only death can end this love. The parents were shocked and wanted to know the opinion of the girl. The girl addressed her mother only and said: mum, I am sorry for all that has happened, but it is already too late to abandon this relationship because I am four months pregnant. If this were not the case I would leave the village and go elsewhere to avoid any risk. The families were shocked, they were unsure what to do and the meeting finished without any compromise. They settled in together.

The girl has three children and loves her husband very much.

Question 1: What do you all think of this situation, and what kind of advice would you give to this girl who took the husband of her mother?
Question 2: What would you do as an unmarried woman, but mother of a girl child, would you use this as a lesson in morals?
Question 3: To all parents, what do you think of this household?

Comments

Ariane Moza Assumani's picture

NOS REACTIONS

Grand merci et félicitation mon amie TEGANYI car cette histoire est vrai j'ai le même cas à PANZI pour moi c'est la fille avec son propre père et la fille a une grossesse de 6mois selon nos sources. Il faut que les filles prennent conscience chassant qu'il y a la différence entre ses papas considérer maris! qu'elles laissent ses salles habitudes d'être courtiser par les papas ce pourquoi elles considèrent leurs pères comme maris.
pour les célibataires qui ont des enfants, qu'ils laissent ces enfants chez leurs pères avant de contracter un nouveau mariage.

arianemoza

TEGANYI LWABOSHI's picture

OK Merci pour le

OK Merci pour le commentaire,vraiment c'est une bonne solution que tu viens de donner a toute les filles meres qui nous lisent.bisous

TEGANYI

ClairePoyser's picture

Chere Teganyi, je suis

Chere Teganyi, je suis etonnee par cette histoire. C’est incroyable. Est-ce que la famille a eu l’occasion d’aller voir un psychologue ensemble afin d’entendre un avis professionel? Avez-vous donne quelques conseils a la famille? Si oui, quels etatient vos conseils? Claire

ClairePoyser's picture

Translation

THE CO-WIFE OF HER MOTHER

Lately, there has been loving relationships that seemed incomprehensible to some people, but like real life to others. This was the case of a girl who became a co-wife to her mother. This is the story of a friend of mine, born to her mother before marriage. When the mother was married she was 12 years old and took her to live at her house as agreed upon by her and her husband. Six years later, the husband of her mother, in other words, her father changed his behavior towards his daughter little by little. He showed her profound affection. The mother saw this, and welcomed the way in which her husband loved his daughter. Like by little, the father proposed to make love with his daughter while confessing he loved her. The girl kept quiet and behaved with discretion.
Over time, his love became even stronger, he loved his daughter like crazy, and in the end she fell in love with him. This reciprocity joined their hearts.
Later, the neighbours became suspect of this situation and accosted her mother, saying that she should pay closer attention to the relationship between her husband and daughter. It was unbelievable that people could see the daughter attending ceremonies and events with her father, and going to town with him. The mother could not believe it and assured her neighbours of the extravagant and solid confidence she had in her husband. After analyzing the situation, she believed that the neighbours wanted to make trouble in her home. A colleague and friend of her husband admitted he felt the same way as the neighbours, she was shocked and went to ask her daughter discreetly if all this was true. According to her, the daughter denied it saying she only had a normal familial relationship with him, without thinking it was anything else. The mother was very put off, and decided to ask her husband for more information. He responded: no, but it could be possible, and really, I am not perfect. This same response from the father disconcerted the mother, and pushed the mother to take her daughter to her grandparent’s house to take the problem away and save the honour of her husband. Finally, she believed she had resolved the situation, however the relationship between father and daughter continued and deepened without the mother’s knowledge. Their love became solid. To the total surprise of the mother, one of her neighbours had a hotel where the father often went. The neighbor was scared to tell the mother what she had seen because when she had approached the mother before, the mother reproached her. When the proprietor of the hotel had seen that the situation had become habitual, she felt ill, and she decided to go and see the mother and tell her everything. She said that for proof of what was happening, the mother should go to the hotel the next day at 4pm. The next day came and the mother arrived at the hotel. The father and daughter were already in their room. The owner told her to wait at the corner of the entrance and wait there. Around 6pm, the couple left the room. The mother could not take it anymore, she fell ill and had to be taken to the hospital. In both families, there was a total lack of understanding, they came together and cited the concerns of the problem.

The two families wanted the man to tell them what he planned to do about this situation. The father was very clear and answered, I am sorry that this has happened but I love her with all my heart and no one has any power to stop this love, only death can end this love. The parents were shocked and wanted to know the opinion of the girl. The girl addressed her mother only and said: mum, I am sorry for all that has happened, but it is already too late to abandon this relationship because I am four months pregnant. If this were not the case I would leave the village and go elsewhere to avoid any risk. The families were shocked, they were unsure what to do and the meeting finished without any compromise. They settled in together.

The girl has three children and loves her husband very much.

Question 1: What do you all think of this situation, and what kind of advice would you give to this girl who took the husband of her mother?
Question 2: What would you do as an unmarried woman, but mother of a girl child, would you use this as a lesson in morals?
Question 3: To all parents, what do you think of this household?

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