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What a Transformation!

Nneka means Mother is supreme; it is amongst the wise saying of the wise people, of the Igbo speaking region of the Eastern part of Nigeria, they pointed out this out and it is absolutely true.

The dearth of mothers , may become the dearth of formal education of some girls in some homes. Just exactly like that of my young friend; Abosede. Unlike her peers she lost her mother, the source of her education's finance. She was thrown out of school, and became always withdrawn; though blessed with white set of teeth, she seldom flashes her teeth. Her ever cold mood attracted her to me. My bold disposition pushed me further into her and her mother’s spirit sealed the relationship.

Why are you always looking withdrawn and faraway? I asked.

I'm always sad when I see my mates going to school, want to go back to school, she responded.

Go back to school dear girl, every child deserves education was my response.

Not my father’s children, she spat out.

Why? I demanded to know.

My father said, even nursery school, I will not sponsor a child to attend.

What, what a father?

He said that our education ends with our mother’s death

I don’t understand what you are driving it...as I raised my eyebrow.

He said that our mother died with our education. She is our sponsor, and our education died the day our mother died.

At this point, I was shivering. How can? This is Lagos not the remotest part of Nigeria.

Take me to him, I need to meet this man and instill the value of education into his medulla oblongata.

It was a futile journey, the house is full with ten children from 2 wives, one dead one alive, the second wife is a hustler selling everything and anything to keep her four daughters and a son in government school. He is just floating in the world, he cannot regurgitate or digest the topic of a girl-child education. The topic of education is a sore to his tongue and bitterness to his soul. He could not gie what he does not have; that was his response.

If it is this hard for a blooming tree, how much more for a dry tree? Abosede is the only daughter of her mother and she has four other siblings, all boys, all drop outs and all living a dissatisfied life. What wasted potentials? Her mother was a roadside vendor before she met her untimely death.

The day I had the discussion with Abosede was the day I had my last sweet and sound sleep. Her face became a constant flash in the stream of my consciousness.

Worldpulse my worldpulse, I cannot take it any longer, I posted it online and a great sister that I met and connected with on Worldpulse, sister Jumoke Giwa sent an inbox message to me. "Olutosin, bring her to our office at Change-A –Life, we transform lives, one person at a time".

I grinned from molar to molar. Yes sure, you do, and together, we did it!.

Eversince there is a plastered grin on Abosede’s face, her life became permanently changed forever. Now she seats as one of our organization’s Board of Director. What a genuine transformation!. She is the only person in our Board who has time to attend every activity, arrives on time and contributes so intelligently that I wonder how powerful sadness is; sadness can eat joy, swallow it and digest it in minutes.

My Jumoke showed us that anything is possible, paid her exams fee and registers her for further studies, with a promise of University education if she performs excellently.

Hmn every child deserves education, it turns impossibilities to achievements.
Abosede became one of our 50 girls mentored by 20 great women scattered all over the goal in our Star of Hope mentorship programme, her mentor is a great artist Art by Mia.

Stretch the hand of hope to a dying dream of a girl child; that the girl-child may blossom.

This story was written for World Pulse’s Girls Transform the World Digital Action Campaign.

World Pulse believes that women's stories, recommendations, and collective rising leadership can—and will—bring girls greater access to education which will transform their lives, their families, and communities. The Girls Transform Campaign elicits insightful content from young women on the ground, strengthens their confidence as women, and ensures that influencers and powerful institutions hear their stories.
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KathyG's picture

What inspiration!

One child at a time! Thank you for such an inspirational story. I would love to learn more about the Star of Mentorship program. I know we have others online that have mentor programs. It would be wonderful to hear stories and compare notes about what is working, what difficulties there are, and how different organizations are trying to overcome them.

I love seeing the beautiful pictures. You brought a smile to my face this morning!

Kathy
World Pulse
Project Manager

olutosin's picture

Thanks for the comment....

I will continue to share our stories as we move on in the mentoring journey......Presently some of the hiccup that has not work fine is communication, there is no electricity in the village and I always have to pring the mentors letters in th eoffice, presently the ink is dry.... must be refilled :). Therefore we write the letters with pen and paper whenever mentors send their letters, in addition some mentors are busy, the mentees sometime wants to see their mentors. I think that is expected.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

aimeeknight's picture

You make me smile! "Take me

You make me smile! "Take me to him, I need to meet this man and instill the value of education into his medulla oblongata."
I am so glad that Abosede will be getting an education. Thank you for your determination!

"One shoe can change a life" ~ Cinderella

olutosin's picture

You always make us Laugh!!!!!

Thanks for all your support in time past and now and in the nearest future, always my love and admiration for you my dearest sister.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

Abisinuola's picture

This is such a great thing

This is such a great thing you have done!you have not only succeeded in changing a girl's life,you have also changed that of her posterity...generations to come will benefit from this.
Someone once said"educate a girl,educate the country"this you have done!nigeria thanks you

Abisinuola

olutosin's picture

True

Thanks so much...

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

Winziggle's picture

Fabulous!

Olutosin,

The strength and determination you show in "What a Transformation" is so empowering! You are an true angel to help your friend Abosede continue her education, despite her remaining parent's lack of care. His attitude is something that could have easily limited Abosede's life experience.

Thanks for sharing your story of empowerment and transformation!

:-) Catherine

Beautiful words make for a beautiful soul.

I appreciate your encouraging words. Thanks.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

Stacey Rozen's picture

Courageous

Olutosin, what a courageous story.
I admire your determination to help achieve the potential of this young woman despite the walls built by her dad. Thanks for sharing.

Creatively,
Stacey

olutosin's picture

Thank you so much.

I appreciate your comment.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

cal1086's picture

Inspiring Strength

Strength is infectious and courageousness permeates your community! Many blessings to your friend, Abosede for her boldness and sharing her story with you; to you for recognizing, addressing, and sharing her challenges; and to sister Jumoke Giwa for lending her support to help Abosede grow and succeed!

This is what community is all about.

Best of luck to all of you!

-Cal

Simi Goshwe's picture

Weldone...

What a great read my dear...
You really did well to visit the girls father and to with stand all the challenges you must have passed through and all the resistance and you succeed in bringing the girl out of home... today a wonderful Director she has become... Very punctual is what i like best in the transformation you did on her...Discipline it is. keep it up dear...

olutosin's picture

Thanks....

I appreciate your comment.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

Y's picture

I LOVE your sense of humor.

I LOVE your sense of humor. "Medulla oblongata" made me laugh out loud.

I often wonder why the rules of having several wives to bear many children don't include the ability to finance the needs of the family. It would seem that even if a father is producing a large family to take care of his own needs, he would realize that educating them will give them more ways to fill his own coffers. One of my favorite ways to "trick" people into doing the right thing is to point out to them what's in it for them. We call it enlightened self-interest.

Yvette

Enlightened self interest...we call it Sexy in kanthari-India. A kind of win-win situation for a funding organization.

Give me more lesson ma. I am always ready to learn.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

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