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DEPENSES DE FETES DE MARIAGE ET LEUR IMPACT SOCIO-ECONOMIQUE SUR LES MENAGES DES JEUNES EPOUX A BUKAVU(cas de la commune d'iband

Aujourd’hui mariage est pris dans une tourmente. Il s’avère donc indispensable de consolider des couples en appliquant des principes qui ont fait leur preuve et qui apportent du bonheur durable é toute la famille.
L’évolution des mentalités des personnes du point de vue de la nature et du but du mariage. Il s’observe des discordes au niveau des ménages à cause des dépenses des fêtes occasionnées lors des mariages. En effet, les mobiles pour lesquels on se marie ne tiennent pus compte des besoins d’amitié, d’amour, de fidélité, du désir d’avoir des enfants et de s’épanouir à deux. La ville de Bukavu est constituée en grande partie des travailleurs et autres catégories des populations qui, pour la plupart, vivent dans des conditions misérables.
Il se trouve paradoxalement que le gros de cette population tien mordicus à se marier leurs conditions de vie précaires.
L’on note malheureusement d’une part, que les parents qui ont mal à nouer les deux bouts du mois tiennent à tout prix à marier leurs enfants somptueusement avec tout ce que cela comporte come conséquences négatives.
D’autre part, des jeunes gens qui tiennent à se marier copient aveuglement ce qui se passe autour d’eux.
Ils s’adonnent ainsi à des dépenses énormes qui ne sont pas proportionnelles à des dépenses énormes qui ne sont pas proportionnelles à leurs avoirs, encore moins à celui de leurs congénères de famille aisées ; ils s’endettent pour prouver à la face du monde qu’ils sont aussi à mesure de se marier somptueusement. Le remboursement du crédit a été obtenu dans les institutions financières qui exigent un taux d’intérêt sur la somme octroyée. Au lendemain du mariage, les jeunes et leurs parents sont ainsi devant l’obligation de liquider les dettes contractées lors des fêtes de mariage.

English translation by community member Alex Kivley

WEDDING PARTY COSTS AND SOCIO-ECONOMIC IMPACT ON HOUSEHOLDS OF A YOUNG SPOUSES in Bukavu (the case of common iband

Today marriage is caught in a storm. It is therefore necessary to consolidate couples by applying principles that have proven themselves and that bring lasting happiness to the whole family.

The evolution of mentalities of people in terms of the nature and purpose of marriage. It is observed that discords at the household level are due to the expenses incurred during the marriage parties. Indeed, the motives for which one gets married could not take into account the needs of a friendship, love, loyalty, desire to have children and grow as two. Bukavu consists largely of workers and other categories of people who, for the most part live in miserable conditions.

It is paradoxical that the bulk of this population stubbornly holds their want to marry their precarious living conditions.

One notes unfortunately on the one hand, parents who have a hard time making ends meet every month to keep savings in order to marry their children sumptuously with everything which entails negative consequences come.

On the other hand, young people who wish to marry blindly copy what is happening around them.

Thus they engage in massive expenditures that are not proportional to to their assets, much less than their counterparts from wealthier families, they go into debt to prove to the whole world that 'they are also able to marry sumptuously. The repayment of the loan was obtained from the financial institutions that require an interest rate on the amount awarded. The day after the wedding, young people and their parents thus are obligated to liquidate the debts incurred during weddings.

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WEDDING PARTY COSTS AND SOCIO-ECONOMIC IMPACT ON HOUSEHOLDS OF A YOUNG SPOUSES in Bukavu (the case of common iband

Today marriage is caught in a storm. It is therefore necessary to consolidate couples by applying principles that have proven themselves and that bring lasting happiness to the whole family.

The evolution of mentalities of people in terms of the nature and purpose of marriage. It is observed that discords at the household level are due to the expenses incurred during the marriage parties. Indeed, the motives for which one gets married could not take into account the needs of a friendship, love, loyalty, desire to have children and grow as two. Bukavu consists largely of workers and other categories of people who, for the most part live in miserable conditions.

It is paradoxical that the bulk of this population stubbornly holds their want to marry their precarious living conditions.

One notes unfortunately on the one hand, parents who have a hard time making ends meet every month to keep savings in order to marry their children sumptuously with everything which entails negative consequences come.

On the other hand, young people who wish to marry blindly copy what is happening around them.

Thus they engage in massive expenditures that are not proportional to to their assets, much less than their counterparts from wealthier families, they go into debt to prove to the whole world that 'they are also able to marry sumptuously. The repayment of the loan was obtained from the financial institutions that require an interest rate on the amount awarded. The day after the wedding, young people and their parents thus are obligated to liquidate the debts incurred during weddings.

"Discovery consists not in seeking new lands but in seeing with new eyes."
~Marcel Proust

Salut Ariane,

Merci de partager ce post. Je ne savais pas que cette pratique coutumière était en inhibition de beaucoup de jeunes qui veulent se marier. Je je cherche un moyen possible d'éliminer cette pratique, mais les changements culturels comme celui-ci sont difficiles à changer en raison de l'immense valeur que leur société a pour eux.

Avez-vous des idées sur la façon de surmonter quelque chose de si grand comme ça?

J'espère que vous allez bien,
Alex Kivley

Hi Ariane,

Thank you for sharing this post. I was not aware that this customary practice was inhibiting so many young people who want to marry. I am searching for a possible way to phase out this practice, but cultural changes such as this one are hard to change because of the immense value that their society has for them.

Do you have any ideas as to how to overcome something so large like this?

I hope you are well,
Alex Kivley

"Discovery consists not in seeking new lands but in seeing with new eyes."
~Marcel Proust

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Merci pour votre courage de vouloir savoir plus sur le sujet concernant Dépense de fête de mariage. Concernant votre préoccupation pour surmonter ce défit il faut commencer par la sensibilisation des jeunes fiancés et mariés pour lutter contre l’organisation somptueuse du mariage. Car dans notre communauté la sensibilisation aide les jeunes sur le changement des mentalités ce le deuxième processus pour surmonter à ce fléau. Il faut que nous commencions par une forte sensibilisation partout dans le monde et à tout le niveau pour changer le monde. Merci

arianemoza

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