Utopia of an optimistic woman
Each of us has his own battles. And sometimes life strikes. And everyone needs a hand of support…
I am a regular woman, nothing extraordinary. I work in environmental NGO in Ukraine. I like my work because every day I know I fight for good things and for the better future for my children. I believe, step by step this world will change, and other things will become values. Things like education, nature and health protection, humans’ rights, respect…
But every day I see another picture. My 16-year niece said it looks like pregnancy becomes trendy… in between teenagers. She has several friends who made babies in their 15.
It’s a pity, but this is trendy only for teenagers. Ukraine disappears as a nation. Prognosis says, by 2030 we will have about 35 millions of people (now is 45 millions, ten years ago was more than 50 millions). How to solve these problems?
Ukrainian deputies think is to ban abortions. For some reason deputies-men, authors of the draft law, think that in this way Ukraine will become demographically prosperous country. Maybe for men who feel sick on mornings only because of hangover is difficult to understand that only a desperate woman can take a decision about abortion, and in many cases because men in Ukraine avoid responsibility and so often leave women with “Decide by yourself”.
Why men think they can solve women’s problems better than women? Once Prime-minister of Ukraine (a man) even said, the work in government is very hard, so this is not the place for a woman.
Yes, there are other feminine professions. For example, my friend is a secretary, and she must not only prepare coffee for her boss, but also be patient when he tries to flirt with her, because she is divorced, has two children and needs this job. Another friend lost her work just after her boss found out she was pregnant. In general, a woman no has chances to receive a work if she’s in competition with a man. Furthermore, if you will take a look at announcements of vacancies, you will see that for the vast majority of them men are preferred, even if profession is not gender-based.
Usually Ukrainian women keep silence about harassment on work and violence at home. They think shame is worse than offence. It is common opinion that in such cases it’s always a woman’s fault: her skirt was too short, she behaved bad or said something wrong…
I want to change this attitude. I want we support each other, and together we can give a great fight back.
I am more than confident that you recognize in my letter some people, even you live thousand miles away. Because unfortunately these problems are the same for any country. But we are here for changes. We are here to shout if it’s needed. We are here to raise our voices and built a wall of support for every single case when a woman is offended!
I know we have the power to change public opinion. I want we make a beautiful team which will bring the beauty to the world, beauty of relationship and trust, beauty of motherhood and care, beauty of a new world, full of love, respect, pride and sensitivity.
World Pulse is a perfect bridge to reach my goal and achieve these changes. Jorge Luis Borges in his famous short tale “Utopia of a tired man” wrote: “In my desk on Mexico Street I keep the canvas which someone will paint thousands of years later, with the materials now scattered around the planet.”
I am here to make my brushstrokes, to paint this beautiful picture, full of colors brought by the women from different countries. I want to open discussions and speak about strong issues; I have a gift to see things clear and to be straight. In my life it helps to find the solutions.
We have so many duties; so may things to share, so many problems which unite us and united we can solve, because together we are stronger!
So let’s do it! Join me and let me take care about all these women who still hope!