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desperate housewives?

I am crazy about the serial "Desperate Housewives" i do not know what season is running now, however, i get to watch cd's of it. As much as i am crazy about the characters like Susan who i identify with, i have to admit that they are not desperate in any way.All they get to do is live in fancy houses and have a ball. To get a feel of how desperate housewives can be, one should visit a typical Nigerian house hold, where the wife is doing her utmost best to please her husband and the uncountable in-law's who feel it is their right to visit or even stay at will.

If she is lucky to have a husband who appreciates her efforts, her good-luck rarely extends to her being appreciated by people like her mother-in-law or brothers/sisters in-law and woe betide her if she complains, she will be quickly hushed by her friends who would inform her that she is really lucky that her husband has not brought a new wife or is not sleeping with the maid.

if being desperate is all about living like the fictitious characters of Wisteria Lane then bring it on.

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Fatima Waziri's picture

Efe, Your entry is very funny

Efe,
Your entry is very funny i must say, it brought smiles to my face just visualizing the women of wisteria lane and a typical Nigerian woman is incomparable. At least the Wisteria lane husbands tend to assist their wives in household chores, cooking and all. They listen to their wives and dialogue with them. In Nigeria on the other hand, women are to be seen and not heard, they are the slaves in their homes and they are treated like zombies. Treat your in laws well and your marriage will last long. Thank God with our generation, things are changing.

Peace!
Fatima

LOGWELL's picture

desparate housewives

EFE,

We share the same passion for the Wisteria Lane, you Nigeria situation is not different from Kenya either...what really saddens me about the whole scenario is when out peers paly on our fears of being single and make us stay in our bad (sometimes dangerous) marriages instead of being supportive and helping them out of a bad situation! i enjoyed the journal entry...satirical way of looking ata serious issues!!

It continues to amaze me how people can see - sometimes, only what they are perhaps looking for.

In the West - where the film Desperate Housewives is made, and from which social millieu its takes its themes and mores, there is an ongoing feminist protest about the very cunning, but nevertheless very obvious manner in which that film seeks to undermine Women's Rights gains.

For example, should you but think further about it, you will notice a repeated theme, as worked out via the various "funny," "exciting" "sexy" and "ultra-modern" plot-lines, that purports the following: the writer will allow the Women Actors (i.e, whether as wives, mothers or girlfriends) to have their full "little" say about issues like their right to abortion, or their right to return to the workplace during or after the children are born, or even their right to postpone a sexual relationship until they are more certain of their partner's commitment to them and the relationship. In this manner, the Show manipulates viewer-opinion that it is Politically Correct, Humanitarian and Egalitarian. Nothing could be farther from the the Truth!

For, as I can myself recall from countless plot-lines of this film, despite the Women Actors "appearing" to vocalise all of the QUITE TRUTHFUL, LOGICAL AND RIGHTFUL CLAIMS TO CONTROLLING THEIR OWN LIVES AND BODIES WITHIN AND OUTSIDE OF THE DOMESTIC SPHERE...it ALWAYS ends up being the case, that the MALE-ACTORS get their way in the end! In effect: making all that the "little" Women would have said so Bravely, or so Poignantly, or so FIrmly ....appear merely to be MEAN-SPIRITED, SELFISH, WEAK, FOOLISH, WRONG-HEADED, NON-FACTUAL...and as such, NOT VIABLE ARGUMENTS FOR WOMEN TO HAVE MADE IN THE FIRST PLACE. Now - tell me, ladies: how long do you think such a Cognitive Leap will take to morph from FILM to REAL LIFE?

In other words, the themes and plot-lines of films as created by Scriptwriter Mark Cherry for his Desperate Housewives show - as is EXACTLY the case with Fellow Producer-colleague Jerry Bruckheimer of "CSI" fame, have been DELIBERATELY CREATED BY THESE MEN, to form part of Male-deployed MISOGYNISTIC AGENDA IN HOLLYWOOD. Hollywood being the IDEOLOGICAL WEAPON-OF-CHOICE, by dint of the GLOBAL SCOPE OF ITS CULTURE-IMPACTING OUTREACH to - through the SEEMINGLY INNOCENT "ENTERTAINMENT" MEDIUM of POPULAR TELEVISION DRAMAS, UNDERMINE THESE SAME - VERY REAL, VERY VIABLE - CONCERNS THAT WOMEN VOICE IN REAL LIFE.

