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2013 VOF Week 4 I will question, challenge, contest, and resist

Silenced No MORE

Refusing to become invisible, like the good little girl that I was brought up to be, I want to become older, wiser, better - I will run, then walk, then crawl, until I become immobile. This process occurs on all levels – physically, intellectually, and spiritually.

To transgress this cultural role placement, I will question, challenge, contest, and resist the status quo. The narrative has importance in my resistance to silence. My story - my life - has the power to shape my own narrative. I can create a self-fulfilling prophecy. I have the power within me, to change perceptions: about me, about women, about silence.

Throughout my life story, there has always been those who would curb my enthusiasm, my natural exuberance, my ‘joie de la vie’. There are people who think they can control me by using their negativity over my positive power and confidence. This tactic worked, temporarily. No more, no more silence.

Who am I? I have many identities and positions within my cultural and social groups. At the end of 1998, it was time for me to take my future firmly in hand and make some intentional choices directed by my personal needs and desires. As a single mother and an unemployed poverty-stricken survivor of domestic violence, this was a turning point for me. During the work of completing my college undergraduate and graduate degrees, I worked full-time. My work, which I love, has taught me many things that complement my college education. I improved my mental and spiritual dimensions. I have set my goal to becoming a citizen journalist. Being a citizen journalist will be the best use of my abilities to research and analyze data, produce articles for newsletters and newspapers, develop curriculum and facilitate trainings for staff and volunteers.

Being a citizen journalist illustrates how I may become better, as a human being. It also speaks to my ability to multi-task on several levels: personal, professional, family. I am passionate about making a difference in the lives of my four children and eight grandchildren, as well as the lives of the women and children I come into contact with through my work. I have committed myself to work towards the elimination of violence against women, specifically domestic violence and sexual assault on a global level. I recognize the fact that this work has connections with other important social issues such as homelessness, human rights, poverty, racism, sexism, ageism, and homophobia. I have knowledge of many of these issues through personal experience, professional experience, and my pursuit of higher education.

My intellectual identity is still developing and will be well utilized as a citizen journalist. What I know for sure . . . I have the writing, critical thinking, analyzing, and studying skills necessary to become a successful citizen journalist. I have the ability to learn quickly and flexibility to adapt to situations as they arise, which includes handling crisis and trauma. I have developed skills to work with a variety of people in variety of settings. I have the personal characteristics of ambition, focus, commitment, strong morals, and a high ethical expectation and practice for myself.

This is how I am becoming older, wiser, and better. I develop my creativity by writing poetry, short stories, and journaling. I mentor others and I have mentors who are showing me the way to reach my potential. I volunteer; promote social change and social justice. I learn about other cultures that are different from mine. I teach others about resistance while I transgress the status quo. I am a role model for those who would refuse to remain silent. I transgress social control by becoming me and using my voice.

This is how a woman like me works towards becoming older, wiser, better citizen journalist! This is why being a citizen journalist will help me as I work to reach my goal of the elimination violence against women and girls on a global level.

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Maya Norton's picture

Debra, I could feel this

Debra, I could feel this story flowing out of you. Did it feel cathartic? It was crackling with energy from start to finish.

~ Maya

Debra K Adams MA's picture

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thank you for your comment - when I sit down to write, it does feel like that...sometimes I really surprise myself!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
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Aminah's picture

joie de la vie

We surely need to claim back the joy of living.
Good on you that you have embraced it and I am so glad you are on a cause to spread that joy to other women who have not yet reached that level of acceptance.

Your work and commitment to your cause is motivating and it inspires me to forge ahead. It beckons me not to give in, or give up, and it clearly asks me not to sacrifice myself.
Thank you for being the force you are. Thank you for building upon your life's struggle to make the life of many others better.

Salaam
Aminah

Debra K Adams MA's picture

thank you SiSter!

You are very kind! I am happy if my words give inspiration to women like ourselves...we must NOT give up - it is never too late! keep writing Aminah, use your voice to move through your pain to get to where you want to be!

much love to you
Always your sister, Debra

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
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Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
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Sangita Thapa's picture

Applause!

Dear Debra, it must have taken a lot of courage and confidence to persist and fight back being a single mother as well as a victim of domestic violence. I applaud your courage and your bold decision to help victims of domestic and sexual violence. I can see you already are a part of social change. Congratulations dear sister!

Debra K Adams MA's picture

thank you

to be honest, much of the past relating to recovery from the abusive marriage is a blur..I definitely did not think I was being brave, only taking one step at a time, one day at a time, until I arrived somewhere close to the rainbow!! This why I know all women can make it past the violence, to a better pace in the world.

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

I have the power within me, to change my world of pain.Thank you for this wonderful spring of life.Your words move through me and i feel that road of liberty which i have never felt before. Your words inspire me and i know I have the power within me, to change the world of others.
Adah

Dear Debra,

As I read and felt your powerful words, I envisioned you as a BEAUTIFUL, STRONG LIONESS protecting her family, self and community. YES, silenced NO MORE!

Thank you for sharing your story. Powerful testimony of how you overcame personal hardships as a single mom, survivor of domestic violence and now an educator, advocate for social justice and a citizen journalist empowering other women thru life's hardships.

I appreciate your determination and proactive spirit, your proclamation, "I have the power within me, to change perceptions: about me, about women, about silence."

I honor your LIONESS spirit and may you always ROAR for the freedoms and humanity for all women and girls in our world.

Keep up the good work!

With Gratitude,

Linda M. Ando

Debra K Adams MA's picture

thanks

Linda, I appreciate your response, thank you! One of my closest friends' totem animal is the lion, so i love this comparison! I get my 'lionnes' powers from her, and now I share them with all of my VOF sisters!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

sallyf's picture

Wishing you much support,

Wishing you much support, persistence, inspiration and fulfilment in pursuing the goals you are already heading so purposefully and powerfully towards. The causes you are championing are very important and will benefit so much from your work.

Debra K Adams MA's picture

many thanks...

Sally, to you for your post. I am enjoying the connections we have with each other, so many of us have been impacted by violence, we must use it to make the world better! that is my wish for you and all of us.

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

Falchemist's picture

Prose. Poetry. Drama.

Prose. Poetry. Drama. Personal experience and a solid commitment to women's emancipation makes you a very wise woman.
The women of the world need grandmothers who feel strong enough and powerful enough to speak the truths that the world needs to hear. My only suggestion would be that you get to know that you can use the three writing styles separately, at different times, for different occasions and issues.

The poetry was striking and very effective, but your response to this assignment,a s I understood it, should probably have been a little more academic.

Do, please, post some of your purely poetic writing. I would love to read more.

Debra K Adams MA's picture

appreciate the feedback

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I understand that you have this perspective. My perspective is different from yours. I usually approach my writing from my interdisciplinary standpoint, which includes my own biases, as well as my academic experience and professional skills. I will definitely consider your advice in the future.
Always your sister! Debra

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

pelamutunzi's picture

powerful post

you have inspired to aim high and do more. yopu prospered with little resources and yet here you a pillar for all of us. keep sharing you are indeed selfless thank you

we may be powerless to stop an injustice but let there never be a time we fail to protest.
regards
pela

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