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The poem: We are Amazing (By Carnia Adams, aged 12 years old)

I shared my connection to Worldpulse with my daughter and told her about the poem we're to write. I never did write one before. She asked me what it was about and I shared with her, it is about giving women and young girls a space to speak out. She then asked if she could write the poem, on behalf of women, as she sees women in South Africa. Here is the peom she wrote.

We are Amazing

I’m a growing woman
And I speak for all
We are amazing and we’ll never fall
Our lives are like a changing story
One minute we’re happy the next we feel scrappy
We’re the most hurt and bruised and often our hearts are broken into two
But we always seem to make it through
Everyday thousands of us are killed,
But people don’t realise they need our skills
We make the best of every situation,
But often people begin to question,
Are they help, are they intellectuals or are they here to make us feel special?
Often men and boys treat us like scrap
But guess what, we taught them how to rap!
We are the domains, and we should be treated so
We’re not here to be hurt or thrown with stones.
We stand up for what we love and hide our hurt with smiles.
People should take a lesson and maybe they’ll reach the mile.
So what I’m saying is simply,
We are amazing!
Just because we’re women
And I’m sure we not an intrusion
All we want is love and respect
Then maybe we’ll fix what is wrecked
We are women, we are hope, we are amazing and we’ll find a way to cope.

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Comments

Sharing this peom with you, written by my 12 year old girl child, makes me want to go deeper and find meaning in all that I do when working with others in situations of despair.
I realise that I must articuate all that I am, I must go deeper for her. To give her a sense of understanding and a clear truth of what she is and becoming.
You inspire me, women inspire me, to want a better future for our girls... and boys.
As adult women, we must make choices that will teach you that your destiny is yours to claim.

Thank you for believing in womens freedom of a better life. Never stop believing young ones!

Myrtle Adams-Gardner

Nakinti's picture

Nice one....very nice

Nice one....very nice one.
Kudos to your little angel...me like.
Love from Cameroon

Nakinti B. Nofuru
2013 VOF Correspondent
Reporter for Global Press Institute
Bamenda - Cameroon
Email: nakinti@globalpressinstitute.org
nakintin@yahoo.com

Nakinti's picture

Nice one....very nice

Nice one....very nice one.
Kudos to your little angel...me like.
Love from Cameroon

Nakinti B. Nofuru
2013 VOF Correspondent
Reporter for Global Press Institute
Bamenda - Cameroon
Email: nakinti@globalpressinstitute.org
nakintin@yahoo.com

Aminah's picture

Your daughter is so very talented.

And yes, I guess a bit more analysis is needed to decipher the unsaid words in between the lines.

She has got quite a grip on gender issues.
I wish both of you success.

Regards,
Aminah

Salaam
Aminah

MyrtleG's picture

Thank you. I agree that when

Thank you. I agree that when allowed the space to disclose, we must do so with a sense of responsibility to the other. She is only 12 and requires success stories too; not only the ones shown in the media of horror and fear for ones own living. We need to hear their views, opinions, for they have so much opportunity to living a life that is good not one that is filled with fears, even if such becomes what we learn. We help shape their world.

Myrtle Adams-Gardner

JaniceW's picture

Powerful words

Your daughter is wise beyond her years. You are obviously a great role model for her and I am sure her life is all the richer for having you to guide her along her journey. Thank you for sharing her wisdom and thoughts with us.

MyrtleG's picture

The power of honest conversations

Thank you for your feedback, I will share it with her. Talking to her from early years made it possible to maintain openness in our reflationship. However, maintaining this trust is compounded by each individuals socioeconomical circumstances. The disparities in education leaves a gap between the rich and the poor. In my country, the disparities are very evident in the schooling system. Everyday we see/hear about incidents of child on child rape and violence. I find myself beteen a rock and a hard place, most times. At home I do everyting possible to get involved in Carnia's education and development, it is when she is at school, that these gaps in life skills become evident. It's a fact that parents with boy children do not always see the need to address issues of sexuality and identity with their boys. For some reason, we speak more too our girl children, maybe because they are more sociable, or maybe because we understand the difficulties that young girls are faced with. Personally, I belive that teaching values must be part of the school curriculum, teachers too should be trained in basic counseling skills. No, this is not the case in my country. Many parents believe that it is the teacher/schools responsibility to engage around and teach life skills. I try my best to engage around issues with Carnia as they arise (age appropriate of cause), but there are times when she is confronted with real issues of harrassment by boys her age. She came home one day in tears as the boys in her class where making fun of the girls, comparing their breast sizes. I addressed these sensitive issue at the next school meeting, so too not make it a issue about a specific child. These are boys I saw growing up, in her class, who come from good homes. They still young boys afterall. The school of cause reffered to their policy on sexual harrassment and assured parents that adolescent issues will be part of the life skills curriculum, and after speaking directly to her class teacher, we discovered that Carnia was more affected by how she witnessed the boys treat other girls. One of the girls in her class, wanted to committ suicide as she was not coping with the teasing. This became a worry for my child. She admitted that she struggled with their teasing for a while, without telling me, but Carnia felt she was abit more confident to stand up for herself, than some of the other girls in her class. Apart from issues of sexual harrassment, self esteem becomes a real concern, when girls/boys are not able to speak up. I guess her poem reflects some of her own real challenges. As parents we need to equip our children with the necessary relationship skills too, so that they can develop and maintain relationships that are good and not illed, while being able to speak openly in a home that fosters honest conversations.
Parents have a critical role to play in changing the landsacpe of violence and abuse in our communities and schools.

Myrtle Adams-Gardner

JaniceW's picture

Young Girl's Self-esteem

Hi Myrtle,

I was interested in your response above. I wanted to share with you a website that might have some helpful information in it for you. It is the Child Mind Institute and they specialize in children's mental healthcare. This can range from children on the autistic spectrum to young girls who have low self-esteem to children who do not speak outside of the home.

They have a Hot Topics section where their expert contributors speak out on certain issues. I thought you might be interested in the following links that specifically address young girl's self-esteem. The articles are from an American perspective but may be helpful nevertheless.

http://www.childmind.org/en/posts/articles/2012-9-25-girls-healthy-self-...

http://www.childmind.org/en/posts/articles/2012-9-25-13-ways-help-build-...

Wishing you all the best.
Janice

MyrtleG's picture

Defining oneself

Thank you very much Janice.

Myrtle Adams-Gardner

Stacey Rozen's picture

It's wonderful to read of a

It's wonderful to read of a mom and daughter relationship that's open to honest, supportive two way exchanges, Myrtle.

Creatively,
Stacey

MyrtleG's picture

Shift happens

Dear Stacey,

Your encouragement and kind words is apprecaited. My hope for our young girls are to foster environments were they feel safe to speak out and learn skills that will serve them well in their relationships in life. Yes, our interpersonal relationships must strive to be open and honest as a way to constantly reflect, unlearn skills that dont serve us and build the capacity that can support and help others too.

In Faith,
Myrtle

Myrtle Adams-Gardner

tiffany_anne's picture

Wonderful!

This was wonderful, thank you so much for sharing. Your daughter seems bright and compassionate- a voice of the next generation. I also love how you let your daughter share and engage with the community here. A wonderful example of how empowering women begins at home, and a real treat for all of us who got to read. Thank you.

Tiffany

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