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I have lived it, I have studied it, and I have worked it 2013 VOF Week 2

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Born into a family with traditional values and two blue-collar, hardworking parents, I grew up in a rural Midwestern small town. I have an older brother. We always had a cat or a dog as a family pet. I actually lived in the house with a white picket fence! I never planned for my life to turn out the way it has.

20 years ago, I was a broken-hearted, depressed, and divorced mom with four teenagers. I had no job, no income, no car, and was living in a house with a mortgage payment of $1000 per month. Despite the overwhelming odds stacked against me, I have worked my way through the dark days of trauma to living a joy- filled life! Motivated by my passion to prevent and/or eliminate not only domestic violence but all forms of violence, I earned a graduate degree while developing my career simultaneously.

I have accumulated a vast collection of various experiences in domestic violence through working closely with local, state, national and international agencies/NGOs with their concerns, issues, questions and problems related to domestic violence (and all forms of violence). My expertise culminates in a wealth of information and knowledge, along with skills and strategies, which I am willing and ready to share with the world.

I have lived it, I have studied it, and I have worked it! Domestic violence, that is….
• I survived a 17 year abusive marriage, and lived to tell about it.
• At the age of 52, I earned a Masters of Arts Interdisciplinary Studies degree studying gender, culture, and history. I intensively studied gender, culture and history in order to better understand the how and why of domestic violence.
• For the past 20 years, I have developed a career working in an empowerment theory based, community non-profit organization whose mission is to serve anyone affected by domestic violence.

This work has enabled me to meet the most wonderful and interesting people and to travel to the most wonderful and interesting locations: from Forks, WA (yes, the Twilight Saga Land!) to Vermillion, South Dakota, to Atlanta, GA, to Minsk in Belarus. I really have become a globe trotter! Everywhere I go, I find other women who have lived similar lives, have had similar experiences, and have similar aspirations. This motivates me to meet more people and see more geographical areas.

Entering World Pulse and the Voices of Our Future Citizen Journalist Program was so appealing! It creates a collaboration of my desire to combine my writing with my professional expertise and my personal passion to prevent, intervene, and eliminate all forms of violence against women in connection to the global world of women. All aspects of my life are synchronizing, all the stars are aligning, my intuition is vibrating, my voice is singing, and my body is dancing!

I am living my mission: Inspire others to live free of violence, with joy and out loud!

Inspire others to live free of violence, with joy and out loud!
World without Violence

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Sharontina's picture

Living your mission!

I am happy for you that you are living your mission. You have brought the picture of your entire life on to the screen. Now you are an inspiration to many pvaing your way to World Pulse, thats amazing.

Respect and love

Merlin Sharontina

Debra K Adams MA's picture

thank you

I wish the same for you!!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

I am glad to read and live through your post a life with hope passion strength and empowered women.
Thank your for sharing this
Ola

It is never too late to try make your way to your dream and left up your expectation.
Sudanes Women Building Peace
www.suwepmovement.org

Debra K Adams MA's picture

yes!

it has been quite the journey...when it began, I never thought I would be in the place of joy I am now in! thank you for your kind comments

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

Mukut's picture

Inspiring Debra!

Inspiring and beautiful.

Wish the women in my country, take a leaf from your life, and not suffer or denigrate themselves in an abusive relationship. It is never worth it.

You are a strong lady. Keep it up.

Love,

Mukut Ray

Debra K Adams MA's picture

humbled

I am humbled by your words...it has taken much time and much effort to get past the shame and suffering of being in a longterm abusive relationship,. Still today I can be triggered into a negative time and place very easily..if I can be an example of surviving and thriving, then I am happy to be so! thanks for your response

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

Aminah's picture

similar song

I am so glad to have come across you.
You sound like THE person I should be talking to.

Understanding about violence, the why of it - I understand a bit. But breaking the chain, letting go off the pain I struggle with.

I commend your strength.

Aminah

Salaam
Aminah

Debra K Adams MA's picture

contact me

Aminah, I love connecting with other survivors! please add me to your community and you can email me directly if you would like to do so. here is my email address: debrakadamsma@gmail.com
Let's talk about about getting free, I mean, truly free! thank you for your comments

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

patricia obima's picture

WOW:)

Hi Debora
You know your story of survival,triumph and victory from the rubbles of abuse means a complete resurrection.When you stayed strong even when the conditions were not favorable for the word strength to fit in?you did so unconsciously but it was for all women like me and all others who today read through the lines that defined your life back then and believe that we can all resurrect.

In that pain you carried each soul that is strengthened today by your victory and in coming out stronger today,you still came out with all of us.
Keep it alive

Peace and love
Patricia

Debra K Adams MA's picture

thank you Patricia

o my gosh! or omg! your comments are so lovely, it means so much for me that you expressed them to me.i am glad to know you, as well, and I wish you much peace and love in your live - you deserve it!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

Lortoria's picture

Strength

Hi Debra,

Thanks for sharing your story, you are truly an inspiration to women who have or are living with domestic violence. The way you have turned your life around, and the work you are engaged in shows strength and a great deal of faith. Your children are blessed to have such a wonderful role model. The greatest strength can be garnered in time of the greatest weakness, and you are living proof of that. Please continue to share.

Warms regards,

Lortoria

Lortoria McDonald

lortoria@gmail.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/illumaink
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Debra K Adams MA's picture

much thanks to you

thanks Lortoria, for your support. Finding the patience to follow my intuition to complete some of my goals is an ongoing challenge, for sure. My children were my motivation and if that means, I can be a good role model for them, I am truly blessed. I have heard from other survivors that writing is the way they healed from the violence, I agree. Writing it gives it visibility and concreteness, which in turn enables me to face it and move through it! Yes, i will continue and I encourage all women to continue, to the best of their abilities!!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

Adahmbah's picture

Great

your great and keep the fight
Adah

Debra K Adams MA's picture

appreciation

thank you for the encouragement!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

Tash's picture

Well done Debra!

Well done Debra!

Kind Regards,
Patsy.

Debra K Adams MA's picture

thank you Patricia

i am grateful for your comments

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

Saving Angel's picture

Congrats Debra!

First of all I want to say Congrats on succeeding throughout your very difficult journey! You are definitely an amazing woman who has been through alot but has come out on the other side shining!

Thank you for sharing your story with us all & please continue to share your knowledge with us here and wherever you go!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

Debra K Adams MA's picture

thank you!

you are very kind to say this - I appreciate your comments

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

What you have done is beyond inspiration. You have survived & created a new life & Im sure you have secured a better life for you children.Good to have you here & get to know your story. Keep it up

Yosra Akasha, Sudan

Debra K Adams MA's picture

thank You !

Yosra, I believe that is the power of this community - we can share our life stories and hopefully we inspire someone else, or at a minimum, give hope for the future...unfortunately, sometimes things do go as quickly as we like. I say hang on, keep working on your goals and dreams. If they don't come true exactly as you envision it first, be open to a knew and better version of your dream!! I am glad we have connected here, we live very close to each other compared to some of our new friends!!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

kirantara's picture

Debra, This piece hits all

Debra,

This piece hits all the right notes, and you are an inspiration to women of all ages. I commend you and wish you luck.

Kiran

Debra K Adams MA's picture

many thanks

I appreciate your support!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

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