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unknown molestation

Finding a lasting solution to Girl-child molestation,rape and abuse is one of the change I represent and crave for.
Having experienced molestation as a child of 11years old, I wish to become a shield for the millions of girls out there,I wish to help find a lasting solution to rape and molestation.
Growing up at the community market,area I remember how my friends lost their innocence while hawking to men who took it by force and through enticement.
I often felt lucky that I didn't bleed or used publicly but I was more ignorant than my friends because I had no knowledge of what I experienced. Deborah used me to satisfy her sexual desires and brainwashed me into believing I was the one who crave for her touch.
All began with playing in the Akinbami's flat after school. Deborah, who was six years my senior favoured me above her siblings, she described me as a matured kid and allowed me stay with her and watched movie,sometimes porno while others play outside.
I noticed each time, we watch 'adult movie' she touch herself and sometimes asked if I understand the movie.
One fateful day, she took me to the open roof where she taught me what I was in the movie we watched earlier. We continued every afternoon, changing venues until one evening, she came to our flat with her brother. We watched movie like we used to, Deborah encouraged me to allow her brother do some act on the television, when I refused she held my hands to the chair and blackmailed she was going to other kids our secret. I remember crying and begging for her to stop.
For months, I became Deborah and her brother toy.
This continued until they moved out of their apartment.
It hurt to be molested and not to know. I felt worst knowing I can't seek for protection and comfort from my father, who never forgave me for the death of his wife,my mother who died during childbirth.
Above all, Deborah built an irritation in me.

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Sharontina's picture

Hope

So sad to hear that dear Tosin. But i hope that you have come out of that and started standing for several girls and women here. Life's past has taught us a lesson and we carry only the lessons to the future and not the past. So keep going rising your voice loud. Keep sharing dear.

Love.

Merlin Sharontina

Tosin's picture

Thanks, I just want to do

Thanks, I just want to do more to end the paon of many women.

Cassady's picture

You are so brave

Tosin,
Thank you for sharing your deeply personal story. It breaks my heart to see the suffering that you and so many others have endured. But to know that you have hope for the future, and a desire to prevent the pain of others is so inspiring. I know you will continue to find strength in your voice, and you will be helping others to heal from their pain as well. Keep on writing!

Cassady
www.worldschildren.org

Tosin's picture

I respect your voice on

I respect your voice on children...Thanks, I wish I can save the pain of another girl.

Beverly Rose's picture

child sex abuse

Dear Tosin,

Thank you for sharing your personal story, however difficult it may have been. In the US, April is child abuse prevention month. We raise awareness about child sex abuse, which, unfortunately, is a world wide issue. I felt that reading your story was particularly relevant today. Like other forms of abuse, children who have been molested are told to keep that secret. By exposing it, hopefully they can heal from their trauma. So, again, thank you for sharing this. I wonder how you might utilize World Pulse to help others heal?

I look forward to reading more from you

In peace,
Beverly

Tosin's picture

I discovered one tool via

I discovered one tool via world pulse and that is sharing a voice to safe others. If only I can change one society,if only! Thanks for the time reading.can you please share the tools used in eliminating child-abuse in the US?

Tosin's picture

I discovered one tool via

I discovered one tool via world pulse and that is sharing a voice to safe others. If only I can change one society,if only! Thanks for the time reading.can you please share the tools used in preventing child-abuse in the US?because child-abuse still remain dominant and little action are been taken in my part of the world.

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