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My Mentor: My Mom

Dear Mom,
Normally I make you a card every year on Mother’s Day with my horrible artistic skills, but this year I want to do something different. I’ve been given the opportunity to let the world know how much your strength and determination for a better life and your unending love and support has impacted me and helped turn me into the woman I am today. I commend you each day of my life for the many compromises, sacrifices and difficult decisions you had to make during your time here in Canada.

It has been 34 years since you came to this ‘foreign land,’ married dad and attempted to begin your new life in hopes of gaining a better future. On many occasions, you remind me of what you left behind in Guyana and what you had to go through; the fact that you used to sell in the market during the hot hours of the morning to make a few dollars and the fact that you had the opportunity to go to school for a short period of time. I could never begin to imagine how hard it was for you to make those very difficult decisions – but you made them, and you stayed strong and determined to turn this into a better life. After you got married you had kids and instead of going to work, you became a stay-at-home mom.
I’ve heard stories about how you were bullied while you used to walk Dee home from school, because we were the only “brown” family in our area. I’ve heard how the children and their parents would throw snow balls at you and tell you to “go back home”, yet not even then did you give up. When I was younger, I took everything for granted and I didn’t realise how much you had to sacrifice to buy me what I wanted. But as I got older, I started realising how much you did have to give up. You gave up your education, you gave up a ‘way of life,’ and more importantly, you gave up gratifying yourself to put a smile on our face. Mom, you never shopped for yourself. You’ve always made do with what you had, and you always remained content. Now I’m 22 and I’m exposed to so many atrocities that are happening against women worldwide, and it makes me think about how blessed I am to have you with me. Children grow up without mothers because their mothers have become victims of violence. They become orphans because their surviving parent chooses to have nothing to do with them, or they get forced into a life of violence and unending pain – they ultimately lack in feeling a mother’s true love.

Mom, you’ve always showered unending love onto me; you’ve always given me so much support and strength when I had to go through my share of struggles; and you always reminded me of how important it is to remain determined when we want to accomplish something. I can never forget the look on your face when I told you I want to start my own non-profit organization to help women who are victims of violence and children who are victims of bullying. I can never forget the look on your face when I told you I wanted to go to India with Aunty, to build homes for underprivileged children and families who have been victimized by violence and forced prostitution. I can never forget the look on your face when I graduated from University. They all had one thing in common – the look of love that was pouring out of your heart. I’m sure you were afraid, but you knew that if I was determined to do those things, there was no stopping me – more importantly, you stuck by my side in my decisions and gave me the support I needed as a woman to make those decisions.

There are no words to describe the ways in which you have helped me – all I can say is, I am the woman I am because of your love and support (ofcourse thanks to you as well Daddy!). My way of repaying you, will be to help as many women and children that I can possibly help in the world. I want to give every child the sense of love and support that you have given to me all these years. I want to give every woman the opportunity to make a better life for themselves the way that you gave me and Dee by coming to Canada. More importantly, I want to share with everyone all that you’ve shared with me – the gift to find their place in the world, because without you mom, I wouldn’t be here.

I love you always mom.

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Precious M's picture

Waoh!

Hi Saving Angel,

What a tribute to your mother! I am glad to know how much she sacrificed for you and how that inspired yo to be what you are now. Keep saving those angels. I love your work.

Precious from Cameroon

My pen speaks

Saving Angel's picture

Thank you so much!

Thank you so much for your kind words Precious! She is my inspiration and I hope I can be an inspiration for so many children and women as well, just as she has been for me and for all the other women whose heart she has touched.

Thank you also for your support & words of encouragement! I truly appreciate your sincerity.

Much respect & love xoxoxo

JaniceW's picture

I'm moved to tears

I imagine that as beautiful as your handmade gifts have been in the past, this will be the most precious. Not only is your gift of shouting out to the world how wonderful your mother is so inspiring, but just as powerful is the gift that she has given you of her love, support, devotion and courage. She has shown you what a strong woman looks like and what an inspiring mother looks like. You are now taking those gifts and sending them out to the world in your own unique way. With each ripple, more young women will receive and pass on those gifts.

Thank you for sharing this story of love and appreciation.

Saving Angel's picture

Thank you so much Janice!

Thank you so much Janice for sharing such kind, appreciative and encouraging words! My mom is definitely my inspiration and the gift of giving me the opportunity to find my place in this world has been the most important gift she has ever given to me. This very gift i hope to give to all those whose lives I can touch.

I also want to say thank you for taking the time to have read my post. I'm so glad that my mom's journey has touched your heart in this very deep and emotional way.

Much love & respect xoxoxo

turtledove100's picture

You are truly an inspiration!

Thanks so much for submitting your story Saving Angel. I believe that one of the most powerful forces in life is a strong positive role model and your mom definitely falls into that category!
What beautiful gifts she has passed onto you...the strength to keep on keeping on, even when times are so tough you don't know if you can; the determination to never quit, no matter what happens in life; and the compassion to help others and make the world a better place.
Thank you for sharing a part of yourself. Your mom is obviously an awesome woman and she has raised a daughter that the world is truly lucky to have!

"Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach" (Clarissa Pinkola Estes, author and poet)

Saving Angel's picture

Thank you so much Anais!

First of all I just want to say thank you for expressing such compassion and respect!! It means a lot to me that I have been able to share my mom's journey with the world and that she's been able to touch you all!
I totally agree with you on your first comment - it is essential that we have strong, positive and supportive role models in our lives. Those role models represent our foundations for a better future & without them we many at times fall prey to the difficulties in life.

