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A Body of Her Own

'I see my body as an instrument, rather than an ornament'.

I can recall very well my father's anxiety with the incidents of rape and harassment reported almost daily in the morning newspaper. It crippled me-- the thought of being an 'extra' responsibility.

There are countless incidents and occasions which made me feel to be trapped in my body and as a part of growing up (and as a strategy of survival with self-respect) I learnt the art of bending the body in the right angle to pass by an 'inappropriate touch' or counter a groping hand and retaliate by equal and opposite reaction. Sanjay Srivastava (2004) in 'Sexual Sites, Seminal attitudes: Sexualities, Masculinities and Culture in South Asia' records that the exploration of sexuality for boys begins with 'touching' or 'pushing' women in crowded places often in an aggressive manner and they don't consider these activities as 'offensive' or 'indecent' rather a large proportion of them overwhelmingly views these actions as a part of 'normal male behaviour' as they find no resistance from girls and presume that women might 'approve' or 'like' such advances. While on the other hand girls were much bothered and depressed by the act of 'being touched improperly' but confessed that they did not protest fearing social stigma, because, it could risk their reputation by drawing public attention to their bodies (216-217).

There are specifically two categories in which sexuality can be located: Pleasure and Pain/Danger. Where pleasure is solely the men’s domain as they are given a free hand, women are deemed to possess dangerous elements which can thwart the social order. Thus women's bodies become the source of threat and so, they are supposed to endure pain/slight/abuse to preserve the 'repressed veil of composure', maintained by Indian customs and the remedy is to convert women's sexuality into the image of a benevolent wife and a nurturing mother -subdued, curbed and curtailed. A woman's body, to herself, is an 'alien country' which should be explored by the rightful owner, i.e., husband. She should have no knowledge about her bodily functions before marriage, otherwise she is a 'whore' or 'used' by other men. There was a time when women were married in childhood (which is still in practice inspite of being outlawed) and after puberty immediately transferred to marital homes to initiate the process of 'learning' about their bodies and motherhood by an insensitive husband. Are not these marital rapes?

A high amount of prestige is attached to a woman's virginity and so the character of a rape victim is easily assailed. Her 'polluted' body stands as a contrast to the 'ideal chaste maiden' and crimes committed by violators are belittled. So, patriarchal society dictate terms, norms and codes to secure the cloistered integrity and 'honour' of women's bodies by laying down local laws regulating clothing, behaviour (to determine whether it is moral or unladylike), and even restricting the use of mobile phones (which connect women with outer world)!! Perpetrators are hardly cautioned by issuing 'diktats' regarding whistling, taunting, teasing or raping. So it is not unusual when molested women are driven towards suicide, reflecting the systematic social apathy and a rotten moral structure (where such ordeals are the order of the day). The psychological agony of being a girl child is concretely manifested in physical and mental bruises through maltreatment, discrimination, dowry, bride-burning which continue through the changing roles of women as daughter, mother, wife, sister (but she hardly gets a chance and autonomy to be herself). Thus women are largely portrayed as foolish, emotional, body-bound, chocolate like creatures either to be melted under social dogmas or fit to be groped and harassed.


1) Socialization of women by turning them into meek and mute sufferers or spectators (where self-blame rules the roost) even though they cannot travel in public transport without being groped once in a day. It also draws a binary between two types of women:
Good Indian housewife material who does not raise a voice and remain silent observer while active and vocal women are termed as 'uncontrollable', prone to immorality, 'inviting harassment' and 'western'.

2) Indian patriarchal society has divided men further into two categories: Perpetrators and Protectors. There is almost no space for equal standing, amity and friendship --dominant norm is either submission or enmity between the two groups oppressed and oppressor.

3) In a country like India a woman who is focused on the topic of gender, sexuality and sex education is readily assumed as a sexually available 'bitch', a coquette or a 'man-hating' mad feminist (as if feminism is a slur and poses innumerable disadvantages to the predominant 'male culture' giving a a blow to indigenous 'head of the family system')! Though none protests as the female counterpart bears the brunt in silence and plight drowned in daily derogation. They are mocked as 'privileged' section for having 'reserved' compartments or seats inscribed with the red letters as 'ladies' (where men are barred) by completely overlooking the reason behind such systems. It stupefies and petrifies me.

4) Active protests with posters and postcards, glaring pictures and outspoken words soon become history or an 'oblivious memory'.

5) Women are burdens in terms of economic independence, religious doctrines, physical might.

