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I WRITE TO EMPOWER YOU

When I was born, my father says, the hospital was literally filled to the brim with all the close relatives coming to ask about the newborn. Restless limbs. Fluttering hearts. Cheerful smiles. But as soon as the door to the theater was thrown open, the smiles suddenly turned into an ugly grimace. A girl was born, I was born.

The feeling of being a girl whom the society looks upon as a bad omen hasn't bid me farewell since. Though my parents have never made me go through the suffering attached to the gender I carry. But the society of which I form a part still bites its lip when a girl child takes birth. Twenty-four years have passed; people even today prefer a boy over a girl nevertheless. People still go to dargahs to seek blessings, offer sacrifices, and observe fast to have a boy when there are only 883 females for every 1000 males in the state of Jammu and Kashmir. Pathetic. Even after giving birth to half a dozen girls, a woman is made to go through the same pain all over again only to obey the orders of patriarchy. And in this process of adding sons to the family tree, patriarchy is creating a ditch for itself to eventually fall into. It is fairly evident from the fact that many old age homes have begun to spring in the valley. Being able to carry forward the chain of genealogy alone doesn't make him a worthy son; children shutting out their parents at an extreme old age stands testimony to the fact.

As for my vision for the future, it has always been one: to write for the oppressed. But the kind of journalism prevalent today which is making the writers, if not all, power hungry with every passing day has put the real issues on the back burner. I live in a state where a poor child who lost vision in his eye in a peaceful protest doesn't make it to the headlines but the one coming from a well to do family who was banned from singing does. We feed ourselves with such money-made stories every morning with a cup of tea. But I want to break free.

I want to write for those who want to tell the wretched story of their life to the world but nobody ever sits beside these helpless souls and watch them narrate the dreadful times they have faced. I want to write for the womenfolk. For those who can’t speak up for themselves for the fear of patriarchy. I want to help them give a vent to their spleen, to help them shout through my writings. Likewise, I want to write for the dear women who fight for their rights every day, some with patriarchy, others with the society. Their suffering, struggle, and finally the triumph would certainly encourage those who go through more or less the same circumstances every day.

The matter of domestic violence is just one aspect of the crime among hundred others. Writing to help women stand on their own is another objective I would like to fulfill. I want people to help their daughters accomplish the dreams that
die everyday behind their moist eyes.

And primarily I want to empower women worldwide through my writings. Pertinently the WP program is the opportunity that can help me create my space so that I’d work on creating a niche for my sisters across the world.

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Sharontina's picture

Dear Taha, I can see you

Dear Taha,

I can see you already into empowering women around you. I have learnt from you. Got to know so much through inspiring stories of life. And I am waiting to read more and more. The journey has started. Keep sharing - its powerful.

Love

Merlin Sharontina

Taha Mirani's picture

Thank you

Thank you so much, Sharon. Love your writing style. In fact, you have an amazing way of expressing things.

Power to you :)

Love

Taha Mirani

Greengirl's picture

Dear Taha

I am so glad that in spite of all the ugly grimace in the hospital, you made it out and here you are giving out your best to see that more baby girls make it too! Your sincerity of purpose stands you out in the world of those who tell stories with their pen!
Keep sharing because you are being heard and making a difference already!

Hugs,
Greengirl

Taha Mirani's picture

Thank you

Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart, Greengirl <3

God bless you :)

Love

Taha Mirani

Rebecca R's picture

Wonderful style

Taha,

I like how you set the scene for this with the beginning of a girlchild's life. That it was yours, makes it even more powerful.

I can relate to this and feel your frustration: "I live in a state where a poor child who lost vision in his eye in a peaceful protest doesn't make it to the headlines but the one coming from a well to do family who was banned from singing does."

There are many spaces we can write the woman's story and if we keep writing and writing, who knows? We might start to have the right headlines, instead of those tabloid-y ones that are meant to drive newspaper sales. Why do we even think the world prefers to read about the rich kid who was banned from singing? I am part of the world and I would rather the story of the child who lost his vision in a peaceful protest. There is a disconnect.

I hope you keep writing!

