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Change cannot be prevented, it can only be delayed!!

A woman buys a car and she instantly looks for a driver, typically a young man. Not because of a law against female driving but it is the way things are done. Men drive and women don’t. Most women accepted the notion that driving is a privilege for men only.

But soon after, a handful of women decided to try the craft of driving. They decided to take to the streets and experience the adrenaline rush of moving a vehicle from one point to another, taking the wheel with their own hands. As expected these women were not embraced. Instead they were subjected to assault by male drivers who believed women did not belong behind the wheel.

One afternoon, I went to the market to fetch something. There was a standoff in the narrow streets of Bossaso between two cars. One was trying to avoid the clash but the other was persistent and finally the inevitable clash happened. The drivers got out of the car to inspect the damage, which is when we realized that one of them was a female. She was pretty upset about the way the man was recklessly endangering their lives. She started quarreling with the man but he dismissively walked away laughing and pleased with himself. That’s when she decided to hit him and physically confront him.

People started gathering around and watching the fight. There were men who were chewing khat across the street but they did not join to separate the fight, they just said he deserved it and he should just take few slaps for wrecking her car but he started to hit this woman. Immediately a group of women joined the fight and collectively beat him profusely. The man was getting punches, slaps, and kicks from a bunch of women.

The biggest defense mechanism for any girl that’s been subjected to an assault is usually, I have a brother, a father, an uncle, or any other male relative she can think of, but that day the defense mechanism was, I have every woman in this country as a backup if you pick on me for being a female.

This incident happens almost 10 years ago. The situation had changed dramatically in that decade. As I was coming back from the university, a friend offered me a lift. She was my high school classmate and now I am her lecturer for the computer class. I hesitated to join her but I finally did because it was a perfect time to catch up on old times and I was too tired to wait for the university bus. I noticed she also picked up a few of her male friends. I was surprised of course.

Guys who are not appalled to be seen in a car with a woman driver! I know this was impossible few years back.

My mind drifted a bit trying to make sense of this situation because I knew her family were all educated. She had a professional doctor for a dad and a humanitarian aid worker for a mom, and amazingly the first time I actually touched a laptop was at her house, therefore, it seemed strange for me that she was not sent abroad for studies like her brothers. I learned the reason was early marriage because she got married right after high school and immediately got pregnant with her daughter which is the reason why she put her studies on hold, because she had to find a job and take care of her little girl, but after her daughter turned 3 years old she then decided to go back to school and get a degree, and now she is about to graduate from university. I admired her courage and resolve to achieve her goal and continue her education despite the challenges.

I did not want to interrupt my friend, and I wanted to hear her whole story but I was also aware of the fact that we had no challenges in the street from male drivers. Surprisingly, we have seen several other female drivers.

Throughout the way, the drivers were behaving completely normal to this female driver, giving her the lane when it was her turn. I waited till the very last minute to ask my friend “Hey, do you realize that no man tried to challenge us and get us in an accident?” Of course being away from Somalia for almost 5 years I was positively surprised. Things have changed and women have become drivers. They are in control now, and they do not need a male chauffeur in order for them to get around.
In Bossaso, there are no traffic directors or traffic lights in most roads so the drivers are responsible for directing traffic in order to ensure that there is no jam and to avoid accidents. Today both male and female drivers do take this responsibility, and men accepted the idea of female driving because they cannot stop it.

Women drive their cars across the north and eastern parts of Somalia. In fact, both my next door neighbors are women who drive their own cars.

It is no longer a rare thing to be challenged. It is no longer a laughing matter to be made fun of. And certainly it is no longer a man thing.

Comments

pelamutunzi's picture

true true

I really connected with this story and soon change will not just be about driving but all things like domestic violence. participation of women in politics and so on. thanx for sharing . as Zimbabwe faces up to elections some 35 years back women could not vote but now we can and even have women candidates for parliament and ministerial posts. change is surely coming

we may be powerless to stop an injustice but let there never be a time we fail to protest.
regards
pela

Deqa's picture

You are certainly right

Yes change will continue to include many other areas like you mentioned and we will be cheering whenever we achieve a milestone in the equality struggle. I am glad that you guys get to vote, in Somalia, we do not have democracy and voting system for the public. Only a handful of parliament members, precisely less than a 100 choose to vote among the elected president and vice president. But in the next few years, there is a plan to achieve democratic elections with the registration of citizens. I can hardly wait for 2015.
Thank you dear for reading and commenting on my post.
Love
Deqa

Precious M's picture

Evolution

I love that. Let more female drivers arise. Thank you for sharing.

Love,
Precious

My pen speaks

Deqa's picture

Many thanks

Thank you my dear for reading and commenting with encouraging words. Surely more female drivers will rise including me, because I am soon to take up driving lessons.
Love
Deqa

Katherine Okerlund's picture

yey for a new profile

yey for a new profile picture!

Sutanuka Banerjee's picture

:)

All the best with your driving :)

love

Sutanuka

I live in my convoluted mind....

Your story reminded me of Manal Al-Sharif's talk about how in 2011 she was placed in jail for driving a car in Saudi Arabia, where women where women are prohibited from driving. She posted a video of her driving on YouTube calling on women to participate in a Women2Drive campaign on June 17 of that year. During a second turn at the wheel, she was arrested. He brother was also detained for giving her the keys. Nine days -- and a groundswell of protest -- later she was released from jail. You can view her story here.

You are both part of a movement to break down the final barriers to women on the road and it is exciting to know that in one generation, young girls will not even think twice about driving as it will be their right. All my very best wishes with your lessons and I can't wait to hear you announce that you are happily driving yourself to wherever you wish to go.

http://www.ted.com/talks/manal_al_sharif_a_saudi_woman_who_dared_to_driv...

Yes Deqa, it is no longer a man thing and has never been so.
Always when I see the struggle of Saudi women to drive; and the explanations made by them I realize how silly is our world and how women need to argue their very basic rights. Although women in Sudan are allowed to drive since 1950's; but still the struggle continue for their freedom of movement and dress code.
Thank you for such an inspiration.

Yosra Akasha, Sudan

Maryam Osman's picture

Great!

i enjoyed reading it , and i am glad there is a positive change .
Cheers

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