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Visions of a visionary.

I am of the belief that everyone should have a fair chance to be able to follow through with their visions at their own pace, in their own way. However, the world as we know it, is not a just and fair world. We are born into circumstances that often seem beyond our grasp and capability to change. Often, we are told since our childhood to accept things as they are because “that’s just the way it is”. A strict hierarchy that exists in our society teaches us to know our place in this world and to stay there. This can result in most of our primal, creative urges to be subdued and sedated. This process usually starts at home and continues into our schooling. Strict, conservative and traditional forms of institutionalized learning especially in “post-colonial” countries like mine does not nurture creative thinking and questioning. We are taught to memorize during the classes and regurgitate during the exams.
Since my early years, I rebelled against this dogmatic and structured view of life. I climbed trees, played ball, threw stones at ducks in ponds, picked mangoes and lychees from my grandma’s trees, chased birds, and did everything that “girls” don’t do. I never wanted to play with my sister and female cousins, because I thought they were boring. They played with dolls, and kitchen toys and everything else girls supposedly were interested in. Unknowingly, in my childhood innocence I was defying gender stereotypes and roles.
As I grew into a young lady, I was taught and told thousand of times how to speak and act like a girl by both my sister and mother. Somehow I could never follow those rules and this freethinking often caused me grief; as an adult it continues to get me in trouble.
I believe that everyone on this planet should have the opportunity to follow their dreams and turn it into a reality that they themselves have the power to control.
We all have a unique vision. We have a unique voice. To subdue this voice by following social norms, rules and regulations is one of the worst forms of violence we can cause to ourselves.
For the past ten years I have been working hard on developing my own unique voice and also working with other women so they can understand that they all have their own strong voices. Through my organization VOW Media, I am trying to contribute to a world where women from marginalized communities are empowered and their voices strengthened.
This dual work often really tires and stresses me. It is hard to find a balance between being the person; the artist and myself; and being a grassroots women’s activist. Often times I find no support to help push me further and often times I am too afraid to ask for support, falsely believing that I need to be strong and handle it myself. It is easy to get lost in this world of always being the strong pillar of support to the amazing community of women I work with and forgetting about my own self.
Being part of the World Pulse community for the past two months has forced me to reflect on myself; to evaluate and to re-understand myself. It helps me isolate my strengths from my weakness and clearly understand me; the person, the artist, the visionary.
It has made me realize that by being part of Voices of our Correspondent, on one hand I can experience my own personal artistic and critical thinking development through weekly writings and assignments and on the other hand I feel safe and secure in a group of women that nurture and hone my activism and progressive ideas. It is a balance between both the worlds I live in.
It is a place where I am often inspired because I spend time reading other women’s thoughts and ideas, which challenge my own. It is a place that encourages me to harness the power of digital media to share my vision, to sharpen my skills and allows me to feel like my voice can somehow or someday make a positive change in people’s lives by encouraging them to voice their own thoughts loud and strong.

Comments

Amina_3's picture

Wonderful Thought

Hi Pooja,

You have written a great post. Keep it up.

Warm regards,
Amina

Pooja Pant's picture

:)

thank you Amina

dreams with the moon's picture

balance

Hi Pooja,

I know exactly what you mean: the inner (and outer!) rebellion against stereotypes and walking this fine line of being a person just like everybody else that needs to both give AND receive. To heal this situation is in my understanding part of the healing we, as women, need to accomplish and therefore a form activism itself! It's tough but it's a different dimension of changing the world and reading your post I can feel you moving and stirring on so many dimensions of this transformation.
So I want to thank you for your honesty and your intuition and sensitivity, for listing to your strengths and weaknesses. Once the question is in you you'll eventually live your answer...

Love

Jana

Pooja Pant's picture

wow

Thank you for your well thought out and analysed reply. Makes me so happy that you took the time to read it and understand it l!
Pooja

Falchemist's picture

Balance

Pooja, I read somewhere once, that balance is not possibly for people who are on a mission. It helped me rid myself of the stress of trying to find balance, which search really served only to exacerbate the stresses already inherent in my mission. Don't distress yourself with those imaginings!! Take care of your health, rest when you can, pay attention to the people closest to you, and then go about your mission with all the power and possibility that entails.

Riya's picture

Great to see another Nepali

Dear Pooja,

I am glad to hear that you're able to break some of the so called "traditional" gender stereotypes which exists in our society ( I am also from Nepal). Sadly, we are often forced to follow these rules by our own family and relatives such as mothers, sisters, aunts and grandmothers. I think they too are grew up hearing " that's how thing are supposed to be". I think many of our own family members are opposed to these gender stereotypes against women but often do not go against the whole system but rather follow it. I think many of us do not know how to break the vicious behavior perpetrated against women, or how to make our voices heard. I think we need many more grassroots activist like you who can provide the information and education needed to break gender stereotypes. There are so many women who have proven they are more than capable of doing things if they just get an opportunity. Please keep doing what you're doing
Thank you for sharing your vision with us.

Riya

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