Becky

loretta's picture

My sentiments exactly!

Being a girl child is not a sin, God sent His Son to the world to die for our sins instead of a woman, because Jesus's death was shameful enough for Him, how much more of a woman? That is the only reason; then people expect only boy children, some because of that, some because of lineage.

What's interesting is that, medically it is proven that most miscarriages are that of male foetuses, pregnancies that have a higher rate of survival are that of female foetuses. What does that tell you? Women have resilience. The reason I had for not wanting girl children, was purely personal.

I didn't want my children to go through what I went through, I was so raw on the inside, I felt that any boy who would take advantage of my daughter the way I was taken advantage of, I would murder him with my bare hands and believe you me, I am over protective of my three girls and they can't understand why. I have told them the reason why, but they see no logic behind that, but I know better.

I also come from a country, where the so called A-listers are in the Media daily, be it break ups, meintanance issues, you name it. The poor and unknown hardly make headlines. A young girl who was an orphan and had a six year old child was brutally murdered by boys she regarded as brothers, friends, protectors and neighbours for simply refusing to have sex with one of them. She hardly made the second page. She will only be a statistics to those who use them to progress their careers or personal gain. As to who these people are whom they collect their murder statistics for personal gain, it doesn't matter.

The very activists for women issues, most of them are A-listers and they get funded for all their projects, all they need do, is keep their eyes and ears peeled for any story that involves a well known person so that they can go there and show support, then they would be interviewed by the Media.

How I wish these funders could have foot soldiers, disguised and walking around gathering information and realise that they are backing the wrong horses.

Keep fighting and writing. God bless you.

Loretta.

A successful woman is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks others throw at her. Author Unkown.

Mukut's picture

You are beautiful !

Another amazing post. Love reading them. They have the ability to let us into your heart and take a peek into your life.

You are a prolific writer. Keep sharing :)

Love,

Mukut Ray

libudsuroy's picture

Dearest Taha, You struck a

Dearest Taha,
You struck a chord in the many concrete and specific ways you mentioned how and why and who you choose to empower. My world is enlarged as I came to know the blind boy's plight vividly narrated by you. I came to learn more about your country's dilemmas and how it affects the lives of its women. I came to know you better because of the authenticity of the spirit reflected in your writings. I wish you the best in your writings as well as in your life, Taha. I wish your people the willpower to be truly on its own. I am twice, thrice blessed to have met you, my dear friend!

Blessings,
libudsuroy/Lina Sagaral Reyes
Mindanao, The Philippines

''Every Day is a Journey and the Journey itself is Home.'' (Matsuo Basho)

Well done story connected smooth and with passion i hardly see a man that can go deep in women realities and be able to express their pain, suffer and share it with other.
Thank you for sharing this and you have amazing telant in attracting reader eyes keep it up.
Ola

It is never too late to try make your way to your dream and left up your expectation.
Sudanes Women Building Peace
www.suwepmovement.org

ayodele emefe's picture

Bravo

Hello Taha,

Thank you! Thank you!! Thank you!!!

What more can I say? Please continue to keep the flag flying in your quest.

Cheers,

Ayodele

"You are a champion and a hero. Do not think yourself any less"

Aminah's picture

such a sad thought

What a lovely vision. To help the voiceless, to write for the poor, the destitute, for those who are unable to speak.

It is sad to hear that some parts of the world welcomes a son with much more funfair and actually pray for a son.
How sad it really is. The people who came to the world through a woman's womb wishing for a son instead for a woman with the blessed womb,

But maybe there is a social flux here.
Maybe those who pray for a son knows, the hardship a woman has to endure on this world and hence do not want to wish that on any more human?!!! Could that just be it? I don't know.

What I know is when the time came for my first child to be born. I hoped in my heart it was a girl. But I prayed for a son. My history of abuse prevented me from asking for a daughter. It broke my heart to know a child of me might end up being abused. So I selfishly prayed for a son.

That makes my a hypocrite, I can see now :(

Salaam
Aminah

Falchemist's picture

You already are writing for

You already are writing for them all, Taha, and doing it well.

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