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Girl power

When I was born my mother was happy but the whole family was not happy as I am a third child of my parents and still a girl and my father and his relatives were expecting me to be a boy. I was name after a man (Emile) but my name was made to sound feminine (Emilia).
My whole relatives treated me like a boy cause of my name I grow up been praise because of my name sake was a hardworking man, this really upset me as I was a little girl I had never dressed like a girl nor been treated like a girl not even by my own mother.
I remember, my mother use to get angry if visitors or acquaintances tell her that I look like her: She was screaming no she don’t look like me. I grow up a tomboy, boy likes me too much because I use to behave and dress like them. I didn’t have a problem with that as I was seen as a strong girl in my family through the teenager and as well in my adult life. And this taught me two; things to be strong and an independent woman. My relatives and friends praise me for my bravely as I always stood up for myself if not happy about something around me.

I god married and my husband pass away, His family wanted me to be inherited by his cousin and I refuse, they took away everything I and my late husband had , because they say I killed my husband to inherit his properties, I can only inherit If I marry someone from their family and to that I refuse. I walk out of our house with my son only and our suitcases. It was heart breaking because I was young and my son was only 4 months old. But I stood up against widow inherit, and I know my late husband will not be happy the way his relatives treat me and his child.

I walk away knowing that I am doing that for the younger generation in my tribe to refuse force marriages and widow inherit. I am a role model for girls in my family and in my community. I know older generation was very upset for me to refuse to be inherited, but as the see me today and I told them my reasons to refuse they are happy and some of them says; they are happy that women are standing nowadays because in their time it was very difficult and refuse. I refuse cause I am not own by someone I am a free human being, and want everyone to respect me as a woman.

One of my goals this year is to hold girls talk show with aim to discuss harmful cultural practices that put our lives in danger as women.

Comments

IamTruth's picture

I applaud you for courage

Dear Emms!

I admire and applaud you for your courage. Going against the grain isn't ever easy, especially when you have a lot at stake. But you did. And you are still standing. I encourage you to keep fighting for what you believe in, and know that women across the world have joined you in your struggle.

Love,

IamTruth

Emms's picture

Thanks

Thank you. Im happy to hear that I have support from other women across the globe

Cheers
Emms

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skype: emmsmich
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William's picture

out-dated widow customs

Dear Emms, what you experienced upon your husbands' death is common in India too. It is very out-dated and denies women of their rights to inherit. Please keep telling your story and working to eliminate this horrible abuse of women's rights. We, your World Pulse community is behind you 100%.
blessings,
William

Rhobai's picture

Brave woman

Thank you Emms

I am very happy for the steps you took after the death of your husband. With your struggle and openness, you will achieve more in future. This is an an encouragement to the youngsters never to be fooled by relatives of their husbands. Bravo!!

gaurav.nakhare's picture

A role-model indeed!

Dear Emms,

Thank-you for your sharing -- your story is an inspiration for all of us. I hope you will continue to use the World Pulse community as a platform to teach & share, learn, and grow.

Best wishes,

Gaurav Nakhare
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Anna V's picture

Know yourself

Like the others have said, you were courageous to stand up for what you believed in. You know yourself well, and you can use that strength to make real changes in your life and the lives of others.
Anna

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