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Eyebags and Dimples book review

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I had the most amazing weekend, but sadly had to go bury my uncle in Mpumalanga. What I did not expect was to have my life changed in a day I had spend with my Cousin. To avoid being late, I had to sleep over her place which I must say that y I dreaded (not sure why, its just a strange thing that I had gotten used too that I am not quite as social as I appear to be)

So, I decided to sleep over and wow there it was "Eye bags and Dimples" by the most beautiful famous South African Actress 'Bonnie Henna". I was so serenated by her style of writing to an extend that I couldn't even put the book down. I almost finished it in a day only that I had to attend the funeral and chat with my family members (most which we only see each other in funerals ;-(). For a very long time I knew that must weird behaviour especially of purposely pushing people away and wanting to be by myself at any chance I could get.

There in her book Bonnie reveals her struggle with Depression. Yes! I said it Depression in a black Community this has been seen as a White people problem not ours otherwise what is this depression anyway?

She shared about how her mothers abusive behavior and suicidal patterns lead to her being known publicly as a rude mean person whilst all she had was depression and she was just misunderstood.

I will like to open up a dialogue about depression, what are your thoughts on it?

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libudsuroy's picture

Hi, PrincessZar, That's a

Hi, PrincessZar,
That's a very timely suggestion. I would like to read that book and see how it differs from books on Depression and Loss that are published in the West. Like The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath, for example. The book that you read resonates with you because, as you said, you identify with the protagonists.

I would also like to discuss the corollary topic of about stereotypes and misconceptions about mental health, illness and well-being in media narratives.

Thanks for bringing this up!

Blessings,
libudsuroy/Lina Sagaral Reyes
Mindanao, The Philippines

''Every Day is a Journey and the Journey itself is Home.'' (Matsuo Basho)

ikirimat's picture

You are right, many of us

You are right,
many of us especially women are struggling with depression quietly and yet there is no where to turn to. I am glad you want to focus in this area.
Please go on, I want to read from you in this regard

Grace Ikirimat

"It takes the hammer of persistence to drive the nail of success."


PrincessZar's picture

Thank you!

Hi Grace,

Thank you for taking your time to read the post on depression. There is still alot of work for us African women to ensure that we start to understand this silent crippling illness and also to educate our communities about it.

Looking forward to connecting with you.

Keep dancing to the rhythm of your own beat.

Keep your fire burning!

Just how you got serenated by Bonnis' book, In same way i got serenated by your post and was so much enjoying how you sway with events so easily and yet everything get flowing- from the funeral ceremony to the book reading and the family etc.
Personally, i haven't read much books on depression, contrary i have heard and listen people share experiences and how they managed of overcame (if truly they did).
Truly in our african context, there is alot of misconception. People don't understand what depression mean though they experience each now and then. I think there aren't policies and rehab centres, people don't understand depression. Many fight and cover it up with alcohol, smoking and aggression.

Stay Blessed

Zoneziwoh

Blog: http://zofem.blogspot.com/

Facebook:Zoneziwoh Mbondgulo Wondieh

Twitter | Instagram: @ZoFem

Just how you got serenated by Bonnis' book, In same way i got serenated by your post and was so much enjoying how you sway with events so easily and yet everything get flowing- from the funeral ceremony to the book reading and the family etc.
Personally, i haven't read much books on depression, contrary i have heard and listen people share experiences and how they managed of overcame (if truly they did).
Truly in our african context, there is alot of misconception. People don't understand what depression mean though they experience each now and then. I think there aren't policies and rehab centres, people don't understand depression. Many fight and cover it up with alcohol, smoking and aggression.

Stay Blessed

Zoneziwoh

Blog: http://zofem.blogspot.com/

Facebook:Zoneziwoh Mbondgulo Wondieh

Twitter | Instagram: @ZoFem

PrincessZar's picture

oh wow! Thank you so much for

oh wow! Thank you so much for your kind words. I am humbled.

I am only a student of life who finally got the courage to express herself through writing.

What an interesting observation about not having enough policies and rehab centers that deal with with depression and most importantly health education on depression.

Keep your fire for life burning!

Keep your fire burning!

Waqar Azim's picture

Thank u

Thank u for sharing the knowledge.
idea about depression is good.
thanks
Waqar Azim

Thank you for letting us know about this book. I have ordered a copy, as I am intrigued to read about the author's experience as I too suffer from depression.
Kind regards Ola

Ola Fagbohun
blog: www.olasworld.com
website: www.diversetraveller.com
Facebook: facebook.com/diversetraveller
Twitter: @diversetraveler

jacollura's picture

Reading list

This is a great idea. Let's come up with a reading list of books dealing with women and depression. I plan to read Eye Bags and Dimples, and then report back to this group with my thoughts.
Thanks for sharing!
Julie

Hi Julie,

I love the idea and maybe over time we can also invite online counselors whom we can also interact with on matters of depression.

Keep your fire for life burning!

Keep your fire burning!

Deqa's picture

Added to ma list

Thank you for the awesomely articulated review of the book. And my condolences about the death your uncle.
I surely look forward to reading it.
Love
Deqa

PrincessZar's picture

Hi Deqa, Thank you my dear

Hi Deqa,

Thank you my dear and I am sure you will enjoy the book too!

Have a beautiful week.

Keep your fire burning!

PrincessZar's picture

Diverse traveller, wow! I

Diverse traveller, wow! I love your spontaneity, I still need to get my copy too as that one was my cousins. And I am so happy I hope that this book too can shine some light in your path.

As you take this journey of healing, I ask that you to be gentle with yourself and know that you are not alone.

Keep your fire for life burning.

Princess Zar!

Keep your fire burning!

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