Turning Anger Into Action
Yosra Akasha, from Sudan, has written an excellent post on turning anger into feminine wisdom. http://worldpulse.com/node/70221
It is important that we women understand that silently suffering cruelty is not without consequences. It kills our spirits, and often the spirits of our children and others around us. Anger at injustice is appropriate anger, and it is very important that we learn how to turn anger into action.
I grew up in an abusive family, watching my four brothers and my father fuel their actions with anger, while my older sister hid in her room in order to be a "good girl." One by one, I watched as all in my family abused each other and the outside world. Their anger had to be let out somewhere, and few dared challenge either of our abusive parents. I learned to calm my father and brothers with gifts of food and laughter at their antics. My mother punished and scorned me for using this ability.
When I had my own first child, I realized that I was angry with her whenever her father was verbally cruel to me. By the time I had my second child, a son, I was in class to learn to recognize and channel my emotions, rather than letting them build until they exploded in harmful ways. I struggle every day to keep my emotions in check by channeling them in my writing.
There is a saying in the United States that children learn what they live. What we learn from our elders is our model for our own behaviors. If we were brought up in abuse, we tend to model those behaviors when under stress. Writing out plans for ways to change our behaviors helps with becoming who you are capable of being, instead another generation of what you lived.
I applaud those of you who are speaking out against injustice. Your words can put wings under the efforts to bring peace to our earth. My words of advice are that you turn your dreams into plans with words and follow through with focused action.