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A Mothers' Day to Cherish

It has been a very memorable 3 days for me and my family.
I failed to raise my daughter's school fees for this term, not to mention a huge balance carried forward from last year, partly because I have so many adopted daughters who also had to be paid for school fees in their various schools and classes, plus the fact that work has been just too hard to come by of late.

I therefore decided to accompany her to school, some 400 kilometers from the city, in order to explain to the school administration why she was going to school without fees, and when it would be forthcoming. We left Nairobi on Thursday, 9th May, and on 10th, I took my daughter to school, and she was allowed in class after my promise to raise and pay her fees soonest.

Come Saturday and I left my matrimonial home for the journey back to the city. We had barely gone 100 kilometers before we were involved in a nasty accident that left 3 people, a woman and two men, dead. In the long, few minutes that the accident was unfolding, I wrote and autosent this text message to my family, since I knew my 15 month old daughter and I were surely dying:

"We've been involved in an accident. Please pray for us. If we don't make it, remember us with love."

No sooner had I pressed the send option, than my phone flew out of my hands. The bus was now full of smoke, swerving like crazy and making the weirdest noises I ever heard. We were filled with terror, and in a panic, everyone was screaming, praying or crying out at the tops of their voices. In those terrifying moments, I observed that women were the only ones who were praying. The men were just shouting at the driver to stop the 'damn bus,' while hurling abusive language at him when he didn't.

In as much as I had resigned the fate of my baby daughter and myself to inevitable death, I asked God why He wanted to call me home, when I had not fulfilled my promise to the hundreds of girls and women at my Centre. I asked Him why he couldn't allow me only two years, to see my two daughters graduate from high school where they both finish next year. Before my final prayer for our souls, I told God that I would really love to stay alive, to see all my kids, both biological and adopted, through college, that I knew if I died now, they would never get an education. Finally, I repented for having found fault with God's work, and prepared for the worst, quietly.

Meanwhile, I noticed in my silence, as I watched my daughter sleeping peacefully in my arms, despite the commotion, that all the women were not praying for their souls, but for their families! They were praying that God gives their children the strength to bear life without their mothers, that their husbands not marry women who would mistreat their children, and that God also gives their children strong love and understanding among themselves, to be their siblings' keepers.

After about 200 meters at a terrifying pace, our bus, which was full to capacity with 65 passengers excluding tens of children, screeched to a halt. It is so sad that the deceased woman had jumped through the window to escape inevitable death, while the two men died as a result of a stampede by the men in the bus rushing to jump out the door. The cause of the accident was a burst rear tire, while careening uphill, and the driver did a commendable job driving until he cleared the incline, before stopping at a flat area of the road. He most definitely saved our lives. This was at an area called Kapsasur, and we were rushed to a hospital in Kapsabet town, by good Samaritans and the police, where we were treated for shock and minor injuries.

It was almost 4 hours later that the police brought our luggage and other effects where we were all congregated, that I finally got my phone, which had been found inside the bus. Another bus was availed for us to continue with the journey. By this time, am made to understand that mourners had already arrived at my paternal, matrimonial and city homes, to condole with my family, since they hadn't gotten any other news from me, and believed my text to have been a farewell from us.

I sent them another text message, thus:

"Thank you for your concern and prayers. We are fine, though 3 died. Been treated for shock and are on the road again. Sorry for the scare. Will call you as soon as I get to Nairobi. God bless you."

At this time, my body was trembling violently, so when my phone exploded with tens of calls from relieved family, relatives and friends, I switched it off, since I wasn't sure I could talk to anyone after the harrowing experience.
We arrived in Nairobi uneventfully, and I was pleasantly surprised to find my family waiting for me at the Bus Station.

Although I was still shaking, I believe those were the best hugs I ever got in my lifetime.
I have never seen my husband cry, but I witnessed it that day, which made me realize how precious life really is. The following day, yesterday, Sunday 12th May, was Mothers' Day, and I couldn't have asked for a better present than the friends and relatives who kept flocking to my place.

Today I went to the doctor to check on my massive headache, chest, ribs and back pains, and am really thankful that it was nothing major, my bones are all intact, and my little girl was also unscathed, seeing as she also slept through it all.
Looking back, I thank God for sparing our lives at that precise moment, because today, 13th May marks the 9th anniversary of my son's death, and I shudder to think how my family would have handled it.

The boy in the photo is my son, Alvin Ligaka Musumba, who died 9 years ago today, aged 2 and a half years, due to lack of proper medical attention since I could not afford it, and the little girl is my daughter, who survived the ordeal with me.

I just had to share the most incredible three days of my life, in the very recent past.

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Aysha Ibrahim's picture

amazing mom

Thanks God He saved you. Thats true that life is very precious and family bondings makes it more precious your children are very cute and May God rest your son soul in peace. You are incredible mom loved your article,
keep working for your own and adopted children

Phionah Musumba's picture

Thank you!

Hey, Aysha,
Thanks a lot for taking the time to read and comment on my post.
Your words are very encouraging and inspiring.
All the best,

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

Wendyiscalm's picture

You are a miracle

Hi Phy,

You are amazing. Your attitude is a miracle and creates miracles. I just don't have adequate words to write how deeply my soul is affected by what you have been through. With all you had happen you are not a bitter person, you are simply wonderful. WE ALL CAN LEARN FROM YOU.

