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Self defense training for girls and women

One in three women in the world will be raped or beaten in her lifetime according to the United Nations. It is happening everywhere and affecting one in three families in average, yet so little is done to stop it. Most of victim in such cases remain silent, only few dare to go to police or seek for justice. Sexual assault and coercion affects the self-esteem and dignity of a girl/woman, it degrades not only the physical state but also mental health of the victim.

Every child and woman has right to live free of fear of violence and threat of violence, Therefore, it would be worthy that every mother and woman should talk about the self defense techniques with their children and friends or send them to self defense training classes if available.

In Nepal, there is not a single institute/organization that teaches self defense, so our organization (Women Empowerment Nepal) has designed course for the same with help of Tekwando and Ushu instructors and soon we will be offering training classes for girls and women. As we are in the initial phase of this type of training, we anticipate productive suggestions from all of you.

Thank you.

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Wendyiscalm's picture

An essential step - I applaud you

Hello Rashmila,

I am so excited about the self-defense training you are stirring up for females. This is an ESSENTIAL step. What is going on in your country and others requires multi strategies and I am so excited about this step you are taking because IT IS DO-ABLE. It can happen. It makes sense. It will make a difference.

Please keep us posted. Please keep it going and growing, and never, never give up.

Love and Ubuntu(I am who I am because of who we are together),

Wendy

P.S. I had sort of forgotten BUT in America, women began taking self-defense lessons about 20 years ago or so. Now that I think about it, it HAS made a difference for the better, in outcome and self-esteem. Keep it coming baby !

What sort of suggestions are you looking for? I ask so I can put on my "thinking" cap and maybe think of something too that will help.

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Rashmila Prajapati's picture

Wow Wendy...thank you

Hi Wendy, thank you for reading and responding, so excited to get your response.

We are definitely trying to get notably visible changes through self defense trainings to girls and women. It will take bit time to convince parents and teachers to send girls in these trainings, and we are confident about their support.

In February, we have scheduled TOT and from March at least six trainings per month...... I'll post every progress in this line.

Dear Wendy, we are seeking for any suggestions regarding training as useful tips, techniques or taking these trainings to mass level etc.

With regards and love
Rashmila

Kathmandu, Nepal

Wendyiscalm's picture

Thanks for the idea

Hi Rashmila,

Thanks for YOUR quick response. You sound excited and that is good. In America we keep our computers with us most of the time and so check them often. Sometimes we miss the beauty of nature or a soul passing by but that is the way it is here. Haha.

I will be thinking. You know, if you read any of my journals, you will see that I am a big advocate of changing one's thinking in addition to any change. I have a small NGO non-profit organization called I AM ONE IN A MILLION. I help street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone Zambia. In fact, I am there often because I believe you have to BE PRESENT. It is hard enough for us educated people to break habits. When a person has no one to help them, they have no reference point or the standard is so low, it just doesn't sustain. Anyhow, you have given me the GREAT idea of self-defense. I am going to start working on spreading the word. The problem is, there aren't people in this developing country who will help each other or even who know what self-defense means. Maybe in the future we can have some volunteers from America go to Livingstone Zambia to teach the girls a simple version of this. We have the same rape and submissive problems you do., The good part is that you also have people like you who are intelligent, organized, can monitor, teach, get it right, etc. So, you are lucky.

I do not know any self-defense moves at all. I'm Italian. WE YELL ALOT !!!!!! Haha.
But I do know ways to defuse emotionality. I am a firm believer that that is part of calming someone down that may apply here. And I do know that the way we think and present ourselves influences the way people treat us. Now I have to put my thinking cap on and figure out how this applies in your situation.

I love what you do for work. I used to be a television weather girl in New York State and was on a panel quiz show before I got married. You have a little boy. How lovely. How lucky you are. AND a HELPING husband. Now there's a blessing for you. Haha.

Please keep in touch. I'll be thinking. And you may want to check out my website I AM ONE IN A MILLION. We are updating it so it is somewhat of a mess, but we have it where people can still go on. The different buttons show different things about us.

Ubuntu (I am who I am because of who we are together),

Wendy

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Mukut's picture

Great work

Rashmila,

Wow! Congratulations to you and your team for taking this step. It is the need of the hour.

If you ask me, i can suggest that you can tell the girls to carry "pepper spray" bottles with them. ( though i am not sure whether it would be actually feasible always or whether it will be available).

Also being alert and not fiddling or talking on the phone, while on streets alone, can help us to be more attentive to our surroundings. It was reported in a survey, that the girls who appear to be distracted with something, tend to get attacked more.

Please tell the girls to always walk with her head up and looking straight. Basically appearing confident is the key. It always help.

