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2013 VOF Week 2 A Monster in the Home

Fifteen years ago, I joined the teaching profession. During the first semester I noticed a young, innocent, beautiful and intelligent girl age 12 in her first year called Hilda. At the end of the first semester, Hilda proved my positive impression about her right because she had an average of 18.5/20. My lovely, intelligent and beautiful Hilda continued to top her class during the first three years of her secondary school life. I fell in love with Hilda because of her academic performance and for all these years, she had a special place in my heart.

Unfortunately at the end of the first semester in the fourth year, Hilda was among the bottom three in class. The outgoing Hilda had become so reserved and pale. She keeps to herself, had no friends and sleeps a lot in class. I decided to find out what her problem was. When I brought up the topic, she started crying, saying she does not want to die. After convincing her that she needs help, Hilda’s revelations were shocking.

Hilda was sexually molested by her own father. She had committed 4 abortions and presently she was suffering from a chronic venereal disease. Her father sleeps with her at least twice each night. He had made her take an oath not to tell anyone. That’s why Hilda was under the impression that if she reveals this secret she will die.

I alerted the school authorities and her father was summoned. He confessed to this crime and I thought the school authorities will file charges against him. Unfortunately, I saw this man a few weeks later roaming the streets freely. Hilda was removed from the house and sent to the dormitory but my greatest worry had been what will happen to her during summer holidays.

For the past 15 years, I continue to feel guilty because I discovered a ‘friendly monster’ but was unable to set his prey free. From that moment, I had taken a resolution to use all available means to help end this kind of violence against innocent ‘Hildas’. I trained as a professional teacher in order to get closer to more girls, and went further to have a Master in Sustainable International Development, specializing in gender related issues and currently I have come up with a Non-Governmental Organization with the vision to help end violence among women and girls, but finding funds to carry out programs and projects geared towards achieving my vision is a major challenge.

Becoming a member of World Pulse online community is of great importance. The tools available here are just perfect for me to expose the so many ‘friendly monsters’ in my community. If I had these tools 15 years ago, Hilda’s father would have served a maximum sentence for committing a crime against his own flesh and blood. My dream today is to use this medium provided by World Pulse to expose such ills in my community and bring the perpetrators to justice.

This story was written for World Pulse’s Girls Transform the World Digital Action Campaign.

World Pulse believes that women's stories, recommendations, and collective rising leadership can—and will—bring girls greater access to education which will transform their lives, their families, and communities. The Girls Transform Campaign elicits insightful content from young women on the ground, strengthens their confidence as women, and ensures that influencers and powerful institutions hear their stories.
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ikirimat's picture

the situation you have just

the situation you have just described in your story is something very many are grappling with. A dilemma to deal with. mothers have protected the defiler/rapist husbands to daughters. Lets keep our voices LOUD, one day all this injustices will be history

Grace Ikirimat

"It takes the hammer of persistence to drive the nail of success."


Mukut's picture

Yes, you are right!

Yes, you are right in exposing such monsters and stopping innocent victims to fall prey to them.

Good job. Proud of you.

Love,

Mukut Ray

sallyf's picture

Powerful story

I just wanted to write and let you know that this story really touched me, and that your drive and successes are an inspiration. Here's to protecting all 'Hildas' everywhere!

estelle's picture

Thanks for sharing and I want

Thanks for sharing and I want to prode ur efforts for taking up this challenge to help such vulnerable girls. keep up

akaneko's picture

This is such a heartbreaking

This is such a heartbreaking story, but speaks to the many issues impacting whether or not girls can access education. It's about so much more than just education policy - we have to consider all of the other issues, such as abuse like Hilda suffered. Thank you for using World Pulse and your voice to shed light on this tragic issue.

Alison

antonia.h.'s picture

Such a sad story! It was

Such a sad story! It was really touching, and it clearly shows how these personal traumatic experiences can act as a barrier to education. It is not always formal factors that inhibit education. The story has saddened me, but I love how it impacted on you positively and made you study this in depth and start up an NGO oriented towards tackling sexual abuse and assisting victims. I wish you best of luck in your efforts!

Felevyn's picture

ENCOURAGEMENT

Dear all,
I believe it is our responsibility as mothers, sisters , wives and daughters to stand up and fight for the rights of women and girls all over the world. Thanks for the encouraging words. I hope to turn the wheel to spin and spin in the right direction
Luv u all
Felevyn

rozjean's picture

Dear Felevyn, The sad truth

Dear Felevyn,
The sad truth of your story is that girls and women all over the world are victims of rape by fathers, other family members and friends of family members. I wish you the best of luck with your NGO; you are a woman who is definitely making an inroad towards solving the problem of violence against women.
Warm wishes,
rozjean

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