6)Though with the growing number of educated women the binary (that a woman’s place is 'inside home and around hearth', burdened with naturally ordained reproductive responsibilities, without any agency or authority, while a man has exclusive right to enjoy and occupy the public space) is being rapidly deconstructed, the inherent patriarchal traditions reign supreme.

7)The continuous juxtaposition of opposite qualities as 'assertive and submissive', 'active and passive', 'powerful and helpless' affects both genders by sustaining stereotypes.


1) Intensive gender-sensitization in schools from childhood and expert counselling and campaigning by media and national, international and social organizations to remove gender disparity within families and inculcate the sense of social responsibility.

2) Increased police protection in public places and implementing gender-sensitive laws

3) At the same time there is a need to check the 'moral corruption' of such authorities as police department is often thought to be indulging in and directly/indirectly boosting such crimes.

4) Understanding the basic assumption that no victim is morally wrong or a criminal cannot be excused by citing 'moral laxity' of the victim.

5) Empowering Women for equal participation in decision-making both in public and private spheres.

6) Raising awareness about the right to equality and safety under the eyes of law as provided by particular provisions and breaking the personal barrier of shame by encouraging girls to say 'No' to everyday ritual of harassment.

7) Denying gender-specific 'favours' and educating boys as compatriots instead of bosses or masters.None is weak or slave of other's 'lustful desire'.

8) Scrutinizing regressive customs and encouraging free-thinking through debates and dialogue.

9) Accepting women as human beings, women as a whole--- accepting her body and mind, sexuality and sensibility, reason and agitation, intellect and emotion as natural strengths of character rather than ingrained weaknesses.

10) Most importantly, it is needed to respect and treat oneself equally in a gender-neutral way. Power comes from within. No amount of awareness, education or law can 'impose' liberation if one is not self-motivated to fight against the evils of injustice.


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missjenn's picture

Hi Sutanuka, Thank you for

Hi Sutanuka,

Thank you for taking the time to write this. These are great solutions! I think solution 9, about accepting women as human beings, is really important. Sometimes, the phrase "women's rights" really bothers me. Why can't we just have human rights? I guess because women and children are more vulnerable, there needs to be a specific focus on women and children. I love Hillary Clinton's quote, "women's rights are human rights."

Thanks again for sharing!

Kind regards,


Sutanuka Banerjee's picture

Thank you

Thank you Jennifer for going through my submission. In Indian context 'Women's rights' signify the need to bridge the gender gap more strongly, because women are lesser than humans. So, I would like to term it as 'Women's Human Rights' :)

I live in my convoluted mind....

Myrthe's picture

Thank you

Thank you for your very comprehensive overview of the situation in India and the solutions you propose. You show very clearly that gender roles both for boys (it's totally okay to grope and touch women in inappropriate places) and for girls (quietly tolerating the harassment out of fear) start at a very young age. I think, and you also show this in the solutions you mention, solutions must not only focus on empowering women and girls, giving them the strength and the courage to stand up against harassment and violence, but also on creating a mindshift in men and boys, teaching them that such behavior is not okay.

Sutanuka Banerjee's picture

Thank you

Thank you for valuing my perception. Yes, assertiveness of women and understanding from men both are simultaneously necessary to combat gender inequality. I totally agree to your point of view.

I live in my convoluted mind....

cmphung's picture


Thank for your writing this article. I can tell that you have given this much thought. With the recent news of the gang rapes in India, it reaffirms the need for change to happen immediately. It is a comment on our society where women must hide themselves, be fearful of being in a crowd and being assaulted. I think you present some great solutions but I also think that we need to educate men. Women are not objects, we are human.

Thank you for your strength and courage to write about this and make a stand.

Charlene Phung MPH

Thanks for reading my viewpoint. I always think about it because these feelings overpower my heart and mind. Sometimes I am angry, disgusted, distraught, agitated but I have always been proud to be a woman.

Transformation of male perception of a female body is the need of the hour.

Although there are series of gang rapes, we refuse to be dissuaded and dominated by systematic violence.

Change has to come from within and every individual has an important part to play.

Best Regards,


I live in my convoluted mind....

ola.mahadi's picture

very intersting post

Thank you for your effort in puting this in here very intersting eye opning post.

It is never too late to try make your way to your dream and left up your expectation.
Sudanes Women Building Peace

Gender Equality, love and peace :)


I live in my convoluted mind....



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