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The Future i dream of

Growing up as a young girl I witnessed many girls and women around me being subjected to domestic violence. This was very terrifying for me but one of the male figures in my life told me that according to culture if a man did not beat his wife he did not love her. So I grew up knowing that the only way for a husband to show affection to his wife or daughters was through a good beating.

When I started working in a non- governmental organization I was presented with a very shocking case on my first day at work. This case was referred to us by a laboratory technician of a famous hospital. She had carried various tests on this family on different days and found out that all the members of the family were HIV positive. This family was of Arab origin, a mother, her two daughters and a grandchild aged 3 years. After a long talk with the mother I learnt that her current husband was not the father of her two daughters and that he told her he had to have sex with her daughters in order not to bring other women in his house. She accepted and as a result one of daughters got pregnant and gave birth. When they started falling sick they were asked to test for HIV ,and to their shock they were all positive. Her husband refused to test and claimed that they must have been sleeping around and that he was not the one who infected them. This woman confided in me and told me that her husband beats them on a regular basis and because they have no where to go and no else to support them they do not report the matter to the police. She begged me not to report the matter to the police and not to make it a public matter. After serious consultations with my supervisor we decided to take them for counseling and before we knew it they had left the country, we do not know to where. This case has puzzled me up to today and I keep wondering what could have happened to them.

It is because of cases like this and many others that I have handled, that I have looked for someone to confide in. My passion for social change lead me to world pulse and I believe the Voices of our future program will help me be a strong voice for women and girls in my country.

I realized that it would be good to share my stories with women who can advice me on how to handle such delicate situations. I believe that this program will teach me how to ensure that the voices of these women are heard and this will create advocacy for gender based violence and one day I know through our on line community and advocacy the world will free from gender based violence. THE FUTURE I DREAM OF......

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Sharontina's picture

Culture!

That brutality in the name of culture has to come to an end. I am glad that you are working on that dear sister.I appreciate your thirst for helping those women out there. Keep sharing.

Blessings.

Merlin Sharontina

Anita Muhanguzi's picture

Thanks Sharontina

Thanks my dear sister for the encouraging words and God bless you.

Mrs. Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Head of Legal and Advocacy
Centre for Batwa Minorities
a.kiddu@gmail.com
cfmlegal@gmail.com
Skype: mrs_muhanguzi

Klaudia Mexico's picture

Anything, but being alone

How alarming is that we women have learned that we have to have a men, even if it costs our suffering and our children´s. We have to unite to teach other women to protect and defend ourselves.
Congrats for your amazing work
Cheers from beautiful Mexico
Klaudia

Klaudia González

Anita Muhanguzi's picture

Thanks

Thanks Klaudia. And for sure there are many women out there who need to be empowered so that they can fight for their rights and for their children. Most of the women i interact with have resigned to their fate. Thanks for the support.

Mrs. Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Head of Legal and Advocacy
Centre for Batwa Minorities
a.kiddu@gmail.com
cfmlegal@gmail.com
Skype: mrs_muhanguzi

I´ve thinking of your story. I have shared with coleages and friends. And I realized how powerful is being here. Let's keeping making dreams true.
hugs
Klaudia

Klaudia González

Anita Muhanguzi's picture

Dear Kaludia

This story and many others haunt me every day. One woman once told me that i was still a young girl and i could not imagine what happens behind people's closed doors. Many times as a community we tend to keep a blind eye to the cruel things that happen within our own midst and pretend that it is okay. we blame it on culture and the way things should be and this is all wrong. we need to let women know that things have to change and that they have the power in their hands to ensure that their situation changes. Thanks my dear sister and stay blessed. Nice Day

Mrs. Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Head of Legal and Advocacy
Centre for Batwa Minorities
a.kiddu@gmail.com
cfmlegal@gmail.com
Skype: mrs_muhanguzi

nifkinz's picture

A haunting read indeed! I

A haunting read indeed! I was drawn into your writing and into the story you told. Now I am also curious as to the fate of that family and I am saddened at the amount of suffering the mother and her daughters had to go through. And to think that this is only one of many stories that you carry along with you daily. Wow.

thank you for sharing this with us.

Becky Frary

Beverly Rose's picture

love doesn't hurt

Dear Anita,

First of all, thank you for joining World Pulse and for sharing your story. We know that women who are abused often are isolated, feeling all alone. It is by bringing this to light, into the open, that can break that stronghold of violence. By doing so, you are helping to empower women, being that agent of social change to make this a safer world. I hope that you continue to write, to share, until one day the future you dream of is a reality.

In peace,
Beverly

hemrajan's picture

Anita, The case history that

Anita,

The case history that you shared was very shocking indeed.
Yet it also sounds all too familiar - women feeling trapped and bound to a man that does not love or respect them, their bodies or their minds. I feel for the daughters of the woman who got victimized.

Anita, I would love to hear more about your journey from "So I grew up knowing that the only way for a husband to show affection to his wife or daughters was through a good beating" to heading a legal centre for women and minorities! How did you overcome this self-limiting thinking and make your path?

Carpe Diem

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