Women Vs. Women
"You laugh at me coz I am different but I laugh at you coz u are all the same"
An elderly woman was stripped‚ beaten mercilessly and fed human faeces in Beladipur VDC of Kailali district, Nepal, for allegedly practising witchcraft. Raj Kumari was critically injured after the miscreants thrust a stick into her anus.
Another woman was burnt alive by her family for not bringing the enough dowry as demanded by her husband's family.
A young girl died because of the snake bite in far-western Nepal as she was sleeping in the cowshed during her menstrual period. Chhau padi is a practice of segregating girl from the house during the monthly periods and left to sleep with the animals.
Do you wanna hear more? I do have many such examples like a daughter in law killed mother-in-law or a mother-in-law burnt daughter in law etc etc.......
Now ask me Should I be proud of being a WOman? And who says men are problems?
The problem is not men; they were never a problem but a sub-ordinate. We are born with this malady of the spirit inherited from our orthodox norms and values. We have confined ourselves within the Plato's cave of shadows. As the saying goes, ‘Diamond cuts diamond’ women themselves are the enemy of each other, especially in the Nepalese society. We are busy back-biting, pulling one’s leg, quarreling almost till we survive. It’s our own mother who abandons us to touch our father, brother during our periods; it’s our own mother-in-laws who burn us alive for the sake of dowry;it's a woman herself who feed faeces into another woman accusing her to be a witch. The list goes on. And on top of it, wicked men continue to exploit our vulnerabilities. We need to go beyond the boundaries that we have made for ourselves. We need to start a fight against ourselves, our low mentality, jealousy any many other such characteristics that are hindering us to rise above.
Do you think its easy enough?
General characteristic of good daughter: study well, get good job, take care of parents, long dresses (the more complex the better), no parties no outings, no drinks, home by 5, talk less (lesser with boys the better), all house hold chores, mom's tears... dad's suggestion, brothers orders , no shouting, no loud laughter, ... marry at time ( earlier the better), no love marriage.... , bear child soon... take good care of child..................... and the list just doesn't end.... (in between doesn't even realize when a girl grew up and already became a women)..Oh, tough!
I am your daughter, sister, friend. I am young and have many dreams about my life. I know no boundaries, rules and regulation.I am like a flattering butterfly dancing here and there. I am your happiness, I am your future. So, please let me spread my wings, let me learn a lot in this lifetime, which may not be sufficient though.
Should women become like men in order to become equal with men and women or should both men and women become androgynous, each person combining the correct blend of positive masculine and feminine characteristics in order to be equal with every person? This is my fight, our fight against ourselves and against the discrimination, exploitation we are going through.
Worldpulse is helping me to build my army and I am sure I will succeed.No matter how hard the journey seems, we need to have faith in yourselves. We Rise! We Rise!!