Thank you once again & I look forward to connecting, communicating and collaborating with you!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

Greengirl's picture

God Bless you saving Angel

Your mum must be proud of you and the world is blessed to have you.

Thank you for sharing your heart touching eulogy about and to your mum.

I am proud of you too! Much love!

Greengirl

Saving Angel's picture

Thank you so much!

Thank you so much for your kind and loving words! I feel blessed to have been able to communicate with you and so many other amazing and inspirational women!

I'm glad that my mom's experiences can touch your heart in as many ways as she has touched mine! Thank you for your words of encouragement!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

Sharontina's picture

Tears

I am moved to tears too. This could be the perfect gift for the wonderful angel who brought you to this world.

Your words make me think about the love i have for my angel.

much love

Merlin Sharontina

Saving Angel's picture

Thank you!!

Thank you so much for your sweet and loving words Sharontina! My mom cried when I read this to her! I just couldn't wait until Mother's Day to read it to her! She is truly an Angel from above!

I hope we can connect, communicate & collaborate together so that we can save more Angels together!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

Debra K Adams MA's picture

Moms are awesome!

Your words paint an image so lovely, I want to be part of it... thank you. congratulations on your successes and for appreciating your MOM.

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi

Debra K. Adams, MA
See my vizify bio! https://www.vizify.com/debra-k-adams-ma-pdv-cws
Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS)
Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder

Saving Angel's picture

Thank you so much Debra!

Mom's are definitely awesome! Thank you for expressing such kind words!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

Diane Ezeji's picture

I had a strong picture in my

I had a strong picture in my mind of the children and their parents throwing snowballs at your mom and telling her to "go back home"! That brought tears to my eyes? Why are some people so unkind and scared of those "different" from themselves? When all is said and done though, what stands out is that this same unwanted "brown" mother produced a strong, dynamic woman: you! I wonder, in the future, what story your children will tell about you.

Diane Ezeji

Saving Angel's picture

Thank you Diane!

Diane, thank you so much for sharing such compassionate words! Many at times I wonder the same things, even till this day I ask myself why are people so unwilling to open their arms to people of different backgrounds and cultures. Why is it in this era of multiculturalism, are we shying away from joining hands with people from different nations.

When my dad first came to Canada, children and their parents of Caucasian decent used to scratch his car with their keys, call him 'Ref' and they used to tell him to go back to where he belonged.

Thank you so much for the compliment! I hope I can teach my children to have the kind of respect, love and openness that my mom has taught me to have!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

LisaXi's picture

Touching Celebration of Mom

What a touching celebration of your mother's sacrifices. She sounds like a truly selfless woman, who's raised a daughter that's ready to conquer the world.

Saving Angel's picture

Thank you!

Thank you for your kind words! Yes she is a selfless woman; I learnt how to become content, selfless and determined from her!

& yes I'm ready to conquer the world with all of you here on World Pulse! Together we shall rise & empower!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

loretta's picture

Wow! Wom!

I can't find the right words to say, this just brings back sad memories of my own and my mother's.

We are the testimony of their love and dedication. I just wish we further their aims and share what we have with our own and others out there.

Keep going don't give up!
Loretta.

Loretta.

A successful woman is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks others throw at her. Author Unkown.

Saving Angel's picture

"Further their aims"

Thank you so much Loretta! I definitely think we are the ones to further their aims! All of their hardwork will pay off through our work!

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

Lea's picture

Beautiful tribute!

This is a beautifully written essay, Saving Angel, about and dedicated to your mother.

I was moved by how appreciative you are of the support, love, and care that your Mom gave to you. She is without a doubt a courageous and tenacious woman who showed a tremendous of strength, especially when dealing with hostility from locals-What are those people teaching their children?-the difficulties of making a living in a new country, and sacrificing everything that you have to ensure the well-being and success of your children. She did an admirable job and should be proud of what she has accomplished. She has really taught you the meaning of respect and of compassion which has inspired you to become involved in women's rights and to create your own NGO.
Great job!

First of all, thank you so much Lea for reading my piece! My mom truly means the world to me! She has taught me so much about courage, faith and inner belief when I was a victim of bullying while in school.

You are totally correct - what are those parents teaching their kids? I question that myself all the time now especially when I see how much violence has been engrained within family lifestyles today. It scares me to think one day I will have kids of my own and they will be faced with these types of problems and more.

For me my mom embodies compassion and respect and I'm thankful that I have her in my life.

Thank you once again!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

I think the silent sacrifices that so many women make for their children often don't get the recognition that they deserve. So I was happy to see you acknowledge multiple ways that your mother put her children first: by not spending money on herself, by leaving the familiarities of Guyana behind for new opportunities in Canada, by becoming a stay at home mother, and so on. These choices in life take a great deal of courage and selflessness.

Do you have any photos of you and your mother that you'd be willing to share along with this tribute?

Thanks for sharing your story!

Erin

Saving Angel's picture

You're so right!

Erin you're so correct! Many at times we all forget to acknowledge and give thanks to our mothers who sacrifice so much for us; and sadly, the times that we remember all their hard work is when they're no longer with us. The choices she made have definitely taken so much courage and selflessness.

I do have photos of us together, and I would love to share one but my moms a bit shy LOL so when I told her I wrote about her on World Pulse she was so shocked! Maybe I'll try asking her again if she's okay with me putting a picture up!

Thank you again for reading my piece!

Much love & respect xoxoxo

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