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What All Girls And Women Must Know

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HERE'S WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN:

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think "it will get better "You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...Even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not
make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are
NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending Compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage...Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for
granted Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

*Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful:

Dr. Phil says You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the
1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts...
Adah Mbah

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Debra K Adams MA's picture

Oprah wisdom

Adah, Oprah can say the same thing you can, but she gets listened to , right? Oprah-isms are praised, and I certainly appreciate all Oprah has done for the world. YOUR voice is needed, too. YOU know all the things you gave Oprah credit for, right? YOU speak in your voice & experience and I will listen - many women here in WP/VOF will listen to you!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

Adahmbah's picture

Yes i can

It takes time and expirences in life to gain such a wonderful inside.I apprecaite her wisdom and i hope i can stand in the world to make my vioce heard in the lives of women suffering with pain and rejection.we have a young organisation called Mothers of Hope and most of the women are either drop outs or illitrates who got married early and could not go to school.We have decided to train 10women free on social media.Please i need your advice.
Adah

Debra K Adams MA's picture

ok!

what can I do to help with your social media training - I would love to be of assistance to you!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

thanks my dear for opening up i want us to put our heads together to empower 10 local women with the interest in learning some basics on the computer. Most of them ffear even tourching the computer because of complex. Please just think how we could make some poorly and unpriveleged women change their world.
Thanks
Adah

Adahmbah's picture

Thanks my dear

i'm delighted.
Thanks again
Adah

Caryn Dudarevitch's picture

Love this very insightful

My dear sister we must make sure we educate and build a stronger generation free from all forms of violence in the world.i will plead with you help me find or send anything on women issues, seminals and,conference arlets or even scholarships wbsites to help me foster my education and build my capacity.
I'm grateful.
Adah

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