Ubuntu(I am who I am because of who we are together),

Wendy

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Phionah Musumba's picture

UBUNTU Indeed!

Hey, Wendy,
I lack words to express my gratitude for your encouragement.
I can only say that the world needs to embrace Ubuntu to the fullest.
All the best,

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

Wendyiscalm's picture

Keep up the great work

Yes, the world does need to embrace ubuntu. I think if you could only pick one word in the universe that says all, good and bad, ubuntu is it. What you went through will live in my soul and mind and your thought process that got you through it.

Please keep in touch.

Love and ubuntu,

Wendy

P.S. You all must be proud to be the homeland of President Obama, the first black president.
Alvin was SO cute. Looks like he never stood still for a minute. I bet he is keeping the lord busy up there! :)

And your daughter looks like an angel.

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Phionah Musumba's picture

Thank you!

I am overwhelmed, thanks for your kind words.
You're right, Alvin was an active little boy and Baby Lindy
is Little Miss Beauty, who seems to know it too!
My kids are my pride. They make me happy and keep me sane.
I hope we'll stay in touch.
Best regards,

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

Deqa's picture

simply WOW

Dear Phy,

I am always inspired by you and I love to read every thing you post and this post just proved why. I am glad that you have survived a terrible accident.

You have a great soul and a beautiful heart. In the midst of chaos and the most horrifying difficulty one can ever experience, you are full of optimism and you are so strong that you challenge all your energy to the only way of survival- through prayers and inner strength.

You are a wonderful mother and your children are very lucky to have a mother like you.

You are my role model and I am inspired by your courage and strength. I pray that you find a means to fund for your children's education.

Love
Deqa

Phionah Musumba's picture

Awesome!

Dear, Deqa,
I am humbled by your kind words. I believe all women have an indefinable inner strength which keeps them sane at the worst of situations.
I am sure that my kids' fees, both biological and adopted will come at the right time.
Thanks for your vote of confidence.
Lots of love,

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

Precious M's picture

God's goodness

God is so so good. He saved you because indeed you have not finished His purpose for your life. Those girls need you, Kenya needs you and the world needs you. You are an amazing writer!

Love,
Precious

My pen speaks

Phionah Musumba's picture

Thanks!

Hey, Precious,
Thanks for reading and commenting on my post. I agree with you that God is good all the time. He is sure going to keep watching over us.
I need all of you guys.
Lots of love,

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

jacollura's picture

Wow, Phy! What a traumatic

Wow, Phy! What a traumatic experience! I am so glad you and your daughter are safe.
Sending love to you and your family,
Julie

Phionah Musumba's picture

Thanks, Julie!

Hey, Julie,
Thanks for your concern and wishes, together with the fact that you actually read and commented on my post. It is very encouraging.
We are doing great.
Warmest regards from our end too.

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

jacollura's picture

Of course I read your posts!

Of course I read your posts! They are among my favorite posts on World Pulse.
Keep writing.

Phionah Musumba's picture

Wow!

Am humbled, Julie. Thank you.
All the best,

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

Wendyiscalm's picture

Hi Phy

Hi Phy,

Just a note to say "Hi" and I am thinking of you.

Ubuntu,

Wendy

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Phionah Musumba's picture

Same Here!

Hey, Wendy,
Sending greetings and warm wishes your way.
Thinking of you too.
Ubuntu of course,

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

Aminah's picture

What an ordeal

Phionah Phionah Phionah
dearest you are blessed. God heard your prayers not for just your children but the adopted ones too.

That was one horrifying incident to go through. I head tears in my reading it.
I am very sad to hear there were deaths. But I guess death is inevitable - it happens when it is meant to happen.

May god bless you further and help you raise the needed money.

My prayers are with you and your family. Your kids are so very adorable. My love to them.

Salaam
Aminah

Phionah Musumba's picture

Thank you, Aminah!

Hey, Aminah,
It was terrifyingly horrific, you can say that again.
But here I am, strong as always! God loves me, very much.
Thanks for your prayers, I know the blessings are just around the corner, to add onto the ones I already have.
Blessings your way too. Thank you very much for your concern.
All the best,

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

Cali gal Michelle's picture

Phy- I am sorry that I just

Phy-
I am sorry that I just now read this post. It's almost too unbelievable, and horrifying to think of you and your precious baby in that bus! All I can think is that guardian angles must have held you two, keeping you safe. I am glad your husband showed his concern in the way he did. I am sorry (which is not an adequate word) for all you've been through- more than anyone should suffer.

I am amazed at your tenacity, perseverance, and inspiring attitude. I pray you receive what you need, that you will be blessed for your faithfulness, and that you will see your visions come to fruition.

Peace and Hope-
Michelle
aka: Cali gal

Listener
Sister-Mentor
@CaliGalMichelle
facebook.com/caligalmichelle

Phionah Musumba's picture

Thank you!

Hey Michelle,
I really thank you for your heart warming comments. I believe we are put on earth for a purpose, and until we fulfil it, we have to bear whatever comes our way.
It is never over until it is done.
Wishing you the very best,

Phy
Centre for Disadvantaged Girls, Kenya
www.galsissues.blogspot.com
https://www.facebook.com/MalkiaCDG

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