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Life Skills very Important - A Real Life Experience

when my sister finished 12th grade or high school. she decided to get married she eloped. My mother send people to bring her a day after she learnt where Doreen had married herself off. the man was well to do but illiterate dealing in boarder smuggling and with some wealth,. so being the child Doreen was she followed money. my mother couldn't stand it she send a team and they brought her back. she went back mother this time went in person and brought her back. she was taken back to school and now she is a dentist, self sustaining and respected woman in society.

She lacked the life skills especially critical thinking and analysis skills to make he right decisions for her life. it took a strong mother but many a time many women let it pass. How many of us can be like my mother if a child elopes they follow and bring back their children. Many parents see is as good riddance and a save of family income since the child will have no more claims on family assets and property.

My other sister Glory, when still in primary decided she was not going to school any more. My mother held her by the arm with lashes for a distance of 2 km and asked her to return to school. Glory had seen other village girls stop school and thought she could do the same. On her graduation she held her gown and said it belonged to mother as she realized had not it been for the beating that morning she would never have been an accomplished lawyer a governmental state attorney highly respected and an example to girls and women in society.

She lacked the life skills education and participatory decision making at that age was shallow. it took her empowered mother to open her eyes.

This experience has helped me with my own children who at one time want to drop out and i insist they move on, not with lashes but we talk about it and they see reason. and it helps me to keep stable and say all is well even in the deepest waters i still float.

Are we as strong as my mother in ensuring girls and women stick to education and have a secure future. its your duty to sustain the loop, no drop out!!!!!!!!

This story was written for World Pulse’s Girls Transform the World Digital Action Campaign.

World Pulse believes that women's stories, recommendations, and collective rising leadership can—and will—bring girls greater access to education which will transform their lives, their families, and communities. The Girls Transform Campaign elicits insightful content from young women on the ground, strengthens their confidence as women, and ensures that influencers and powerful institutions hear their stories.
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When we are young we need guidance of empowered and strong people.
Without that support life will be so much harder.

I married young. My mother had married so many people that her advice to me was chose one and stick to one.
I married someone who asked for my hand. He begged and pleaded. wanted to me badly. I was not mature enough to make the right decision (that's what I believe now). But I was trying to take my mothers advice. She did not wanted to intervene based on her own experience. So yes, if she had been educated she would have stopped me.

Anyways, we learn through living and let's keep the message circulating so that more people are aware of these things.

Salaam
Aminah

pelamutunzi's picture

the difference empowerment makes

wow this is a really strong story of courage and will power. your mother was not afraid of what people would say. in zimbabwe if your daughter elopes as long as the man has accepted its a relief and no one follows. people become more concerned about the lobola and how much the man will pay. if its a bad match people tell you to stick it out. no one even comes to insepect or just see the man and what kind of life u are leading. i have learnt a big lesson. i had the same experience but i thank god it was a good match no one followedd except to ask what the plan was and when he was going to come and pay. youung girls need guidance and its better to stop a bad marriage right at the roots as parents we have foresight and we have always been proven right

we may be powerless to stop an injustice but let there never be a time we fail to protest.
regards
pela

jacquesato's picture

Kudos to your mom!

Dear Flavia:
Your mother seems to be a very strong woman. I'm really glad to hear your two sisters were persuaded by her to keep studying. Their lives would have been completely different if they'd dropped out of school and married young. I'm sure both of them had regretted a decision like that...
Regards,

Jacqueline

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