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L'mour ou la mort?

Bonjour
Je vous raconte comment une jeune fille a perdu son vagin dans une aventure d'amour.
Dans le village de Ilundu en territoire de Fizi,un garçon accompagné de ses trois amis étaient partis fiancer une fille de 16ans a Kalingi.Comme dans la culture le mariage par rapt est autorisé,les quatre garçons prirent la fille de nuit et s'en allèrent avec elle.En cours de route ,comme d'habitude,tous les quatre devaient coucher avec la fille.Ce qui fut fait a la grande satisfaction des trois accompagnateurs .Toute la nuit la fille venait de coucher avec quatre hommes sans discuter ni crier au risque de perdre le mariage.Elle était encore vierge.Quelle peine?
Le matin ,le vrai époux a récupéré sa femme dans sa maison.A sa grande surprise,il constaté que la femme urinait au lit et même a l’extérieur devant les visiteurs.
La consultation médicale faite a l’hôpital de Minembwe avait prouvé que la fille venait de connaitre une déchirure.C'est un cas de fistil qui doit être soigne a Bukavu.Comme le jeun homme avait constaté que la fille était malade et que c'est bien lui et ses trois amis qui l'avaient déchirée,il prit fuite laissant la fille entre les mains des infirmiers qui l'ont a l’Hôpital de panzi pour suivre des soins appropriés.
Dans la culture ,deux ou trois garçons peuvent coucher avec une seule fille ,ce n'est pas grave...
Dans ce contexte ,peut-on parler de l'amour ou bien la mort?
Notre lutte continue dans la vulgarisation des lois contre les violences sexuelles de forme culturelles car nous visons le changement des mentalités....
nos cultures encouragent beaucoup de mauvaises pratiques contre la femme il faut avoir le courage de l'affronter
Brigitte.

English translation by community member LightMyWay

Love or Death?

Hello. I’m going to tell you how a young woman lost her vagina in an adventure of love. In the village of Ilundu, in Fizi territory, a boy left to get engaged to a 16-year-old girl in Kalingi, accompanied by three of his friends. As our culture allows marriage by kidnapping, the four boys took the girl in the night and left with her. On the way, as usual, all four boys slept with the girl, which greatly satisfied the three companions. All night the four men raped the girl, who didn’t talk or shout out for fear of losing the marriage. She was still a virgin. Imagine the pain.

In the morning, the actual husband found his wife in his home. To his great surprise, he noticed that the woman was urinating in the bed and even outside in front of visitors. The medical consultation at the Minembwe Hospital proved that the girl had undergone a tear. It was a fistula case that had to be treated in Bukavu. Since the young man had realized the girl was unwell and that her injury was the fault of him and his friends, he fled, leaving the girl alone at the hospital in Panzi with only the nurses to care for her.

In this culture, two or three boys can sleep with a single girl, it’s no big deal…In this context, would you call it love or death?

Our fight continues for the spread of laws against sexual violence that is supported and accepted by culture, because we see the change in mentalities.

Our culture encourages a lot of terrible practices against women; we must have the courage to confront it.

Brigitte

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Merci

Ma chère Brigitte,

Quand j’imagine la peur et la peine de cette jeune fille, je frémis. Et quand je pense à ces 4 hommes qui se sont échappés sans conséquence, je veux crier. Mon cœur brise quand je pense à toutes les femmes comme elle qui souffrent toute seule à l’hôpital de Bukavu, victimes de la violence contre les femmes qui est soulignée par les mœurs culturelles. Mais comment interrompre ces pratiques acceptées et les remplacer d’une nouvelle culture qui est plus juste, plus sûre, et moins douloureuse ? Avez-vous personnellement connu des réussites dans la lutte pour les lois contre la violence sexuelle ? Est-ce que les lois sont respectées même quand elles sont établies par le gouvernement ?

Merci d’avoir écrit ce passage ; on en attend d’autres. On vous écoute.

Cordialement,
LightMyWay
(Lydia)

Hello. I’m going to tell you how a young woman lost her vagina in an adventure of love. In the village of Ilundu, in Fizi territory, a boy left to get engaged to a 16-year-old girl in Kalingi, accompanied by three of his friends. As our culture allows marriage by kidnapping, the four boys took the girl in the night and left with her. On the way, as usual, all four boys slept with the girl, which greatly satisfied the three companions. All night the four men raped the girl, who didn’t talk or shout out for fear of losing the marriage. She was still a virgin. Imagine the pain.

In the morning, the actual husband found his wife in his home. To his great surprise, he noticed that the woman was urinating in the bed and even outside in front of visitors. The medical consultation at the Minembwe Hospital proved that the girl had undergone a tear. It was a fistula case that had to be treated in Bukavu. Since the young man had realized the girl was unwell and that her injury was the fault of him and his friends, he fled, leaving the girl alone at the hospital in Panzi with only the nurses to care for her.

In this culture, two or three boys can sleep with a single girl, it’s no big deal…In this context, would you call it love or death?

Our fight continues for the spread of laws against sexual violence that is supported and accepted by culture, because we see the change in mentalities.

Our culture encourages a lot of terrible practices against women; we must have the courage to confront it.

Brigitte

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