A very cunning, and obviously well-thought out Male-Strategy for subversively courting REAL-LIFE VIEWER CONCURRENCE WITH THEIR OWN MISOGNYISTIC PERSPECTIVES, through allowing these FALSE, DANGEROUS AND RIGHTS-DIMINISHING MALE PERSPECTIVES to be innocuously but COGNITIVELY fed into WOMEN-VIEWERS MINDSET, under THE GUISE OF "HARMLESS ENTERTAINMENT."

For make no mistake, in much the same manner that a Woman-Viewer will - despite the pulls of her personal experience or natural instinct, come to accept some rarified plot-devolution under which, for example: the Eva Longhoria character on the show finally decides - due to her Husband's taunting, sulking and pathetic pleas, to have a baby - even after spending many agonised episodes declaring her own - QUITE RIGHT AND PERSONALLY VIABLE REASONS not to have the baby, so TOO will these Women-Viewers COME TO EXPECT THE SAME TYPE OF INEVITABLE, MALE-ERODED RIGHTS-CAPITULATION FROM WOMEN FACING A SIMILAR DECISION IN REAL LIFE.

Hence, my warning to women around the Globe, who are perhaps just so thrilled at "seeing" a part of their own mundane lives, no matter how far-flung their countries might be, being portrayed thrillingly or glamourously, or titillatingly within Desperate Houswives plot-lines, is this: next time you watch an episode of this Show, really LOOK AT - and not just placidly or gullibly "BE SHOWN" - what is REALLY being professed about WOMEN IN THIS SHOW - and by extension, IN REAL LIFE.

Don't just "see" the things that make you laugh, or thrill you, or excite you, or make you want to share them next day to your neighbour. Look instead for WHAT Women are ESSENTIALLY MADE TO BE in the Show. Look, therefore for: WOMEN-AS MARRIED-PROSTITUTES (i.e., when Eva was cast in the circumstance of needing money, and her character slept with her husband to get cash...a "trick" which the husband - naturally, was aware of, and had himself bet that she would succumb. Nice, eh?). This type of sordidness was no film-plot accident: this was the CALCULATED RE-CASTING OF WOMEN'S MORALITY AS NATURALLY WHORISH. Similarly, look for MOTHERS-AS-NATURALLY-EVIL (i.e., like when Dixie Carter was cast in the role of a such a Diabolical Monster, that her own Son - evil as he was himself, was by contrast made to look Just and Right even when he was suspected of killing her). That was no film-plot accident: that was the CUNNING PRESENTATION OF A VIABLE CASE FOR MATRICIDE.

But LOOK...most of all, for this SURREAL, WEIRD, AND CHILLING FACT: i.e., that ALL of the MEN ACTORS DEPICTED IN "DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES" - whether YOUNG or OLD, ARE ....ALWAYS.....CAST SOMEHOW TO HAVE A VERY GOOD - EVEN NOBLE, REASON FOR THEIR ACTS OF BRUTAL MURDER! ...FOR THEIR LUSTFUL ADULTERY!....FOR...IN FACT, ANY AND EVERY ANCIENT AND CONTEMPORARY ARROGANTLY COMMITTED MALE-SIN THAT - OTHERWISE WITHIN REAL LIFE, WOULD BE CENSURED BY MORAL, RATIONAL HUMAN BEINGS WITHIN SOCIETY, AND UNDER LAW. But NEVER - it appears, through sheer scriptwriter-cunning and relentless male-strategy, in THE HIDDEN "MAN'S WORLD" THAT IS - REALLY AND TRULY - THE WISTERIA LANE WITHIN WHICH MARK CHERRY'S "IDEA" AND "IDEAL" OF WOMEN LEAD THEIR DOGS/DOLLS LIVES!