You can also ask the Taekwondo and Ushu instructors to teach the girls some easy and basic moves which would render the attacker unconscious immediately. Maybe a kick or a hit somewhere that would leave them either in extreme pain or unconscious them .

Hope the above helps. Carry on the great work.

Much love,

Mukut Ray

Rashmila Prajapati's picture

Thank you Mukut

Dear Mukut,

Thank you so much for your suggestions, they are quite good ones and helpful.

Our self defense training is more based on practical tactics than theory, full of martial arts moves.... the instructors are working to make these moves easy so that any girl or woman can easily learn them.

Once again hearty thanks for the words of encouragement.

With love

Rashmila

Kathmandu, Nepal

Wendyiscalm's picture

P.S.

Rashimila,

I like your thinking. I believe you are on the right path by keeping everything SIMPLE and by not overwhelming them. A little at a time that is sustainable. We have an expression here. K.I.S.S. That means keep it simple stupid. Nothing personal.

Ubuntu,

Wendy

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Wendyiscalm's picture

Mukut, Those are some good

Mukut,

Those are some good tips you give.

Wendy Stebbins

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Greengirl's picture

Hi Rashmila

It's great that you are pioneering such an effort through your organization. I'll keep my hears close to the ground so I'll miss out on your updates as events unfolds. The world certainly needs a model that will work for the good of every woman and girl.

Thank you so much for sharing, and all the best!

Greengirl

Rashmila Prajapati's picture

Thank you

Dear Greengirl,

Thank you for your response. In 1996, I joined late night fm station as presenter, I used to walk all the way from my home to fm office (about 30 minutes) around 8 -9 pm, I never feared of anything nor heard of any bad incidents. But now even around 6 -7 pm, I have to think twice to walk alone on streets of Kathmandu. Just because I am woman/girl, I have to live with fear, this is totally nonsense. So dear, through our organization, we are trying to make neighborhood safer for girls and women.

With regards
Rashmila

Kathmandu, Nepal

Mukut's picture

Thank you

Thank you Rashmila and Wendy. You guys are great!! We need more women like you.

Much love,

Mukut Ray

JaniceW's picture

Some resources and tips

Hi Rashmila,

I applaud you for taking on this challenge in a thoughtful way. Self-defense is not only physical but can also be in the form of taking preventative measures to prevent a crime from happening in the first place. I have included some links below which have some very useful information that you might want to share with the participants – materials that perhaps you can print out for them so that they can read it in their own time. The resources all speak about an attack occurring in the U.S. and so you will want to edit the materials to suit the context in Nepal. I hope they are of help to you.

Hardik subhakamana,
Janice

http://www.datehookup.com/content-a-free-guide-to-womens-self-defense-an...

http://www.aware.org/selfdefense.shtml

http://www.womenonguard.com/safety_tips.htm

http://survivalcache.com/female-self-defense-situational-awareness/

http://www.wthr.com/story/19530772/self-defense-advice-for-women

Rashmila Prajapati's picture

Thank you Janice

Dear Janice,

Thank you so much for your response and your suggestions. The links you have given are sea of resources, they are really helpful.

And dear Janice, how come you know Nepali words, have you been to Nepal ?

Hardik Dhanyabad!

Rashmila

Kathmandu, Nepal

JaniceW's picture

Dhanybhad

Namaste Rashmila. I have many PulseWire friends from Nepal and they have been kind enough to teach me some words. Perhaps I can learn some from you too.

I wish you all the best in your work and please do let us know how your classes go. All the very best.

Hajur ko din ramro hos,
Janice

Wendyiscalm's picture

We are all proud of you

Dear Rashmila,

You know we are all so proud of what you did and are doing. You take the term "role model" to a whole new level.

Ubuntu (I am who I am because of who we are together),

Wendy

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Hi all,

last year 2013 was a real breakthrough for me and my team of Women Empowerment Nepal. We found a wonderful lady, self-defense instructor from Switzerland Ms. Edessa Ramos around March 2013. We did series of self defense workshops and training here in Nepal with Edessa. We are also taking TOT, training of trainers, from Edessa and her husband Robert Alexander. I really love to share some of photos of self defense but could not load here.

Besides, WEN, Women Empowerment Nepal is running Legal Literacy campaign, Increasing digital access to women, providing education scholarships to needy students and also supporting some of mentally retarded children. It's really great to share all these to you people.

To mark the International Women's Day, WEN is organizing an event "Voices of Women" on March 8, 2014 Saturday at Basantapur, Kathmandu, Nepal. The event comprises concert of renown Nepali female singers, cultural dances, food festival, art exhibition on women achievements, stalls from women entrepreneurs and women organization etc. We are really excited for the event and hope the event will be grand as we planned.

With Regards
Rashmila Prajapati
Kathmandu, Nepal

Kathmandu, Nepal

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