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Is feminism supposed to eradicate the role of wife? NOT AT ALL

Otto Tendayi Mponda

Immediately when I heard the title of Beyonce Knowels 2013 European tour called 'The Mrs Carte Show'.
The title on its own just intrigued me
as I saw it as a breath of fresh air with regards to embrasing womanhood as a multi- tasked phenomena.
For those who might not have heard of Beyonce Knowles,
well ..she is an American female musician popularly known for her
women empowering and girl power songs such as Single ladies, Who runs the world? Girls,
and many other anthems celebrating womanhood.
The thing is, when her World Tour was entitled 'The Mrs Carte Show'
I thought it was kind of refreshing for her to embrace her role as 'wife'
to her American rapper husband Shawn Carte popularly known as 'Jay Z' on the rap and music scene,
It surely gave a good impression that a woman could still be independent and emancipated
without compromising her role as a wife in her matrimonial marriage.

In most of her televised interviews,
Beyonce usually says that she is a different person when performing on stage
than she is a wife and mother in her matrimonial home.
On stage she has a very strong and fierce feminine presence
reflective of the modern day independent woman,
but also likes being a great wife who is committed to fulfilling her womanly duties in her marital home.
Being able to maintain this balance in my own opinion is just out of this world.

Another example of a female singer in the same influential league as Beyonce is Mariah Carey who happens to be married to comedian and American reality TV personality Nick Canon.
Although Mariah is usually busy promoting her music, doing live tours and being a judge on the reality music show American Idol, she always enjoys spending time with her twin babies and cooking for her husband who she confesses to be obsessed with her cooking and wifery skills.
It is quite inspiring to see how these very emancipated co-operate women happen to stabilize their career success and financial independence, with motherhood.
These and other unmentioned examples of powerful women like Michelle Obama ( USA), Gracia Machell Mandela (South Africa) and Omotola Jalade Ekeinde (Nigeria), among many others who are also successful housewives as much as they are successfull business women, actually made me believe that it is very much possible for a woman to be financially independent and empowered yet still manage to be a very content wife and hands on mother

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Dear Otto,

Those are very valid questions. And the questions are often on the surface of our mind for many women leading a busy cooperate life. Feminism and emancipation and empowerment - these does not necessarily mean that women have to be at top posts and be running organizations; nor does it mean to say we don't have differences. There are biological differences. there are differences in our sexuality.

What is important is that the rest of the humanity understands the choices we make. When we become mothers, our children become our priority naturally and it's a tough debate to whether continue work or stay home. There is a stage in the children's life when they need at least one parent to be ever present. And the mother is the natural choice because of biological reasons. But what happens when the children grow up?

We want there to be proper mechanisms in place that takes into account that some people have a life other than being an employee, like job share, flexible working hours, ability to return to work after a maternity break etc.

If a women works outside, the partner needs to understand that that's her choice and the partner needs to take his share of the workload at home front. If a women chooses to be happy as a housewife, then again the partner needs to understand her need for financial support.

When children are small, they occupy a lot of our time. And that's enough to keep us happy. But what happens when they grow up? What women's empowerment does is to allow women to chose what they want to do when they want to do.

When we women, go out into the cooperate world it does not mean we forget about our sexuality. Calling for gender equality is a totally different thing. Just as men, we need to unwind and relax :)

I enjoyed reading your post. Keep asking more questions.

Salaam
Aminah

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Not at all important, but

Not at all important, but Rihanna is not American. She is from the island nation of Barbados. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rihanna

I figure you've had enough of my compliments so I've moved on to providing feedback of a factual nature. :)

~ Maya

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