And THAT is not "CINEMATIC MAGIC," that is merely MALE-SCRIPTWRITER, MR. MARK CHERRY'S VERY FINE HAND IN PSYCHOLOGICAL MANIPULATION AT THE "ENTERTAINMENT" LEVEL, ALL IN THE HOPES OF INTRODUCING A PHILOSOPHICALLY CHANGED-MINDSET - BY WOMEN ESPECIALLY, AT THE REAL-LIFE, SOCIAL AND LEGAL LEVELS, WARPED INTO BELIEVING THAT WHAT OBTAINS ON-SCREEN FOR WOMEN'S RIGHTS AS HUMAN BEINGS, WIVES, MOTHERS, ETC., SHOULD OBTAIN SIMILARLY IN REAL LIFE.

If you LOOK, you are bound to see this STARK TRUTH REVEALED during your nightly dosages of toxic "entertainment"

olakitike's picture

Desperate

Hi,world citizen. I watch desperate housewives. Could you support your argument with actual references to the t.v series? please try and refer to actual event and maybe the characterization of the women? And for instance, show that the show doesn't rationalize Gabrielle's equally adulterous character?And show that the male character's are not sometimes depicted as gullible or stupid too? Cheers

World Citizen's picture

Hi, Olakitike; While I would

Hi, Olakitike;

While I would love to be able to list scene, dialogue and costume for you....I really can't. Primarily because I have stopped watching the show for quite some years now, based on the repeatedly-validated misogynistic agenda I discerned from those episodes viewed.

Olakitike, know what? I don’t even care to, neither do I feel the need to substantiate my voiced-opinion with recollections of pertinent episodes of Desperate Housewives. For you know – as I certainly do, that if you are a person who happens to be a blissfully die-hard fan of the series, all of the hard, incontrovertivble evidence in the world of that show's misogynistic bias won’t stop you from gleefully drawing up a chair to watch. As the old-but-true adage goes: “A person convinced against their will, remains entirely of the same opinion.” And that, Olakitike, is also entirely your prerogative so to be.

Mine, on the other hand, is and will continue to be to watch shows like these, but with some other intellectual impetus apart from merely the desire to be arbitrarily entertained. And in so doing, to continue to gauge any misogynistic sub-text or undercurrents that are there, if only for those who have eyes to see it.

So, M'dear: if you really want to “see” more than just "fun-fun-fun" in your favourite show…you’ll just have to watch for it! With eyes – and mind, a bit more wide open this time.

Now, that takes care of my own opinion, but in the equaminious spirit of the Wordl Pulse ethos, allow me to point you to other persons who have long reached the same conclusion as I have:-

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Excerpted from Website: http://teeveepedia.teevee.net/index.php/Desperate_Housewives

From TeeVeePedia, the Internet TV Encyclopedia.

The cornerstone of ABC's new "What the Hell Do You Broads Want Anyway?" programming strategy, the dramedy premiered to critical acclaim in fall 2004, then sank into a moronic, misogynistic morass by January 2005.

Desperate Housewives features such nuanced and well-rounded characters as:

• The Ditz. (played by Teri Hatcher)
• The Martha Stewart/Stepford Wife (played by Marcia Cross)
• The Trophy Wife (played by Eva Longoria)
• The Careerist Who Is A Lousy Mom Because She Loves Her Job More (played by Felicity Huffman)
• The Man-Eating Hussy (played by Nicolette Sheridan)

The theme song of Desperate Housweives is Be My Lady.

rahma's picture

my desperate

halo Efe...
i like your entry..make me laugh!
well, talking about desperate housewives, my close friend is always giving me that name, especially when i am going to some place, shopping by my self or looking a couple walking hand in hand. sometime i just move on from it, but sometime it hurt me, hahahah...
i don't know exactly..what kind of desperate is.

but..by LOVING OUR SELF actually we are not desperate at all

rahma

olakitike's picture

No blacks in Wisteria?

Abi, my sister. The show is quite funny. I must agree with you that I don''t see as much desperation as i see around here. The show is in it's fifth season. Though I have watched up to just season four. What I would like to know is why there are virtually no black people featured in the series. I think in season 1 or two, the applewhites were introduced and then they disappear again. I wonder. . . who knows maybe they've introduced some African American characters now?

efe's picture

the black thing

i never thought about it but now you mention it, i think it will really spice things up.cause ' da sisters' can really get the groove on.

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