A Woman is not Just a Woman, but She is a Human Being First
I am not a hardcore feminist but I believe that women should be respected irrespective of their clothing. I have just graduated and started doing an internship. My work place is far away from my home and I have to use public transportation. I was shocked to hear many men and women commenting on other women’s clothing. Until last month I was living at my university campus where I was with a group of people who never judged a woman’s moral goodness based on her clothing. I guess I was lucky to be with them for a period of time. Now coming to the present situation, I find it very difficult for me to accept the fact that dressing in a so called “decent way” determines a woman’s virtue. This is very insulting to me both as a woman and a human being. The reason why I have used ‘a woman and a human being” is because from my experience, I am first indentified as a woman and then, as a human being by other people when I am out in the public places. When I am first identified as a woman, people started to judge me depending on the clothes that I wear. They think it is them who have the right to decide whether I am a good or wicked woman. This is really frustrating. A woman might want to explore wearing different dresses but that does not necessarily mean that she wants to sexually provoke other men. When some women are also participating with this group of men who are always concern about how other women dress up, it really hurts me. I feel angry and sad. We are may be in the era of technological or other advancement, but many of us are still lacking behind in advancing our mindsets.